What would you do if your spouce treated you like you're worthless?

Ruthie

divorce

sheloves_dablues

Leave. And take the kids with you.

craig b

I throw in my 2 cents worth here, but I don't have 2 cents.

rivasj27

Leave him..I did..WOW!! Is my life better!!

Poppet

He wouldn't be my husband for much longer.

â™¥Pure Evilâ™¥

Do what I did and leave.

I have 3 kids and no job but I am in the process of changing all that!!

cindra

Leave. Divorce. Take the kids. Get support.

Dog Rescuer

GET OUT NOW or your 4 kids will become victims to people who also treat them as bad if not worse than your husband currently treats you or or they will become the abuser your husband is !!!!

YOUR CHILDREN ARE THE PRIORITY HERE.... FIND A GOOD DIVORCE ATTORNEY FAST...

atcrossroad

I agree you need to leave or better yet have him leave a person needs to be showed love and respect

Alida

The first thing I would do is work on getting my self-esteem in high gear......go to school, lose weight, get a part time job(depends on how old the youngest kid is though)--anything that would make me feel good about myself. To be honest, I am the type of person who would do just that, then plan to leave...by saving money, getting a job, and then finding a place to stay. If you have a spouse that makes you feel worthless--that's emotional abuse and usually does not get better. You can try to talk to him to find out exactly why he does that to you---maybe he doesn't realize he does that, and then there is a chance to work things out. But in general, abuse is abuse.....

God Blezz!!

dear lonely mum.....i felt so sorry for u.life is always unfair, and its never good for us lady, and nothing we ever do will ever be right. but remember, got make u for a purpose. he took his time to create a beautiful person like u to be a lovely wife, and a wonderful mother to love your husband and childrenssss.....(unconditionaly). u are super tough and capable to have 4 kids. cant imagaine having more then one for myself. so, dont give up hope in god, believe that he has created u for a purpose and he is ALWAYS there for u, for anything. just pray and ask and it will be given. i would think, u are going under lots of pressure and test , because HE wants to give u something bigger and more worthy in return. (if u ask for love, god will gives u the opportunity to love). talk to your husband, tell him your feelings (but never blame anything on any one, because he will then get defensive and start arguing). let him know that u misses the old time, the way he used to court u and all the romantic moment u both used to have (such as sharing kisses while washing dishes), this way, he will not feel that u demand or order him to wash dishes(its consider work for man) but more like u misses his kisses.
mayb if u would to explain more in details what u meant by 'treated u like u're worthless', then i could suggest a few related method to help u.
anyway, start by prayers and god bless u. God loves everyone of us!!! and u are definitely worthy to HIM!!

rockindalefan

i am in that place right now,, and it is not that easy leaving when you have no money or family close to help you ,,

Babygirl76

Talk to him about it. See if he is willing to change

Ms Pollyanna

I would tell him to shape up or ship out!

Ms. Invisible

tell him to leave! and if he doesnt then you leave, and take the kids with you!

~SweeT~

first of all you shouldn't allow your spouse to treat you like that. for example if he or she was to tell you that the laundry isn't done to their expectations, then do all the other laundry and leaves them to do their own and then they can't complain about their expectations not being met. But i know over time being treated like you're worthless lowers the self esteem very much. No one ever deserves to be treated like that and especially if their are kids in the household cause they are seeing how daddy treats mom, or vice versa and their are being taught it's okay to treat other like that as they grow older. I would actually leave and take my kids, get counseling to help me realize i am very much worthy and ask the spouse to receive counseling also.

rashida_16

I would leave myself, you deserve so much better... I would take my kids and do bad by myself.

Nurse Cass

FIrst of all, you're not. Second, find out about resources in your area. like welfare, a shelter, get a job or do whatever you need to do to get outta there. The famous saying, if you're scared go to church, they usually help women in your situation.

Bryan M

If I were treated like I were worthless, I'd want out of there fast. Because who would want to be in a relationship where you feel like your not worth anything.

guss99

Consider a divorce, but check out your financial situation and rights when it comes to custody of the children.

gorno

Stop calling them "spouse".

Especially when kids are involved.
Do you want them growing up to think it is OK to treat people badly?

Lead by example.

Respect can not be given; it must be earned.

Sometimes that means tough choices and tough times, but it is always worth it.

stephy

If he abusing you or just doesn't appreciate you.

If it's abuse, get out right away.
If he doesn't appreciate you then leave him with the 4 kids for the weekend and he will appreciate you a lot more when you get back!

Lisa G

Ask him to leave. If he did not, I would take the kids and go stay with a relative or in a shelter.

Check out: NDVH.ORG

You can get help.

wilma s

I left with my children and have totally enjoyed life ever since....Take it from me it is not worth staying...I wish you all the best

kimberly k

i unwittingly did that to my husband, and he left me for another woman. i never appreciated all he did for me, and he did a lot. i now regret it, but i learned my lesson for the next one, if there will be one

Boss

Talk to your husband. Communication is one of the biggest things in a marriage. Express your feelings to him and then try and set some time for just you and him. With four kids I bet there is hardly time for just you and him alone. Get a babysitter and make arrangements to go to dinner and a movie or something.

2blu4it

how long has this been going on, if for awhile it will stay like that ' a tiger won't loose his stripes' there are mean people and there are nice people. People know when they are treating people bad and or not fair and they don't care that's the way they are, they see themselves as this perfect person not making bad decisions and if they do they blame you. It is a hard decision, I'm sure you have some friends/family that love you unconditionally and will be there for you.
good luck

Bold Man

find out first why he is treating u like that.
talk with him.
Dont take easy way out.

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