What would you do if this happened?

MY mom and dad have been together for 18 years..
I'm 14. Throughout these 18 years he has cheated on her multiple times.
The last full blown affair he had was with a woman he met on "Married but Looking" The had been together for over 5 years. My mom knows about all of the relationships and has tried to divorce him on more than one occasion but, he always cries and says he loves her and only her and blah blah blah ect. Any ways recently he has moved out to a house down the road from us. He said he did it so him and my mom could "date" and be like they used to be but now he has free range and privacy to do all the dating he wants. My mom even made a myspace account of another girl and he wanted to meet her.. Well you can guess what happened next.. I'm sick of him. I know he is my dad but i can't live like that. My mom would believe him over me any day so if i tell her something i heard and he says he didn't do it then guess who she takes sides with. Any ways my point is "What would you do in this situation?"

ndm1958

I really feel for you to have a dad like that. It appears that your mom feels like she is not worthy of another man or she is afraid to start over. You yourself there there is nothing you can do to help your mom to decide to divorce him that is here decision. You said your mom has tried to divorce him before but he has always talked her out of it which means she lives in bubble that she believes he will change not matter what he does. What might work is to tell your mom you need to see a counselor because of the stress your da is causing in your life and tell her that you want her to come along for support. While with the counselor your mom might listen to them more and start asking questions to help her decide that getting a divorce is the right thing to do. I wish you the very best and please take care of yourself you are the most important person in your life.

Itsatushy

Stay out of it. it is not you relationship. I know its hard cus they are your parents but they are humans and it is up to them. it sounds like they both have issues with commitment and relationships. Your mom too for being and enabler. live your life and let them deal with there issues. do you want then in the middle of your relationships when you are in your own home making your own living?

Butt out of their love life and worry about your schooling and your friends.

Bobbi :)

Just let your parents work things out.
you shudnt hate your dad for cheating on your mom.
Its a horrible thing to do but that doesnt mean he Loves YOU any less.
people make Bad decisions.. im sure he feels bad for what he has done.
Maybe Him and your mom shud go to some type of relationship therapist?
Maybe that would help.

la.ti.da

welp girly welcome to the real world and ways of how people really are! I dont blame you at all for saying you cant live like that, etc... and honestly this whole situation is a learning thing for you because aslong as you retain all this knowledge , it will help out later in life when men are in yours and your feelings are involved. LEARN from there mistakes sweetie! i was 7 when my parents serperated, but my father worked out of town for very longs periods of time and well after the many trips to visit our dadyy, it wasnt long before my mom and all of us noticed this car always leaving right as we are entering, a lady might i add, and i wish to god i would have been old enough to stand up to my dad and tell him exactly what i thought of him.

if i were you, i would tell your mom that im your daughter and i hear things when you arent around and i love you and i wont tell you something that isnt true or fact! and tell her all you know, even if she is like i dont want to talk, scream the crap to her.

u should tell your dad, that you love him for being your dad, but cant stand him as a person expecially since you are hearing and seeing all this crap!

but to be blunt, there isnt anything YOU can actually DO to make things better. you just need to know they love you! and there problems are not because of you, but because they cant control themselves or anything in there life!

and maybe you should make it a point to tell BOTH OF THEM FACE TO FACE, is this the right way on how to treat someone that you love after almost a lifetime togehter, and be as sarcastic about it as you can when you say , you both sure are great examples. sometimes people need to be put in a spot that makes them retract and rethink things you know!
good luck sweetie!

cytang8

Sorry dear, you can't change them. Don't talk about one parent to another, especially if your mother won't believe you. You can move out when you're 18. Until then, you can learn from them. There are two things parents can teach their kids, what to do and what NOT to do. Learn from their mistakes.

I suggest you pick up a sport or physical activity that will keep you out of the house everyday and when you come home you're exhausted and go to sleep. The less time you spend around them might be better for you. Exercise helps to relieve stress and depression.

Im just answering your question!

Well unfortunately there is nothing any of us could do..at the end of the day it is up to them and if they are happy with how thats going then maybe it could work for them.
If it is causing you stress or anything then maybe talk to your parents about seeing a family counsellor, you need to let them know how it is affecting you..alot of the time adults are (sadly) blinded by the fact that what they do affects their kids

tigersfan01

talk 2 ya mum and say what you just typed......

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