When someone spouse dies, how long should you wait to ask them out?

hammer

Depends on the person. Some people might be ready to date again in 6 months...others might takes YEARS. Just pay close attention to the persons reactions when talking about their spouse. If it still seems that it bothers them quite a bit, wait longer....

A.J.

A long time. You shouldn't be thinking of that right now, you should be thinking of ways to help the person cope.

gummi_bear122887

When they express interest. Don't be afraid forever, but don't push it. Remember to be respectful.

Jus kall me Kris

Actually a better way around that is being there for that person, especially since there vulnerable and may come to you for comfort, so maybe then once they see your concern, and they overcome their hurt, you have a chance, But depending on how long they are together, would depend on when you should ask them out...hope this helped.

Adam C

awkward question

Smofee

a year or two
its hard for someone to accept the fact that theyre love one is no longer around

DaughterOfTheKingOfKings

Uummmm.. Don't?? Maybe wait and let them ask you out if they're interested. Otherwise you could just end up making the situation worse for them and losing their friendship aswell.

Monsieur Rick

It depends on what your relationship was before. Much needs to happen in the grieving process, the recovery process and the healing process. You need to understand all this. Wait for her invitation~~your comfort is one thing, and your emotional feelings for her are another. Don't mix them up.

Mrs.BeenThereTwice

Dammit Ernest...I told you I wasn't ready!!! Bob's body isn't even cold yet! ........lol........j/k......yeah...you need to wait until you grow up and put your friends grieving before your own needs!

ed k

If you are a friend of theirs, I would just let them know that you are there for them, but I wouldn't approach that situation. If the widower is a woman and a friend of yours, she may take you asking her out as a sign that you don't respect her husband that has passed. If ya'll are friends, and she is interested someday, she will let you know. If the two of you are not friends, it's going to be real tough to just ask her out cold. I would give it some time. Loosing a spouse or parent is real tough and the emotions are all over the place.

Emeigh Bruce

If the person you want to ask out is female, you can take a cue from her behavior. She'll start smiling more and her appearance will change and she'll become more flirty.

I would recommend staying friendly and available for that switch to take place. Then ... the first time she flirts - that's how you'll know. Could take two days... could take ten years.

Sugar

at least six months...But you can start a friendship sooner.

Clare C

That's a tough one! My husband died & my dentist called & asked me out 4 months later. I was flattered, but thought that was awfully rude at the same time. I would console the person & offer to take them out for coffee or something. Ask if they need someone to talk to & go from there. I wouldn't ask them out on an actual date for at least 6 months, maybe longer. Everyone is different when losing a spouse. JMO! Clare

claire c

It depends on how miserable they were {or how happy }. Some ppl don't look back . Some move on with relief.

irishgirl17124

It is different for everyone. It is pretty harsh when someone you loves dies, so you should probably wait to talk about it until they are ready because if you move too fast before they are ready, they might comletely shut you out.

junee92

year

Psycho Panda

As long as the other person needs to get over the late spouse.
Try to be there for them, since you're already going to ask them out you might as well be supportive through a tough time.

Roldgold

From one too 3 years. pending on how long and how close they were.
For now, concentrate on comforting him. Try getting bonus points and really get in depth with him, be there for him. be the girl he can talk to about anything.
when he starts too (and he will) talk about moving on.
giggle and say something like, you can start with me.

neonlights1971

Well I'd say it would take a long time to get over the loss of a spouse.. so I'm like the last person that should be answering this one sorry...

S B

it is a very hard thing to answer,all i can say is everyone is different.some people would just not ever want to be on their own at all and others want to wait for when they feel ready.i would just say there are different ways of asking out too.one is because you want to be with this person seriously and the other is because you want to be a companion for them,then see how it goes and slowly get on to being serious.you could just say that you have many of respect for this person and if they need anything to not hesitate to call you,even if it is just to get out and go for a drive,drink,bowling or anything else.tell them you sympathize with them and you would like to help them when they are in need,give them your phone number if they don't already have it,but make sure you tell them to please not hesitate to call you.also if you do not have their number ask for it and say it is so you can check they are all ok.if you have there number then ask is it ok for me to phone you to make sure that you are all ok.that is the best thing i can say.but please please don't rush them as they need some time too adjust and cope with the lost they have suffered.if you are not ready to take some extra time then you must leave this person for alittle while.until you know they are ready.

Jen

There is no right answer. You know the person, and care for them... well then, consider them and not yourself.

simple

I would say in 1 month, but I would advise not to make any moves. Just talk, take them out, take it slow and be there for them and go with the flow. Usually people are scared to ask them out or do anything, thinking it's not propper, and it ends up making them feel more lonely, so i think there shouldn't be a time to wait as long as you're sensitive to their needs.

Laura

A good year at least, and I don't mean a year to the date the spouse died, wait until a few weeks after the Anniversary of their death then feel the person out and see how you might think they feel about dating. You can usually tell by talking to them where they are at with that stuff.........

Tara

when the person can openly talk about their ex, and has cleared their things away from the house..that usually is a sign they have accepted their passing.

nysexyprchica

you can just ask them out on a friendly companion lunch and then go from there....ease in and feel things out to see how she/he is feeling about their loss.

Zzzzzzap

Depends on the person. Try a no strings attatched aproach.

Kirk

I've heard at least 6 months, which makes sense to me.

If you were interested in them while they were still married, never. If not, take things slow and see what they want. Definitely not before a year, though. Before that, it's just shock.

deed

I dont know the time - its probably different for everyone. I once met a man at a wedding who I was told by others that his wife had suddenly died 3-1/2 months prior to this date. We were equally attracted to each other and hooked right up. We were great - but it was difficult at times for both of us - he missed her and was still in the grieving process. After 4 months it abruptly ended (kinda like his wife's life, I guess). I never got a good-bye or an explanation. It was almost like a punishment from him for dating him so soon after his tragedy.

Angela P

at least a year, i would say... that can be pretty harsh!

K K

let them know you are there for them and be their friend, let thinggs grow naturally and when you are confident that there is some interest being returned maybe let them know how you feel. if this is just a meaningless i wanna hook up with this person i would wait a long long long time if ever, the last thing a widow(er) needs is someone confusing their emotional state.

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