What would you do if you found this on your hubby's PC?

Martin M

This is why fantasizing about other women in ones mind is wrong. When one has a thought that comes to mind, which will lead to infidelity, they entertain that thought, then they move on to acting on that fantasy.

I am sorry to see that his wife is not his ultimate fantasy. Self control is the order of the day here along with self respect and without that he cannot respect you as you are seeing now. I don't care what excuses he will come up with a vow was made and your marriage is sacrosanct. He should be respecting that even if it was him on an island alone with a woman for the rest of his life.

I am glad to see you have all of your supporting documentation on hand. You need to do what is best for you. If you have not confronted him on it yet, you need to do that now, It will help you in determining what course you take in your decision making process; whatever it may be.

I am sorry to see that you and your marriage have been disrespected and if you have children they have been disrespected as well. I would value my wife as I do my own life.

I wish you well and hope the best for you.

Take care

Cary Grant

You should talk to him about it. If you are not satisfied with the answer, you should consider separating. You are a good girl and you deserve a good man.

gambia_joy

This is a tough one. It's easy for others to tell you to get rid of him, but he's your husband - not just some guy you are dating. It sounds like he really lacks maturity. Let him know how you feel and how hurtful his behavior is. When he returns from deployment you MUST get marital counseling. The military pays for it, so don't worry about the cost.

sugarbdp1

Tell him how U feel.I went thru this with my husband years ago.He never went thru his promises I e-mailed the girl back & she didn't like it needless 2 say it ended very quickly.He also told her that he loved her lol.she even sent him $250 cash to go to Penn & I got the mail & omg I spent the money & I told her I did she was mad omg but hey he's married she should of known better,try contacting these women & tell them your situation they might leave him alone it worked 4 me.Good Luck

kagetatewaki

Well, it's a good thing he's deployed. When you get the paperwork filed, make sure you send him a care package containing printed copies of all the emails you found.

Though if it's this far gone, he prob won't care. Sorry, babe. My heart goes out to you. Now go get half of his assets.

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GET AWAY NOW...

Save yourself now before its too late (its already too late).

Not worth it.

chichigirl_007

I think you should just leave him and move on. I did and my life has never been better. If you have children, don't hang on because of them, it only hurts them in the long run.

notyou311

No, being in Iraq is no excuse. He is a dirty rotten cheater. I'd tell him off and see what he has to say. Frankly, I wouldn't be able to trust him after that and would have to move on without him.

jercha

Move on

Jen G

File for divorce

tool

ya, get out! if it feels wrong it is wrong. he is basically cheating on you.

Missylicious

Hi, Holly....you need to talk to him and tell him what you found.....you need to address this and make him understand that its wrong, maybe he's so used to being away from home for so long that he doesn't know how to act as a husband. Ask him what it is he wants from "cyber affairs" as he's got you at home.

Dear, you've only been married less than a year, you need to make the most of your marriage at the beginning!

gypsywife2b

When were these conversations taking place? was it before or after you were married? I would definately discuss this issue with your husband or atleast have a go at him for it. Also the comment you made about him freaking out if you go to the store sounds like he likes to be in control and has some big insecurities. Perhaps he has a large dose of paranoia considering if he finds it so easy to cheat then perhaps you could meet someone on your way to the store. Having said all that finding out your spouse is cheating strips you of all your securities, makes you question yourself, trust flies out the window and suspicion takes over. No man is worth the pain and heartache even if he says he'll never do it again they usually do.
I wish you luck and hope that I have provided you with some help. Life is too short to sacrifice your own happiness.

Hot Belfast

it's hard to know, I have a lot of friends I e-mail but i will NEVER meet them

curious

Don't do what he's doing, it'll only add to the problem & it'll make you look bad. If he's telling other girls he loves them, plans on meeting them, and talking dirty with them, he will probably cheat if he hasn't already. It doesn't matter where he's at, this is disrespectful to you. He also sounds controlling & when a guys gets controlling, he then becomes abusive. Does he know you know about all of this? If not, tell him. I think that you probably will not beable to trust him & I think you should get a divorce, the sooner you move on, the better.

skawp

I think that he is utterly wrong for doing what he does, but I am not trying to judge anyone. Sounds like he has already committed himself to be a player before you married. Most Soldiers over seas who are newly weds long for their wives and are in turn slightly possessive, because they have no control or status of the woman who is left behind. This guy however is using you as a security blanket. Don't turn the tables. Better yourself and if your really considering going out on that limb you may as well justify this through a divorce. You will be glad you did, if you do so. If you don't and decide that you want to play and keep your marriage active, then be aware of the consequences it renders.

loveable_leo03

First of all marriage is suppose 2 be a sacred bond u know love honor and cherish blah blah blah If he's doin all that stuff end it now to me it's sounds as though u have put ur all into ur marriage and obviousley he has'nt there's alot of fish in the sea move on live ur life 2 the fullest and be happy good luck n take care

love me like me hate me

move on girlfriend is not going to get any better.

lloydgberry

get out, he is not worth you and you will never change him, trust me, my sister was in the same place as you and it got ugly.

Luisa

Move way on.

Robin S

Talk to him about it....if that doesnt work talk to me about it:)

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*BooTz*

Him being in Iraq is not an excuse. i think you should explain to him what you found wait for the respond he gives you and if YOU (not somebody else ) think it reasonable give it a chance but if not screw him. You can find someone that will respect you.

silver

Tell him its over, I don't give a damn what war he is fighting in, marriage vows are marriage vows, they don't end when you cross state lines or country lines, if he wanted naked pics you could have sent them!

rdhedhottie

He is lonely and in a desolate place. You have friends, he doesn't. I know my guy is there. The internet is the only way for him to communicate with the outside world.

Yes, definately tell him what you know and if he can't wait for you. tell him you can't wait for him and you will file for a divorce immediately.

We are just as lonely as they are, and they sometimes forget that. But he does need to be made aware that you aren't going to sit there and be made a fool.

The military has strict rules about adultry, and he could find himself in big trouble.

free_angel

Hard telling what else he is doing behind your back. Divorce him, you don't have to go through this with anyone.

berry

With the concrete evidence you have all the right to divorce him. No loss there.

laura

You need to move on... it's a cycle he won't be able to break.

Pildi

Dump him before you waste another year of your life w/a loser!

â™ªMsz. Nenaâ™«

You know, a great deal of people think it's okay when a man in Iraq, or on duty for that matter, acts in an inappropriate way and talks dirty or cheats with other women.
I say, just because they're in the line of duty and are risking their lives, doesn't give them the benefit to go out and be unfaithful, to commit a sin, to shatter someones heart.
You're a wife that has managed not to cheat as you sit alone surrounded by men wherever you go. You've stuck to your vows as a promising wife. He, however, wants to "meet' women and says he loves them... you shouldn't be with this man.
His work effort is fabulous, I applaud him for fighting for his country. However, his husband status is horrible, he doesn't deserve a second chance, he's unfaithful. Cheaters will always be cheaters. And, at that, you've only been married a YEAR! It isn't your fault he's far away, he chose to do that, so he shouldn't be trying to fulfill his fantasies any other way!

morgan k

You should def. divorce him because you are going to suffer if you stay with him because you know he will be flirting with other girls and possibly cheating on you. Break it up now girl or your heart will be broken.

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