Whats your point of view//? Involving my bf, our baby...and myself!?

So My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years and we have a baby together....he says he loves me and wants to be with me but yet he changes his mind a lot...(he is bipolar) He takes pills but it seems like only when he wants too.....

He hangs out with his friends A LOT and the baby and I just sit at home all day he plays with her only when he wants too....He doesnt work rght now he got laid off gets unemployment and he tells me to work so that I can help him but I am with the baby 24-7 and he says he would watch her but I cant have him having friends over notgiving her his full attention.....

and then he can be shady and gets mad when I think hes cheating or something ...why get so mad if its not true? I found a msg on his computer and he said he did it on purpose for me to see....and now locks his computer....

He does a lot for me but also takes advantage of the fact that if i were to leave him he would take everything from me...including a car which i would need to get back and forth to baby doctor appointments and etc..he said hed fight for the baby and WILL get her...I dont know what to do....I am not very happy as of now....He used to always make me happy but now its like hes so heartless! Any advice would be appreciated!!!

sophia.shaffer

Basically he's using the baby against you. Also many psychological disorders dont take their medication because they "dont like the way it makes them feel" mostly with bipolar, depression and schizophrenia. It makes them one level and a normal person has various levels throughout the day, even if they have a disorder. The disorders just make it out of control. I told you that to tell you this. If he tries to take the baby from you, he will not succeed because he is not a fit parent. With a disorder like bipolar he must be able to control it by taking his medication properly (and have proof of that) and in some cases still will not get the child because he would need someone else to help with the child. What happens when he gets angry and throws the kid across the room (this is a reason they dont do sole custody with a disorder like that) Another reason they would not give the baby to him is he is on unemployment. To prove he is even halfway worthy of that baby is to prove he can reasonably provide for the baby. If he can't even get a job, he cant provide.
If you two were to split, I would recommend finding a friend or someone that has a good recommendation to watch her. My friend watches my baby for $20 a day. I used to watch another of my friends child for $30 a day, so there is reasonable pricing out there. Then find a job, even if its bagging groceries, I dont know how old you are or stubborn, but income is income and by having the baby you chose to provide for her and do the very best you could. You can then provide for the baby even if he isnt around. You dont have to have a 2009 gas guzzler either, so you could buy just a little used ford focus or something (they get great gas mileage and arent expensive used thats why thats my example) to get you and the baby around.
If hes not treating you right, hes not going to treat the baby right so leave his sorry butt behind and give your baby a better life. Also Im sorry hes such a piece of crap.

monkey see monkey do!

from the look of things,future is going to be bleak.to be totally honest,the guy doesnt seem a tad bit responsible enough to be the father of ur child and a husband.clearly he is finding it hard to adapt to family life and still finds pleasure in hanging out with friends and possibly even dating other women,and thats not a good sign as well.i know jumping to conclusions isnt a wise thing to do,but as his partner ur entitled to do so.especially when he is neglecting his duties and ultimately,not forking out the money to sustain u and ur child.

but who knows him better than you.im sure u still love him very much and i hate to see tht ur relationship end up unpleasantly.but you have to have a way out as well.because to me ur bf seems rather unstable,psychologically speaking.im afraid tht in time he would start to abuse u and ur child,thts the worst fear.so from now on,try to make urself self-sustainable as possible.contact ur parents or friends,make sure u can have an alternative place to stay if matters gets out of hand.over time,find a job as well.the last thing u want is to solely depend on ur bf on just about everything

for the moment,i suggest tht u play it cool.when the time is suitable,confront him gently,tell him what u feel and what u expect from him.im sure if he still loves u he is gonna tow back in line.so make him realize tht he is now a father and has obligations to both u and ur child.

good luck and take care

Im just answering your question!

Youve been together 5 years, legally you are entitled to half of what he has. Seek some free legal advice (legal aid) and see what your rights are then leave him.

lady_phoenix39

So....why has it taken you FIVE FREAKING YEARS to realize he doesn't want to be with you ?????????

If he wanted to he would COMMIT to you. PERIOD

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