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wilfreds805
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seems like a desperation move on his part, let him keep the ring
and even mail his back to him as well, with a note that says "now you having the matching set" |
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winona e
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He sounds very cheap!!! After 8 years of marriage, that ring was yours. Tell him you want it back. If that is what you want!!! |
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Muffin
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You shouldn't have given the ring back. He can keep his' and you should keep yours and do whatever you wanted with it. Throw it away, sell it off.. but you really should'n't have returned it and he doesn't have the right to ask for it! |
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Sophiesmom
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I would not give it back to him...... |
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luv him
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Girl, you shouldn't of given up the ring. It was yours and it spent 8 long years on your fingure. You could of had it made into something for one of your children. I mean, what is he going to do with it? Give it to someone else? Now that is tacky. I definetly would not have given it back. He doesn't deserve the satisfaction. If he wants his ring, give it back... |
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T.G.
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I would have given it back. In all fairness, you have his. I think he only wanted it back in some attempt to hurt you or get a rise out of you. I understand you wanted to give it to one of your children, but he felt it was something he had to do. Maybe after he gets over the whole rejection thing he's feeling, he'll consider giving it back so you can give it to them. Otherwise, leave it alone. |
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somewoman
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Im hoping he'll hang on to it for your children assuming you have kids together. My ex also did this to me and like a fool I gave it to him. I know he has it and intends on giving it to my daughter cuz he has showed her the ring and has told her she can have it. |
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sudiptocool
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Why keep back anything of his when it was your choice to separate. Give it away dear it has no value to you so wouldn't have any value to your children by the time they have grown up |
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mmem
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give him back the ring to be a new me, no bond,no hard feeling, i will also throw away the wedding band. |
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EL Big Ed
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You should have kept it, 8 yrs. i would have. Keeping his that thing can not be worth much, now the ring that was yours is probably going to some one else. |
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Nemtudomka
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I don't think that you should regret anything that you have ever done. Everything you do has a meaning and is an outgoing image of your choices !
See the bright side: the ring stood for a failed marriage, so it might be good that you have not given it to one of your children.
You shouldn't be afraid that you still love him. I think that you felt bad because by taking the ring back, he laid dirt over everything that happened. But don't forget that he is the one who was hurt and his act was childish by trying to make you hurt too. |
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akela
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I feel that these things have very less importance in comparison to the decision of separation. If you could take a decision of separation, it would be better that you forget him completely, even if you meet him somewhere, just ignore.
Are u sure that the decision of separation was the right decision. Or u are still waiting for him? |
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CoCo-Puffs
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Well woulda..shoulda..coulda. Going to take longer then 2 months to give up and get over 8 years. |
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kelly a
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i think u have emotional ties to the ring as a simble of ur marriage and as a link between the 2 of u . u still love him b/c he is the father of ur kids I would talk to him and ask him y he wanted it make so bad. |
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steph
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maybe you can let him know that you would like to have it to give to one of your children i'm sure he'd be understanding
i imagine right now he just has some hurt feelings and once those go away i'm sure he'll be able to meet your desire to pass the ring along |
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dsd
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Frankly I think deep down you still have feelings for him even though you guys are seperated. Thats the only conclusion I can draw considering you held on the wedding band. It has some sentimental value that relates to your marriage. Thats ok, thats normal, moving on is kinda tough. Honestly if he wants the wedding band, give it to him. Maybe you should try telling him about what you'd like to do with before handing it over first though. He might understand. |
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Kheme
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i don't know! |
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~Niecee~ ☻ ☻ ♂
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Actually i would of kept it and gave him his wedding band! |
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jessigirl00781
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Sounds like you were harboring feelins for him. I would talk to him before it is WAY TOO late. |
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lune_ellise
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give him what he wants, it's safer... |
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Forlorn Hope
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if they are his kids too, maybe that was his idea... or he just wanted it out of spite... or he wanted it for another woman... |
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shdwtalker2002
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In the situation, I probably would have done what you did, and, like you, regretted it later.
Apparently, he wasn't a bad father -- otherwise, why care about giving the ring to one of your children? At some point, you will almost certainly be able to communicate about your mutual children, because they will continue to need both parents in their lives. So, down the road, tell him something like, "We didn't work out, but you will always be the father of my children. I know I gave you back my wedding ring, so it's yours to do with as you wish now. But I am hoping we can give it to [child's name], just to remind her that something very special did come out of our marriage: her." |
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Biology mayorgrl
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You could ask him for the ring, telling him exactly why you want it. But if you think about it, why would you want your children to have a memorandum to a failed marriage? Especially if you wanted it to be a wedding gift. Wouldn't it be better if you picked out a new ring for your children as a symbol of your love for them as a mother instead? |
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ultraviolet
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I can understand that this is not a pretty situation.But I think it wouldn't be proper to give your wedding ring to your child because you've separated and he is not your husband anymore...if you could have been together than it would be nice.also I think that if a man knocks on your door and asks back for your wedding ring this is not a good thing. |
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Jes
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You should have given it to him. If he wants to give it to the children later that's for him to decide. Also when your children get older the ring may remind them of what it was like and make them upsett that you are no longer together. Find something else to pass onto you kids... |
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Raineybaby
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You put in your divorce settlement that you want your property back. When you bind into a contract like marriage you get to keep the rings if you were engaged and broke it off you don't. Legally they are yours. Make sure you fight to keep them. |
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I_C_Y_U_R
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I don’t see that there was anything wrong with giving him the Wedding Ring back.
Maybe he is short of cash, and needed to sell it.
I’m inclined to think it would be ‘bad luck’ to give your kids a Wedding Ring from a marriage that didn’t work out.
Sure, if your husband had died or something, then that’s a different story.
If the love was strong throughout the marriage, I’d be all in favour of giving the kids the ring.
In this case however, it was your choice to end the marriage, so you obviously weren’t happy.
Giving the kids your Wedding Ring, could be seen as passing your unhappiness on to them!!! |
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tomnjerry
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Well, you have already given it up. Trying to get it back might seem like you are still harbouring feelings for him. just let it go. Buy something else that you can pass on to your children. It could be your goodluck gem, or something.
Look at it this way, your kids will not want something that will bring them bad luck in marriage. |
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InternetPosterChild
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You *****. |
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