What would you think and do if you spouse had over 550 text ...?

sassysusie

That's A LOT of text messages in one month! Actually, that would be a lot of text messages in a few months!! I totally do not believe it has anything to do with studying. It may have started out with studying and led to something else. I surely wouldn't put up with that from my husband. That is so disrespectful to you. Good luck.

Comebackmylove

He is cheating. Whether it is emotional and/or physical he is cheating. 550 texts in a month to the same girl is an ungodly amount!! Help me study my ***!!! Confront him, tell him I know you're having an affair, f u, it's over.

Shredded Cottage Cheese

he may be helping her study....anatomy.

Shut your mouth when u tlk to me

*WoW...umm...red flag is going up!!

~~So is "study" what they're calling it these days?!

.Is this a serious question?.

.Haha...where do I begin to tell you what I would think?.

~I say he's full of sh** and that he's cheating.
~No one helps someone "study" by sending 550 text messages. Especially not at 2 am either. And the first thing in the morning.

**I say you play Sherlock and start digging into this. Call the girl and say WTF?!.....I would. Let her know who you are.

.........good luck.

My thoughts are that he's got someone on the side and is ashamed to tell you about it. He's making up some LAME excuse to hide the fact of what he's really feeling about this other girl.

Good luck

AsianPersuasion :)

I wouldn't fall for that either. If he was truly helping her study, why not just talk to her on the phone or via computer AND since he is married, why not tell you about it? Something is definitely going on!

lolz_cassie!

well....
i hate to say it but..........
i don't think he's helping her study.
sorry, hun.
it might be time to let this one loose.

Penelope Smith

That's nearly twenty messages a day! Each!! Now I'm not one to be jealous. In fact I've been accused of tolerating too much and not seeing the obvious. But even I flinch at that level of communication. Unless you're getting messages like that from him, too, it seems suspect. And homework help? Please. You'd pick up the phone and call for homework help and you sure as hell wouldn't be doing homework from the minute you got up 'til you went to bed.

Hell, if the guy's gonna lie to you, the least he can do is show you the courtesy of a plausible lie!

HEH

I'm guessing you found out about this by the phone bill and NOT by your husband. If it is as innocent as helping her study why didn't he tell you about it before???? Does he hide his phone when he is showering, or sleeping? Does he keep it on silent when he is with you? Try to get a hold of his phone sometime. If the messages are there read them, or does he clear them all off. . . If you can get a hold of his phone and the messages are deleted. Text the girl pretending to be him. . . see what she says. . . . If you want to find out the truth sometimes you have to be a little sneaky

Sweetness

That's a load of horse*****........If she wants to study, she can take her a** to the library!

Luv2no is in the house

It's called emotional cheating. I would get a divorce you don't really need a rocket scientist to figure this out common now. Why does a girl need a married man to help her study, yea right and I'm 22 and 120 pds.

anabellpimentel

cheater!!!!!!!!

Niki D

I would seriously talk to him about it, and find out who this girl is and talk to her, she may not even know he is married. Me my self I would go crazy. I would look at his phone and read those messages. If he refuses to let you read them kick him out. He is lying to you, besides I would never let my husband help any girl study he is a married man there are boundries.

Sorry this will be a little long... As i went through your other questions and compared them to this question i noticed something.... You have a bad husband (not to be rude though) You said in your other messages that he has sent "flirty" text messages before and even had an affair one time (if its the same guy =) )
Point is is by now the behavior has gone to far and you know as well as I do and anyone else who has just a little bit of intelligence that he is not helping her "study" all day long. I mean between me and my fiancee we sent like 300 texts this month but over 500 is kinda ridiculous.
I know its hard to go through a divorce and breaking up and everything but girl he is playing you for a fool and not even showing remorse. remember fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me.
You need to really put your foot down and if he can't stop this on going problem you need to really consider breaking it off and finding someone who will treat you so much better and with so much more respect.
If he cares about you enough then if you tell him that talking to all these girls and flirting with them makes you feel uncomfortable then he would stop if he truly cared. Im starting to think he really feels the quote "once a cheater always a cheater".
Just do something about it before your feelings get really hurt because obviously you (and no one for that matter) deserves that kind of treatment and he doesn't deserve you.
I know you prob. really do love him to still be with him to go through everything you have gone through, but sometimes you just need to take care of yourself because if you wont then no one will. I wish you luck and I really do hope you can get some change out of him.
Good luck and God bless you

fourzenuff

I've been there and in my opinion it's cheating. He's having a virtual affair. Tell him he needs to put an end to it. If she's local, he could actually be cheating. Get that phone number and call her yourself. That's what I did and the girl didn't even know he was married so I didn't get mad at her. So calmly call her and find out what's going on for yourself. He'll say you're just being jealous but it's not that when it's that many texts you have every right.

Ronin

Get a lawyer.

Kat G

What? That makes no sense. I would go on line and see if I could get a print of the conversation after that I would have his stuff lay ed out on the lawn for when he came home. If he asks you why you through out his stuff tell him you will send him a TeX message.

tcc_00676

hes in love with her....get somebody else he does not respect you or the marrage...

He's cheating.

If it were my husband, I would wonder when he learned to send text messages. He is not in this decade as far as technology goes,lol.

happytree

Truthfulyl I would not feel very comfortable. I do not know how to answer this question fully because you did not explain the context of the 550 texts.

*never give up*

i dont buy it either...nice try though. men think women are stupid, i swear

jenivive

see what they said, counseling sound like it could be in the works

Sarah W

have you read the texts? tell him to prove it. if he doesn't want to then you know he has something to hide and that's when you need to leave him.

Ash!

My dad was cheating on my mom through texting with the exact same thing, all times of the day and night (I won a karate match against a national champ and he missed it bc he was txting)....... ask him about it, dont hide your feelings or sneak around. You can request the number and call and ask the woman herself.... I swear technology is breaking up relationships everywhere! Hope this helps!

Lali

Well..if you are not 100% why don't you read his phone..he should keep the msgs..otherwise if he is erasing them...it must be for a reason..or call the cell company and ask for a copy of the statement, and see if they can provide you with all text msg...that might help you...now what you can do is confront him, tell him how you feel, if he would like for you to do that and then send her to hell, because he is a married man, he has a wife, ans she has to learn how to respect that, she shouldn't be writing so late..no even..not at all!...(that's what I did, because something similar was going on...but she was an old gf)...
Another thing you might do its...if you guys have the same phone switched without him knowing..and see what she writes...or just take the phone away from him...

treasuredwife69

I would think my husband has some explaining to do. If you have the bill, call her up and ask her what the deal is. Since he says it is all innocent. Do some investigating and see what you come up with. Go with your instinct.

sadgirl

I am not sure the story with your particualr relationship. Has he ever given you reason not to trust him? I had the exact same problem last year and once I dug into the matter a little bit deeper, I found there was a real internet relationship going on between the two of them. I ended up divorcing my husband of 4 years over this problem because I could no longer trust him. I was crushed when I saw the cell bill and learned what was going on. I do not believe that a person will sit and text all day long to someone when nothing else is going on - good luck sweetheart, I hope your guy is telling the truth! Check his picture vidoe messages at well to see if he is sending these, you would be shocked at what people will send over the cell phone - I know I was.

Kimmy

I would be trying to text her from his cell! Maybe when he's sleeping! And see what she says! That would for sure see what he's up to! If it was so inocent as studying it wouldn't be over 550 text messages!! Go with your instincts, obviously you have your doubts and rightfully so. I wouldn't be putting up with that! Maybe its time to evaluate the relationship???

brad t

JC,

The reality is that you really DO NOT know what's going on and guessing can mess up your relationship.

If you want to make sure you do things right, you need to get a pro involved.

When me and my spouse were having these same problems, I came across the people at When Love's Talking.
They totally helped me.

It turns out that the problem we were facing turned out to be the thing that helped me and my spouse get closer.

I bet When Love's Talking can help you: www.whenlovestalking.com

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