When I got married my husband told me he was not attracted to me.?

Dep.

Obviously he married you despite your weight. That tells me that everything else about you is much more important than your physical appearance and he loves you as a person. You wouldn't want someone that would only want you if you were a certain size, would you? Then you might have something to worry about if you gained weight.

This.Passion.Is.A.Plagurism

If it doesn't last then he's not worth it cuz that's rlly superficial.

Amanda

He should love you for you. Now if you want to lose weight for yourself then I say go for it but it won't work if you try to do it for him. Talk to him, maybe there is more problems then just your weight.

Kylie Paige

Lose all the weight....diet, and exercises.....then when you're hot with the body of any guys dreams....tell him it;s over because he didn't focus on what really counted...the "inside" of you. that's what I would do. (I'm the revengeful type)

Mr. Mean Mugg

aww... ma. your beautiful. lose weight if you want. but not for any other reason.

sadly i dont think it will last. i'm sorry.

â™¥BrownEyedGirlâ™¥

OMG! Why would you have married him in the first place? You could have just been friends with him. Of course you put on more weight since then with that sort of thing to deal with it's your coping mechanism. I think you will be happier and much thinner without him.

suehellen

i think youre ashamed of yourself too and in the desperation of not being lonely you ended up marrying an idiot that dosent know how to see people beyond their physique.

you have very low self esteem, try working on that.

and yes, as long you keep that self esteem low, youll marriage will last, until you start loving yourself a lil bit more

Hadrianus

If he is going to divorce you just because you're overweight, then you know he's not your real soulmate. And as for your part, you should really consider losing some weight (or fat), because as you grow older, being overweight will cause health problems. And health problems indeed will be another stress on your husband. What your husband should be doing is encouraging you to exercise more to strengthen both your health and your relationship. =]

And I don't think attraction is really important in a marriage. I know my aunt and uncle are not physically attracted to each other at all, but they are together because they own a business together, and treat each other very well like family with a lot of respect.

Nicole

Selfish hubby!

Pink Lolipop

Everyone puts on more weight.
So does your HUSBAND.
Are you attracted to your husband? Too fat?

Alright, i just hate it when men do this.. !!
Well, if he forces you to lose weight, then don't make him do that. You need to feel comfortable doing what you want and when you want to.
If your not happy with yourself then change, you need to please yourself first :)

Hope this helps !

Brit

This is unbelievable. The best thing that he could have done was tell you the truth because you deserve to be in a marriage where your spouse is attracted to you inside and out.

I don't think the marriage will last unless you go out of your way to fit an image he is attracted to and that wouldn't be a good thing to do simply to keep someone.

When people are unhappy in marriages, they tend to cheat and because he doesn't find you stunning on the outside, he will cheat for the entirety of your marriage.

Change only if you want to and don't continue to stay married to someone who doesn't love you for YOU.

Samantha1029

i dunno. that would be very hurtful and i dont know if i could handle it. plus wondering if he is with someone he is attracted to. u deserve to be with someone who loves you but also is attracted to you. just becuz you are overweight doesnt make you unattractive. Tell him to kiss your a$$ and move on. otherwise you can lose all the weight then leave him and make him feel like crap.

Raven Sky

Your husband should like you for who you are. But on the other hand, if no other reason and health concerns and your own self esteem, maybe diet and exercise would help. And what's his body type like? has he been on the cover of any fitness mags? Maybe you both can do activities together that will not only improve your physical appearance, but strengthen your marriage as well. But mr man needs to quit being so superficial. He knew what he was getting into when he married you. The idea that he was going to change you has been tested and never works.

jessie99645599

OMG I can not believe anyone could say that to someone thay love!! I dont even know you but no one deserves to be talked to like that!! I hope you realze that before you waste 20 years of your life.
Good Luck

Fireball226

hes being too narrowminded...im surprised you married him..
we are both chubby and happy and we dont obsess about it..

pogiguy05

UH NO and why did you marry someone who told you this???

Charles & Elizabeth C

Bless your heart. I can't help but wonder why you married him, other than you were friends. Might want to consider going back to being friends. You can get a simple divorce, not alot of fighting, just an agreement. Take care of yourself. Being under this kind of stress will only make you eat more.

Tara

If your husband loves you then he will love EVERYTHING about you. Maybe he is confused, thinking that it is more than friendship, some people don't know the difference between a really strong close friendship, and a romantic type of love. Im sorry to say but I can't really see this marriage going to far. You need to find someone who loves you for everything you have to offer.

sheloves_dablues

Why did you guys get married if he's not attracted to you?

jessicas127

If he doesn't like u the way u r then get him outof ur life. U don't need someone constantly pulling u down everyday. Good luck!!!

Roni

I think physical attraction is not nearly the most important factor in a relationship. I was not attracted to my boyfriend either, we began as friends, but 7 years later I am in love with him and now I find him attractive because of that. If it is such an issue why not try to lose weight? I know it is hard (trust me I know) but the effort might show him how important he is to you. Why don't you all make it a couple thing, like shopping for healthy food, cooking healthy meals together, going for a walk after dinner, or have him hold your legs while you do crunches or time you when you jump rope, etc. That is what my bf and I do because we are both trying to get back into shape and it is easier when you have support. I don't know how overweight you are, but as a last resort you may want to consider medical intervention, if saving your relationship is worth it.

Ouchie

He's a superficial ***. He certainly doesn't love you for you. What does he think is going to happen through the years?

okiedokie

then obviously he isnt you soul mate. he shouldnt be saying those things to you

teona m

I strongly recommend that you watch a movie called "Why Did I Get Married?" Trust me this movie will answer all your questions and help you make the right decisions. Good Luck!

The Voice of Reason

I feel for you. It is sad that he is like this. A true soul mate wouldn't care about the physical appearance.

Jackie Diane

look, if your husband doesn't find you attractive anymore, that's his problem. you shouldn't EVER have to change your weight for any man, otherwise they don't deserve your love. i can't say it won't work out, but its going to be hard, i was in a relationship just like that and i had to get out. (my ex-fiance would tell me i needed to lose weight, and that im looking horrible and how fat i am) and if it doesn't work out for you and your husband, don't worry there are TONS of men who love full figured women, i am a very overweight woman also, and my fiance loves everything about me. he wouldn't want me to change UNLESS i were to have serious health problems or i wanted to change myself to make me happier. so just remember don't change for anyone, love yourself for who you are and if you leave him, just look for a man that loves everything about you, don't think that you have to settle for someone cause you think you can't get any better, cause you can! if you need to chat sometime message me jackie_d_lyon2005. thanks for reading and i hope this helps!

lady_phoenix39

No, your marriage won't last if you are married to someone who thinks it's okay to put someone down. And that's what he's doing.

I happen to be overweight and my soon-to-be-fiancee adores my body....and has even taught me to have more confidence in myself and who I am instead of focusing on how bad I look.....interestingly enough, that adoration and love has helped me to drop some pounds without really focusing on my weight.

I LOVE being with him (he's only the most wonderful man on the planet) and he LOVES being with me....and to have anything less than that would be a shame.

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