What would you do if this was happenig to you?

pcchocoholic

Yikes, sticky situation. As a 33 yr old woman I don't think I'd tell mom. Obviously she already has enough stress with her medical condition. Maybe approach Dad about what you think is going on and let him know that you dont' approve. Again, this depends on your age also. Maybe talk to a trusted friend or family member. Someone who knows you AND them would be able to help better than someone who is truly a stranger to the situation. Hope things improve.

just curious

keep your mouth shut. but for the record, the wife always knows when she is being cheated on. so your mom is probably aware of it.

Goldenrae9

Why don't you talk to your dad? Tell him you know and you think it is pretty lousy that he has put you in the middle. That may help you. Head on confrontation is usually a good solution.

Dr who

Mom is sick don't damage her anymore,have a talk with dad,and another thing mom might have told dad to start going out because she knows she can't do what she use to do,sad but some times this happens.

bibliophile31

Talk to your Dad and tell you you know, and that you are dissapointed in him. Maybe he'll see that he's setting a really bad example for you, and quit.

Katrina

You should definetely talk to your dad about it.

przhm247

Dad is being Cold-blooded!

He is acting on the fact that Mom can't be and do the things that she used to!

This is sad!

susie

That is a difficult position for you to be in. Sorry to hear that your Dad has put you in the middle of it. You could try talking to your dad about it and let him know that you are very uncomfortable about it. If that does not help go talk to your minister or someone close to you to see how they think you should handle this.

Switch

Oh lord....do not tell your mom.
I know it sounds bad but she is going through a tough time with life she doesnt need any added stress.

little-fingers

how old are you?
If you are older, Talk to your dad, but don't tell your mom.
let him do as he feels, your mom needs the support.
even from a cheating husband.
I am sorry for your situation and good luck

Do be quiet. It can only back fire. Your mom probably knows anyway.

luckystar

im sorry to say but you should not get involved in this matter
this is between your father and mother..but if you are closed'
to your father may be you can talk to him and find out what
is really going on.

superwomen

I say leave it alone it is never wise to get in the middle of anyones marriage even if they are your parents

THE COUNSELOR

TALK TO YOUR DAD AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL

d__

sorry to hear you are in such a situation.

You could talk with your father and let him know how do you feel.

jeannette2780

He may still love your mom, but he is still a man. I would mind my own business until you know what it's like having to go through what your dad is. It's much easier to say what you think you would do in his shoes or what is right. With all due respect to your mother, you can't imagine what this is doing to him.

Anna

Whatever you do, don't tell your mom. She either already has a clue about it but if she doesn't know, telling her could only upset her more and you don't need to cause any more undue pain for her, especially since she has MS.

If this is bothering you a lot, try talking to your dad first and tell him how you feel.

you should definitely not keep ur mouth shut if u love ur mom u should stick up for her..u can always talk to ur dad about the situation and tell him that he should stop what hes doing or get a divorce i know it sounds bad but if hes not happy in the marriage anymore he should just leave i think it will hurt her more if he kept seeing that other woman.

Dotr

Ms is a dibilitating disse!! ur father may be doing the best he can to deal. Ppl can & do die of ms!! i dont believe i could approve if they ever married. Go to some cousiling.

the Boss

I'd probably keep my mouth shut, but I'd resent my father for doing that.

grizleygal

What a tough spot your in. Please talk to your dad before you do any thing else. Let him have a chance to explain and you tell him your feelings about the situation. Dont keep it to yourself it will lead to lots of resentment and bad feeling towards your father. Be honest with him and if what you think happened happened than you have every right to be upset with your dad.

may92

id tell your mom your dad has no right to go that to her and if your dad hates you then just remember you love him and that will never change

fluffteam

How about telling your dad to STOP.
If he says no, suggest him to get a divorce or something.

Hope this helps!

Rach

Hmm.. difficult situation.. are you SURE that your dad is seeing someone else?

Katykins

It is tough when a child (regardless of age) gets caught in the middle of something like this. It will do your mother no good to hear this from you, and your relationship with your dad will deteriorate also. I would not say anything to your mother, but I WOULD tell your father how you feel. Ultimately, even as much as it is hurting you, this is a situation between your mother and father and I do not see how your getting involved in it will help ANYONE involved. Keep on being the best person you can be for your mother. Maybe distancing yourself from your father may help him realize his behavior is unacceptable.

Anonymous Coward

Oh, wow, that's just awful. Your mom's illness and fragility make this situation even more complicated and painful than it would be otherwise. I think you should talk to your Dad and try to convince him to break off the affair and/or fess up to your Mom. Your Mom has a right to know what's going on, and the longer she's in the dark about things, the more hurt she'll be when she finds out. It should not be your responsibility to clean up your Dad's mess, but he obviously needs to be pushed in the right direction. Shame him into it.

John

I do not know how old you are but please keep your mouth shut. He does need someone to talk to about his situation.
Things like this will get better if you give it time. Remember... you do not know the situation you will be in in the near future.
Saying something could make matters worse. If I were you I would warm up to your dad...possibly he will confide in you.

Ericka

Your father made a promise to your mother when they married....to take care of her and love her in sickness and health. It is not your mother's fault she is ill. Your dad has put you in a very bad position. I would tell your dad he that you will give him 24 hours to tell her or you will. I really feel bad for you to be put in this type of situation. If your dad no longer wants to be in the marriage, then he should file for divorce and not just cheat on your mother behind her back...that is LOW.

Peglife

Honey this is a very uncomfortable situation. Talk to your Dad about this matter. Let him know how much this makes you feel like you are stuck in the middle and that you are thinking about telling your Mom. You might be surprised to find out what your Dad has to say.

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