When is it okay to cheat on your spouse?

Sean I.T ?

You need to divorce him first and then become a ho. How would you feel if your hubby cheated on you and whoever he dipped his weiner into, it goes into YOU next? Have some decency and divorce the poor bastid first before you take that plunge....if I were your husband, I would feel betrayed and disgusted. Anything you do behind your husbands back that you cant tell him beforehand, is cowardly and deceitful. Cheating is never justified.

rsuavez66

when you are divorced

from me to you

Please separate from you wife first. Thanks.

queenmaeve172000

The affair isn't wrong its the lying. It is never wrong to love anyone. Be honest with your wife and tell her that you want a polyamorous relationship. If she gets mad and leaves you then that's what will happen. If not, then as long as you pay attention to her as well, it can work out. Polyamory is the nature of humankind even though society does not approve.

Goodspeed

Divorce first...your lessoning the chances of re-kindling old love by cheating on your current spouse...if your so sure this is thee one...take that leap of faith...but take it without the baggage.

12345

it is never okay to cheat on ur spouse!!

faith

the best time 2 cheat on ur spouse is when u divorce her, but then she will b ur ex !!!!

Princess

It's never o.k, you've disrespected your spouse in the biggest way possible, tell them, ten leave, they deserve better than you.

Pauly

You are watching too much of Grey's Anatomy. It's never okay to cheat on your spouse. If you truly love her, you'll forget about this fleeting lust you have for a former love, and move on. Think about how her heart would feel if she knew. According to my wife, no affair is secret. She's right.

dying_star51

when its been two months
you know what i mean

Danette

Well it's never ok to cheat on your spouse if there is nothing there it needs to be let go. you don't just stay as a toleration thing you have to live life and be happy where you are if a person has to cheat then there is nothing at home!

xtasy_babe

If you want to leave then just leave, there's no point in staying with someone you don't want. Be honest with your hubby, you never know maybe he feels the same way about you.

eddylanappe

Both of you get a divorce religiously as based on morality, legal is not a concern regarding love. And get married to each other to live a happy life!

Good Luck!

kma22263

Don't do it. If both of you are REALLY honeslty and truly unhappy with your spouses, then get divorced and then go after each other.

BUT... look deep inside yourself to make sure you really feel that way, and this is not just some passing fancy. Other peoples' lives will be affected.

creativereading

It's not really fair to your spouse to keep them as a back-up in case this "one true love" doesn't work out. Leave your spouse, then do whatever you want. If your marriage is bad now, it will only get worse afterward.

Dr. Phil-lys

Let me break it down for you, you're not in love with anyone else, you're both trying to escape where you are. You're confusing that desire to escape with love for another. Ridiculous. Now stop talking to your ex and start talking to a counselor. Don't fix one problem with another problem.

linagranathe

never

sunraeonesunrae

I would say it is never ok to cheat.The reason I say that is because a marriage is built on love,respect and trust.Once you break that trust,it can (never)be repaired,eventhough the relationship you are going to seems to be what you think you want,how if it is not?Then you have ruined your current relationship and you may get stuck out in the cold with no-one.Have you ever heard the phrase"The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" Well to me that is what I saw when I read your question.The relationship you are heading towards with the other man will have problems too,will you face them or run off to another relationship when that happens.This other man can tell you anything on the phone,how is his life really?If the relationship with your 10 year ago lover was going to work out,it would have 10 years ago.You are going backwards with your life instead of forward and that is never a good thing. You are also being dishonest to your present spouse and no matter how bad it is,he deserves to be told that you do not love him and you want out,before you just run off to see another man.Think about how you would feel if your present husband did this to you.After all the hard work you have put into the relationship,how would you feel if your present husband come home from work and said,Hi honey,I'm going to live with someone else.You are an adult and it is up to you to decide,but just remember if this past relationship doesn't work out,you may not be able to come back to the present one. And one more thing,I would not give up my marriage on a promise of divorce from some other man. Once you sleep with him and start an affair,he may never leave his wife for you.Then your heart is broken,your present marriage is over and he may stay with his wife.Divorce is not as easy as some people think,different states are making it harder to get a divorce.If you two really want to be together,then both of you should first confront both your present spouses and get a divorce first,before you try to get together.

sstooc2001

when you make a commitment to someone, there's no Ifs Ands and Buts about it!! No excuses to weasel your way out for some lame excuses. This is not about her or him. This is about you!! If you have no intention on continuing this marriage, at least have the guts to tell your husband and end the relationship before you start messing around with another. Good old days are good because there no longer exist and you can paint it as good as your imagination allows you to. The reality is it's difficult to deal with real people in real time and in real places.

prettylade

It is never right to cheat. You need to stop talking to this "one true love" right now. Why would you consider destroying the lives of two families by this action? Think about all the ramifications before you act. If it were me and this guy is so easy to cheat on his wife with you, ask him if this is the first time or if you are just another notch in his belt. You have already cheated on your husband and he his wife by giving emotions to each other that you vowed to give only your respective mates. Don't sacrifice the future on the altar of the immediate. Remember the grass is always green on the other side of the fence, until you get over there and see the harsh realities. Why not try to rekindle the love you had with your husband. I just don't understand why people want to hurt their spouses so deeply.

Ray

It is never OK

The Doctors Daughter

it is never okay to cheat on someone you are married to!

Derek D

DIVORCE FIRST

nightingale

cheating has never been ok...even if your partner cheats, you don't cheat just to get back on her... The past is over... You already have a wife... you decided your way of life a long time ago and what you and the girl have before should just be ignored....

timjim

Listen carefully. NEVER!!!!!!!

Just me

I think its not good to cheat your spouse... I think you should not do anything which can hurt her... You just sacrifise...

Mean Carleen

How can you NOT expect to get slammed? Have you lost your damn mind lady? If your in love with any man other than your husband you need to set your husband free. What you are doing and thinking is wrong because IT IS NEVER OKAY to cheat!!! If you cannot hold true to the vows you took you need to get out of the marriage.....give this advice to the other about to be a loser guy your about to board a plane to go see. What goes around can and will eventually go around sweety, because when 2 cheaters get together...how in the hell will ya ever be able to respect and trust the other. Good luck to your hubby and the other losers wife.

BelleVie

Cheating on your spouse is never a good idea, it will bring more pain than happiness, so if you decide to go with your (old)new love you better take care your business with your husband first. Meanwhile take it slow with your new flame what you have now is only over the phone and you dont know yet if he is really ready to do anything including leave his wife as he sound (10 years is along time and ppl changes). So pls step back and take time to think your decision. Hope you will make one wise decision.

tammyandyj

It is never okay. You are already having an emotional affair. Leave your husband if you are unhappy and divorce him. Do NOT keep him wondering if things are going to work out between the two of you. Been there and it hurts much more than if he would have just filed. I found out about the affair 4 months after he left me. Divorce and than there will not be cheating.

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