What would you do if you knew your mom was cheating? what should i do!?

mjslove07

My mom cheated on my dad, and my brother found out before my dad did.
My brother went straight up to my dad, talked to him about how he felt, what he found out, and everything worked out perfect in the end.

Yeah, your dad will be sad, and probably try to turn to drinking again, but that's where YOU come in. You stay with your dad, and help him through the hard times, and everything will be perfectly fine.

Well you could take a chance and tell your Father now or wait for him to find out on his own. I would say talk to your mom and explain to her how you feel and give her the chance to tell him first and if she doesnt go to your Father and tell him but if he is sober I would advise maybe talking to him if his sponsor is over or someone else he is in sobriety with to be there for him.

Ludog

Tell really tell. Look why should your dad put up with a women who is using him for every penney he has. So he will get a divorce it is better that he is not with a women who cheats on him.

luvtochasecows

Your dad has suspicions, and he's not dumb. He knows what is going on and he's choosing to stay married for one reason or another, or waiting for the right time to divorce. I would not say anything to my dad if I were you. However, I'm afraid I'd be the type to make subtle hints to my mom that she was not being a good mother, not teaching proper behaviors and that she was acting like a sleaze. But, that's just me!

Jaime

Just tell him, otherwise he's a fool.

manda TTC baby #1<3

Tell your mom you know what she is up too, and if it doesnt stop you are going to tell your dad. Maybe then she will feel bad and either stop the affair, or she may tell your dad yourself. But i do feel that your dad should know, it is not fair to keep him in the dust. But then again you dont want to ruin his sobrity either. If i were in your shoes i would tell your dad. Then be there to support him. He deserves so much better. YOu cant hold on to this burden forever. Please tell someone! Dont let this ruin your life. Its not your fault, your mom did this to herself.

Lolli

I was in a situation like this before with my family and I chose to tell. And I told on my dad to my step mom. i still think my dad is lying but whatever. BUT... Being that i have been here b4 I think you should talk to your mom about it. She will probably deny it. But maybe they are just friends and the sweetheart comment was intended how they say it in the south for example. BUT... you have to think of what you want to happen. if you tel, your dad might start drinking again, if you don't he will be hurt if he finds out you knew. I would start by talking to your mom. Also, yor mom will be mad at you fro snooping. So no one cantell you what to do, you just have to think of the outcome of all situations and decide what one will ultimately be the best for whoever you care the most about whether it's you, your mom, or dad. Maybe you could tell your mom to stop or you will tell your dad.

The answerman

Mhm i would say tlk with ur mom serously and if she wants to divorce well let her because then ur dad wont be looking dumb its better to have them away and happy than seeing ur mom laughing and him suffering. So u decide

bobby

tell your dad to call bill clinton for advise.

kenny

well i would make some smart *** comments to my mom. hah not actuly admiting that you know. but just hint that you do. and that it is reall wrong. mabey shell relize your right and stopp cheatoing before it hurts you or your faimly. i wish i was old enought to stop my parents when they gto divorced

Matt

well you should talk to your mom about this and whats going on. then after that if she doesn't admit to it then talk to your dad about it and pray to god that you can help him stay sober through the whole thing.
dont worry everything will hopefully be okay :-)

O2BQuiteRite

I don't know your age, but I guess that doesn't really matter. This is just a sad situation for you. We all want to think our mothers are above reproach, and we all want to believe that our parents are happy together. For you to have evidence that your mom is cheating is a heavy burden. But, don't unload on your dad. He's apparently trying very hard to kick and addiction, and he doesn't need this on his plate right now. If he suspects there is something wrong, he should be the one to talk with his wife, your mother. But, certainly, there's nothing stopping you from telling your mother that you know for a fact that she is seeing someone and that it is inexcusable to you. Tell her if she continues with this behavior, she will alienate herself from you, that you don't want a cheating mother as a role model. Lay the guilt on her, so that she wakes up! Good luck with this. I feel so badly for you.

cheessy

ur in a tough situation i would say that u first talk it over with your mom it might not be what u think and then if u tell ur dad he might hate her b4 she has a chance to explain herself and ur parents will be seperated cuz of u

Katie P

you're in a tough situation, if you tell your dad he might go back to drinking because of the hurt your mom has caused him, but if you don't tell him and he finds out he might blame you for not telling him.well I think if you sit him down and explain to him that you think you mom is seeing someone and let him know you are there for him and drinking again is not the answer, maybe he will understand.but if your mom is cheating I think it should be her that tells your dad not you. maybe you can convince your mom to tell your dad. it's really hard to give advice to someone in your shoes. I wish you all the best,

christian

confront your mom and tell her she has to stop and maybe she will and then you won't have to tell your dad and your family can stay together.

judy L

I don't think your mom should do something like that and make your dad sad! I rather help ya out so here is something...

Talk to your mom about it and make her break up with Paul.. Its not fair to your dad so spit it out to her. If she breaks up with him and deletes him from her cell phone and everything, say you're proud of her and give her a hug.. Tell your dad what happend but dont tell anything like if your mom kissed him dont tell that just say " mom was dating someone when she knew she wasn;t suppose to do and now she hate whatever Paul has done, and give dad and mom a hug if your dad is not angry and will not divorce ;) before you talk to him say it kind've sad and say at the end of the sentence i told you say "Will you please get back together?" If you dont get them to tellt hem how sad you feel and how you might want to cry if you guys divorced.

BeeGirl

Don't tell him, at least for now. His sobriety is the most important thing right now and this would probably ruin that.

No, it is not fair to your dad, I totally agree, but give him some time to get stable and confident with sobriety; maybe he and your mom will get things straight in the meantime.

Good luck hon.

Gutta Chick

Dnt get involved

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