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fajita
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He was just making a joke..a lot of couples say things like that..you should learn to lighten up. |
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?????
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Wait until his business takes off and then divorce his *** and talk half of everything... |
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peace
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Phone his bank manager, tell him what happened and wait for an interesting outcome. |
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Beejee
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Sounds as though you are better fixed financially than he...If his business is flourishing he may dump you soon. You could be 'one-up' by GIVING him the thirty and a saucey, "Ta-Ta". |
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KayAlley
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sounds like to me he's only happy with you as long as you are getting his business off and running and once he gets his business off and running you didn't stay by him good enough so you are gone in his eyes. He probably doesn't think you supported him enough while he wanted to use you. Very disapointing to hear i am sure i'd confront him big time. I'd like to add that you need to keep money hid and keep on top of this. Now that i see you've added he's still friends with HER well that puts things in different light. I think he is looking for an excuse to be rid of you and for an excuse that it didn't work out between the two of you.. talk to him nad lay everything on the table don't be scared to piss him off as if it does than its already worth being over. |
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Why not me
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Always remember the same people you see going up, will be the same people you see coming down. So if he's that motivated by money, he'll see how far it will get him by getting you out of his life. |
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Liquid
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if he asked u to lend him 30 pounds, then he probably wont do any profit from his business |
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onlygrammaheart
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start stashing the cash and anything else you can don't be empty handed if that ever happened. be sure all is in both your names sign nothing unless you read it first |
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♥Lasha♥
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Maybe he was just joking, it depends on the tone of his voice & the kind of relationship that you have with him. |
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Katie S
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Got a phone directory? Does it have a listing for divorce attorneys?
Conveniently leave it open to that page sometime where he can see it. If it was a joke on his part, this should open his eyes enough.
And if you think he was serious, then don't stop at just looking up their numbers. |
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lavix
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i would start by making sure your able to cope without him n then get rid of him before he pulls you down. you wouldnt lend him 30 quid what a **** reason to end a marriage, if you forgive it you'll need to assess wether you really could trust him to stick around if his business did get off the ground. good luck |
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di d
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Please get away from this horrible man. He is preventing you from enjoying your life. You work in mental health and deal with challenging behaviour, Do not for a moment confuse your role at work with your rights at home he is not one of your clients. . Stop feeling sorry for him and start thinking you deserve better. Use your hard earned money to build a better future for yourself. |
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missinquisitive
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divorce him and take everything you can...start moving money to another account, perhaps in someone elses name so he has no claim on it..start planning and you can show him how it feels to be hurt, in the only way it seems it will affect him. bear in mind people can say things they dont mean but if hes always like this, please go find someone who appreciates you. you deserve it. |
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ConfusedWife
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Ask him if you can borrow £30. When he says no, threaten to "get him out of your life." See if he likes a taste of his own medicine. :-)
Seriously, though, it sounds as though your husband is a poor financial manager. If he makes more money, why should he need to borrow money from you? Where is his money going? You need to take more control over the finances so that this doesn't happen again.
I agree with most of the people on this board. Confront him. Use his responses to guide any additional actions. Preparing for a divorce may be necessary. Marriage counselling may be necessary. Financial counselling may be necessary. Above all, make sure to arrange matters so that his actions (financial or otherwise) cannot completely destroy your life.
Also note that, if the £1200 loan you mentioned had anything to do with his business, you are an investor and therefore entitled to part of his profit. |
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WENDY G
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He could be talking sh*t with the boys...all men seem to have this factor. Of course he could be serious too, you should confront him and dump him! |
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Michelle R
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Did he say it while you were nearby and he knew it? If so, did it seem like a joke?
If not, I would have a major problem and confront him immediately. |
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melly
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ur partner sounds "alot" like my ex husband ... a control freak who see's him self as so hard done by that he lets the world know that ur not the wife "he thinks" u should be leaving u feeling like a piece of worthless crap, dont doubt urself hun and dont let him run u into the ground with mind games, deep down u know he's wrong and can do better, good luck hun hope u work it out. ( oh and doesnt it show u, if he can say that about £30 he can say it about anything ? take care, (should also tell u after i got shot of him i found a great man some time later who knows i wouldnt take it again, not that he would lol |
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Jennifer J
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Sounds to me like he is playing mr.cool with his friends. in reality, without you he would probably sink.
you need to ask him why he said that, calmly, do not get upset and after he answers, your gut feeling will tell you what you need to know.
sounds like he is being a gerk. |
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Kia Sister 1- DUCK
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Just be on your guard. I like the suggestion of waiting until he gets his business going and then file for divorce, or let him do it, then you look like the victim. In the meantime prepare yourself. Find out who the best attorney in town is and find out how much his retainer is and start saving- open a checking account that your hubby doesn't know about and put the money there. Also save up for living expenses, so that when you only have one income you can survive. Pay off any bills and any credit cards that you have, so that you are not stapped with all of that after the divorce.
Now if it happens that you misunderstood what he said (unlikely, but maybe) then you can tell him that you have been putting money away for a vacation. He does not need to know what you were planning.
If you were married, why would you loan him money anyway? Don't you operate on the same funds, like most normal married people do? If that is the case, then it was not a loan.
But anyone, if he is so shallow, that he would dump you over $30 then you will be better off.
I would just say, start planning now. Do research on laws consult attorneys,and have a plan of attack when he is ready. |
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gigglezdelight
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leave his a** that is completely messed up dont take that from him |
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i'd tell him hes an ***, then leave him and take him for everything you can |
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Mickey
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me? i'd cry me eyes out and cry openly infront of him, telling him i heard every word. then id dump him!! ^_^ |
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not sure
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personally i would slap him or confront him about it. no doubt it was jus a joke but its not fuuny to you. its up 2 u what you do tho
good luck |
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luci
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ok that sounds harsh, did you hear the conversation out of context or was it said in a jokey way, i think men talk like this alot and think they are funny or the big man infront of friends, my boss is always making remarks about his wife, "like when i win the lottery ill get rid off her get myself a hot 21 yr old" and things like that, i know he does not mean half of what he says and finds it amusing. i however find him ignorant and disrespectfull. Of course your angry by a remark like this but if you normally just let things go then take it as a joke (a bad one at that) and try and forget about it, he may have just been annoyed about (the 30 quid) incident and was just reacting in a angry nasty way because he felt small having to ask for and being denied the money, so he was trying to big himself up to his friends and didnt actually mean it., But if you really feel deep down that he was speaking the truth then you have to try confronting him about it and maybe make a very hard decision and leave before he decides hes doing well enough at work to get rid of you. ultimately its down to you to decide how much that remark affected you and make a decision. goodluck |
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Sexy-n-Hot
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He sounds like a real a##. If he earns more money and still has to borrow money from you. But wait that doesn't sound right either if you are married then it shouldn't be your money and his money it should be both of yours together. Being married means sharing everything. |
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Noadonis
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Kick his a-r-s-e out the door. |
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flump
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If he earns more money than you why is he asking to lend money..... where is his money going to. Cut your losses and find someone who appreciates you and loves you no matter what job you do |
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â„¢Spacemanâ„¢
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he's right, i would do the same |
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nicole t
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Leave him a.s.a.p save up money and get out you will find better. |
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JC
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Id tell him I heard what he said and now he can leave anytime he wants (then throw the amount of money he asked for in his face).
BTW, is that a lot? |
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jamocha_1700
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He is a petty man and you two need to talk because if that's all it takes to break up your marriage then he needs to see a therapist. |
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