When husbands cheat can they stop?

benthere

they can stop but the question is can u forgive and trust again.

Yes it me

Dude There's a big possibility yes you can

spankdady

Some learn that it is wrong and it's a high price to pay when you play.
Some think it's like a game and you beat the system if you are smart enough but, instead wind up being robbed, beat up by jealous boyfriends,AIDs, you name it. I've lived with a cheat for a few years and to be truthful? It is a life of misery and nobody is worth that!

jude

from what i have experienced no they do not stop, and it just gets worse.

kim h

Husbands that cheat and cannot stop are the ones whose wives forgive over and over. They have no need to stop, you accept it and they get to do what they want. I would end the marriage.

pumpkin

I ended my marriage as soon I learned that he cheated!
I was disgust with him!
K

Clementine

I wouldn't wait to find out.

Ronald K

well if he crave ladys alot and wants it more than often he takes off to get it but yay if he cheats once itll hapen again mabe not in a day or a few days but it will hapen again so if u are a 1 man lady u need to find some one elseand try again

i am here in the play pen with sweeet mildred

Woogs

I would end it. You will always be left wondering. The trust is broken and he has broken the marriage vows in a BIG way. Infidelity is a marriage deal breaker.

Putting the blame on the spouse at home is ridiculous. If there is trouble at home then it is OK to cheat? Oh please! Have guts and either fix the marriage or end it - cheating will NEVER fix a marital problem.

observer

I don't know

askme

It depends. If he confesses on his own....goes to therapy, admits full responsibility for his bad behavior....and his actions stay consistent with his words.....maybe.....but if you catch him somehow and he tries to deny it....he blames others or stress for this affair....his actions are NOT consistent with his words ...and he refuses or attends therapy ONLY briefly......get rid of him!

ragdoll1959

I was the cheater,I guess. I told him forever I didn't want to be married to him. Cheating was the way to make it all end. But I told him what I did when I did it. So I don't know if it was cheating. I think every person does it for different reasons.So people can stop if that is what they want. Its all in their heads

ST0MP3R

when wives cheat can they stop as well??

walkon100

could thy have patch the titantic, yes ,,,,but it would have took a lot work and fast

chaz

too many variables to be answered here. You' just going to have to keep and eye on him for a while and see what his actions are.

But don't be stupid. If you find that you just can't trust him anymore just get out and get on with your life.

Jessica

There is no situation where cheating is ever acceptable. Sometimes men do it once and they feel so guilt ridden that they never do it again, but 9 times out of 10, as the saying goes "once a cheater always a cheater". If he feels as though he has gotten away with it he'll probably do it again.
Another thing to consider is the emotional damage that incident has done to the trust in your marriage. The wound will never completely heal. So if you do decide to stay with him get yourselves into some couples therapy to try to get help for whatever the problem is.
But in my opinion, like I said, cheating is not acceptable. I'd leave him.

Hope this helps

magoo

You can't lump all men or all relationships in one pile, each is unique.

Intervention or counseling is needed. Both husband and wife need help to process, set limits, expectations, talk, and even yell, cuss and rage if necessary. They each have to decide what they really want, with the full understanding, that while a broken marriage can be renewed, it requires a total committment from BOTH parties and lots of hard work.

He needs to be absolutely honest, perhaps for first time. No fair using the old, "but my marriage has problems" excuse. Seeking comfort outside the marriage is never the right answer. He needs to sit and actually listen to his wife tell him how what he did affected her, he needs to hear it until he really and truly "gets it" and understands how deeply he hurt his wife. He needs to understand that in order for him to re-earn trust, he needs to live a transparent life -- people with nothing to hide, hide nothing. If they try to work through it, he needs to understand that she will be asking, "Where are you? What are you doing? When will you be back? Who were you with?, she'll be checking his cell phone, email, pager, pockets, car, etc. and she will do so until he has built up a history of being who, what, with whom and where, matches his word. As all that is going on, he needs to not get angry, frustrated, yell at her, argue or cop a negative attitude. He needs to remember that he is in this position because he chose it.

She needs to be willing to tell him how deeply he hurt her, holding nothing back, without fear. She has to decide if she is willing to forgive him and be willing to allow him the time to re-build trust. If she agrees, she also has to be willing to fight off the urge to remind him of his wrongdoing, especially when there's tension or they argue (no fair throwing past wrongs up into his face, deal with the present only).

Is it worth it? That's for each couple and person to decide.

Confused

Just end it

jonds

They will continue the behavior

cautiusmom

no once you cheat you'll do it again and again. i would end it now.

Old School

yes they can stop, but they really have to feel a sense of remorse. They also will really need to work hard to earn the trust they lost. They will have to endure a lot of ups and downs. If they are willing to go through that and also a bit of individual and couples counseling, i don't see why the relationship couldn't be repaired. It will also be important for the wife to attend individual counseling. this will help her try and move forward from the event that has happened. plus they will be able to help the couple resolve the issues that caused the spouse to stray. It is said that one of the first signs of a relationship being in trouble is the thought or action of having an affair.

johnnysunshine11

It depends entirely on the situation. If they cheat with the right person they will end the marriage before you do. The first one to speak usually loses except in a case like this.

mack

Depends on the reason. If they are cheating because they are not taken care of at home then yes. But you have to step up and do your part. Some are just compulsive cheaters and like compulsive liars or gamblers; no they cannot stop or help themselves.

Peter N

People, both men and woman are only as faithful as their options.

senora zamora

I have to believe it is possible!

kemp

I stayed for 18 years before I realized that he was never going to change. The only catch is to be sure that you are ready. Because once you leave guilt will set in and you question whether you made the right decision. I got sick and tired of being sick and tired. It was to the point that I was angry with females as if they had all been with him. Boy was that a awful feeling being angry with people you don't know. He is now cheating on the new girlfriend....

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