What would you do if the person you are having an affair with decided to end their marriage to be with you but

cindra

Well, that's unsual! You seem smarter than the average female who gets themselves in this mess---this is interesting. I have to now assume that you realize that these types of relationships really don't have positive outcomes. I'm impressed. The only thing you can do is dump him.

jay k

You just wanted to break up a happy home? In the future get your own man.

Kate

WHAT!?! You had an affair and wrecked someone's marriage and family for NOTHING!?

laceylanexxx

how else can i state this HOMEWRECKER I hope she gets you back

Connie D

The fun over just cuz he'll be single????????
Lost the excitement, huh?

just bored

yea right ...why else are YOU the OTHER woman....

ScSpec

If you were honest with him and never told him you expected him to leave his wife, then you have no reason to be concerned. It was his choice, and he wouldn't have been having an affair if his marriage wasn't on the rocks anyway. So now he is free to do what he wants, just don't lead him on and end up married to someone you don't love.

dillsweetlady1

well you should be very honest and up front with the person and tell him that its not really what you wanted and you would like to keep it how it is and you're not ready for a total commitment just yet, besides you're cheating with a married man and the grass may not be as greener with you as it may be with his wife.

sarah B

WOW sounds like you are in a bit of a pickle... But if he wanted to leave his wife he would have done it with or without your assistance.. you should let him know that you don't want to be with him though and then leave him alone so he can hopefully save his marriage with his wife...SB

Mita

Are you serious? Why have an affair with a married man? What were you getting out of this? Now, that he wants to be committed with you, you don't want the headache. You liked the fun but when it gets serious you want to bow out. What a web we weave!!!! I wish women would learn to respect peoples marriage and leave married men and women alone.

Mickey V

Your screwed bigtime. If your going to cheat make sure they are single.

Ember Halo

well, for one i wouldn't do that, but if i did i'd have been upfront with the guy from the get go...

you're just gonna have to buck up & finally be straight with him

olderwiser100

oops. sometimes that does happen, not often, but sometimes. so he ended his marriage to be with you, and you don't want him? sounds like he is on his own on this one. after all, he got involved, made a decision, but apparently failed to see how you felt about it all. bet he checks with his next affair-mate first :):):):):):):)

snowyniner

My boyfriend left his wife for me and I wouldn't change a thing.

SWEETYPI

You should have thought about this before you started having an affair.

How selfish are you?? If you are married you had better tell your spouse and start figuring out what you are going to do.

free_angel

I'd tell them I decided I don't want them afterall.

everybody should be happy

really? knowing that he / she is married and you have an affair with him / her still? you don't make any sense because you know already that he/she is married why would you have an affair with him/her in the first place knowing that eventually will affect his/her marriage? why would you say you don't want it to happen? you are contradicting yourself. duh!

Nancy M.

If you don't want to be with the person after they end their marriage then you need to let the person know that it is over before it gets any worse. Most people who cheat while they're married want to end their marriage so they can end up together and sometimes marry.

Mae' Grace [OneWayThunder]

You don't have affairs, simple. There, problem solved. If you stay with the person you had in the first place and they stayed with the person they were with in the first place everything would be ok. Since you are both clearly cheaters, in my opinion, psh, I HOPE YOU TWO HAVE TO PAY FOR THE CONSEQUENCES! Cheating is wrong and hurts many people. Hmm, but maybe you'll think about the situation a little harder next time. :]

C_DOGG

Tell them, maybe it will prevent them from leaving. At least prevent them from leaving to start a relationship with you. Some people just can't go with the flow!!!!

Nikki G

i guess you should tell them

cwazy!!!!!!!

I would tell them I wasn't expecting it, and I hope they were leaving their marriage for the right reason. Meaning, they are leaving their marriage to be happier as an individual, not just to be with me.

After all is said and done, it is their choice. Just make sure he understands you are not asking him to do anything. You have no expectations of him and he should not have any of you.

He can't expect you to take the place of his wife or be his new partner straight away. Just because he is divorced does not change your relationship with him, make sure he knows that.

livinhapi

so be honest and tell him/her that you don't want it to be that way!! period no ifs and buts!!!

lbtrusting

Why are you messing with a married man? And trust me he's not leaving his wife she got smart and threw his nasty a@s to the curb.Now you deserve each other both scum.

Mark C

Wow...if they haven't yet announced that to their spouse, you need to quickly get them over it and end the affair.
If they have then I'd suggest you ensure they understand they are not going to end up with you so they may want to consider asking their spouse to take them back...great question...

casper

Did you Ever Mention to Him that you Didn't want THAT?! You Need to let Him know that you aren't leaving your Marriage, and you may have to come clean with your spouse so the "Lover" doesn't stir up anything. Good Luck !!!

craig b

You wanted to play in the big leagues - you're in!

ng l

leave them alone.

IDTAS

Leave them alone ASAP before they tell on you!

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