What would you do if your husband cheated on you?

imtami75

If he did it once, he crossed that line and would do it again. He would just be more careul that you didn't find out. It would be time to end the relationship.

misbehave4me

Unless you have lived through this then your answers are worthless - no-one knows how they will react to this unless they have faced it. All the ''I'd leave him'' comments........very easily said, much more difficult to do. Life is not so black and white.

Everyone can make mistakes - ''once a cheater always a cheater'' is clearly rubbish as people can change. To throw away a long marriage over one mistake (of any description) is ridiculous and shows an enormous lack of understanding and compassion.

Cheating is not right - but it does happen to good people (both cheating and being cheated upon) - if you think otherwise you're a complacent fool (especially the person who says it will never happen).

Stefka

Everyone will tell you that they would throw him out and get divorced. That's the first initial reaction to finding out our spouse has cheated. The ultimate betrayal and only reason to get divorced according to the bible.

However, no one can tell another person what to do in a situation like this as there are reasons why some folks stay married and forgiveness is possible.

This is a decision that has to be made by the individual and true family and friends will respect and support (and not judge) any decision you make.

Good luck.

amri

get rid of him...its not acceptable...

jim_boss2000

Divorce is easy....working it out should at least be considered.

srjmhottie17

Beat him, then castrate him, then take his credit cards and go shopping (you're still married, it's not really theft) and then divorce the scumbag

wish I were

He did and I left him and got divorced!

kitkat

Kick him to the curb. I have too much respect for myself to put up with that....

KANGA

Depends how much he means to you. Use it as an excuse to move on with your life or, as my mum did (and it's worked out), stay and work it out. Find out where you both have gone wrong and take it from there. Depends also if your husband is desperately sorry because he did what he did or if he just got caught!!

Reason for the affairs my father was because he wanted to escape the financial difficulty my parents had. To take himself off to pastures new instead of sorting out his problems. I dont' condone what he did however I can sympathise with him now. It sometimes can be a means of escape of something deeper!

maddie xx

id be gutted and id would kick him out but if i thought we were worth saving id give it another go !

NURSING FOR LIFE!!

Once I got over the urge to stabb him to death, I would want to know exactly what role I played in him making such a foolish mistake. Why he thought cheating was a way to resolve our issues.Then I would have to decide if the marriage was worth salvaging.

mrs.new_major_07

Cut his balls off!!!

honey

I would stop trusting him.

rachellou

I`d kick him out.

April

Betrayal is THE dealbuster, hon. What would I do? He did, and I ended immediately an 18 year marriage. No way was I staying, and didn't. Walked away, gone, over. Moved to another state, and found the prince.

clare w

Be totally devastated but would definitely move on and start afresh :)

Taylor

get a divorce...he doesnt care about you that much if he id goin to cheat on you

nutshell

Kick him out

Pink Laydee

I'd be devastated. I'd leave him and my brother would probably kill him for me. I'd max out his cards first though - why not??

ERICKSMAMA

Beat his ***...Make him remember me...and leave him forever...Cheating is unacceptable.

tinamon357

I would be angry and hurt at first.I believe that everything happens for a reason.I would have to turn the negative into a positive by revenging him and ruining him in every possible area of his life.

Nothing but the truth...!!

I could sit here and write out my feeling on this but misbahavin hit the nail on the head. I always said I would NEVER stay with a cheater and of course my husband NEVER had intentions of cheating. After 12 yrs of marriage it happened. I did not leave or kick him out. We worked on our marriage and are coming through just fine (most of the time). You can always tell someone what you think you would do, but until you are faced with the situation...the truth is...you have no idea what you would do.

pescado534

Well, I'm a guy... but looking at it from my perspective, if my wife ever cheated on me (which shouldn't happen if there is any kind of communication), she'd leave with two suitcases and a Greyhound ticket to I could care less where.

LOUIS D

does he know that you know? well if he does i would make his life a living hell

Tally

D-I-V-O-R-C-E. I'd file as soon as I could contact a lawyer! No talking with him, no listening to his lies, no excuses. I'd also make him leave the residence. Bye bye.

tabby261

i would leave him... i told him that before we got married in front of the preacher..and i stand behind it today. he told me once that if i really loved him wouldn't i try to work things out, but i told him my love wouldn't matter seeing as he didn't love me enough to not cheat.

Annie A

WELL....I WOULD CHOP HIS BALLS OFF!!

twinsters

it would be over the second i found out no doubt about it, finished,,,

Suzanne

That all depends upon what you would like to do. You know yourself better than anyone. How do you feel about it? If you are extraordinarily angry and believe that cheating is a forever "trust breaker" and you know that it will diminish your life and close your heart to be with him...well there is your answer. If forgiveness in general is difficult for you then this could be a "deal breaker." Everyone has their own specific limits, and these should not be judged. It is just where their soul is at, and there is no right or wrong.

If you really want to get to the bottom of why, perhaps out of curiosity, perhaps because you love him, and perhaps you think forgivenss is essential, well you have a long journey ahead, but one that could strengthen the bond more, or end it. You would definitely need professional help for this. It will be an emotional, time and financial investment to get to the core of it really. And if you choose this no one should judge you. It is your choice. It is where your soul is at and there is no right or wrong in it.

alonehere88

Hi to anyone if somebody could help me I was cheating from my husband he just cheating me all the last year ...with diferent womans ... i was asking him but he never accepted I was trying to save my marrried beacause i was totally in love with him and no job or house or insurance or any family here just a few friends from us... my daugther was coming with my grandsoon in christhmas , then this is the principal reason i said to him dont leave me alone ...she is coming be with me, please support me ... but he said one day in dic forgetter i''ll leave the house to no make more payments in the rent i want to see you how you are going to do alone ...and i cry and cry like a baby all the las year and all this year .well if some body could help me i dont HAVE a lawyer and somebody told the girlfriend is a paralegal becarefull i dont know what to do PLEASE HELP ME!!!

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