Where do I go from here?!?

materhead

i have been cheated on and it absolutly killed. i feel sorry for your husband. you should ask god to forgive you.

oldmarine08

People use alcohol as an excuse for everything. No matter how drunk you get you remember and know wht happend. Let it go, why ruin your marriage! Don't let it happen again!

nufan916

I can't believe I'm the first one to say this... Tell your husband!! He deserves to know that you betrayed him. Wouldn't you want to know if he did that to you? I am constantly amazed at how many bad people there are out there.

Jordan M

Stop drinking. If you don't know how to conduct yourself as a married woman, you have no business using alcohol as a "mood enhancer".

drewxjacobs

Don't tell your husband unless you want to open up THAT dialog! Just remind yourself that you cannot hold your liquor and avoid those types of situations. The whole office probably knows.

Dr Phil

better tell him and get checked out for STD's. If he is stupid and keeps you around you just gave him a free pass in life.

Nice try on the story but a "nice girl or a loving wife" would not be engaging at pick up places, let alone getting drunk and sleeping around.

If you don't tell him your lover can tell his story about how you are and blackmail you to sleep with him and/or others in the office on the threat of telling you husband.

fantasy gal

Act like it never happened and DONT let it ever happen again with anyone.

Roy R

NO! Don't tell him it will break his heart and the trust will go out the window.

Callie T

Another example of how a single action can hurt so many people. You chose to sleep with another man and now you need to woman up and tell your husband.

P.S. I hope he leaves your skanky a**

Ontheotherhand

Well, this question has several aspects. First, I find it haaaarrrrrrrrrddddd to believe you, a married woman "made out" with ANY other human but your husband, and claim a semi free pass cuz of booze. Did you pass out, and have to spend the night? Or, did you drive home???? IF you drove home, I DO NOT buy the booze excuse. Drunks so bad that they have a blackout, don't miraculously recover in just a couple hours. As for what you should do- I can only say that my ex cheated. I am only thankful I found out. I would have have wasted the rest of my life thinking I had something special. So, since you BROKE the marriage, you should respect your husband (though by your actions, that is verrrrrrrrry doubtful) enough to at least let him know that what he has thought belonged only to him, has been made available to another guy, or guys. After all, how do you KNOW it was only one. After all, you have NO memory. But, you won't tell your husband. So, there really was little point in asking this question, unless you just wanted to brag about getting away with cheating.

indeliblesoul

I think now that the damage is done, you need to decide if you want to cause more damage by hurting your husband and telling him. If the rolls were reversed and my husband did that, I would want to know but at the same time if he regretted it and it would never happen again, it might be selfish for him to tell me just so that he doesn't have to feel the guilt. I would be hurt, our marriage might be ruined. I think it might be best for you to keep it to yourself and deal with any guilt you might have on your own as you brought it on yourself. Also, I'd never go to another happy hour again. Also, you need to decide what the chances of him finding out from a third party would be. That would be even more painful. The bottom line is that you did something wrong that would likely tear your husband up. Do you want to inflict more pain to him by telling him? Or wait and hope he never finds out from someone else. Also if you don't tell him, would you ever feel REALLY close to him again? Just some things to think about. You are the one that needs to decide what the right thing to do is. Regardless, I wish you lots of luck.

troseilnana

1. Quit drinking
2. Quit that job and get a different one
3. Never, ever tell your hubby, cause you will feel better for a few minutes but he will feel like hell forever.
4. Quit partying without your hubby, why would you do that anyway? Going out with the a groupof woman to the movies, the mall, hell even to a bar for a drink would be OK but you do not pay attention to other men. It's not a hard concept.

Mrs. Shortie

I wouldn't tell.

Trina

I wouldn't tell. I know it probably will eat at you. But is it really worth losing your husband over!?!

GCBP

At this point, it's best you don't tell your husband. Go to Confession this weekend and confess your sin to your Priest. Serve your pentance and learn from it.

RebelYankee

Quite honestly, consider not drinking. Obviously, you cannot handle your inhabitions while drinking and you put yourself in a situation where anything could have happened. I would seek help with counseling about it and the drinking (even if you don't think you have a problem). They can answer your question better by finding out more of what is really going on in your life.

Princess Belen

OMG if you don't tell him
Just don't ever hang out with them again just out of respect to your Husband

If you do tell him I will rather much Quit
my job and tell him Why

GOOD LUCK Sweety
dont drink too much next time

jaz

well in a way, i think you should tell your husband just because you guys will be living a lie in a marriage. its like, you once knew that you kissed a guy and he would be sitting around like "NO MY WIFE WOULD NEVER DO THAT" but you did. this "kiss" may lead to lots of problems. like, if he goes to a "happy hour" after work, you may think hes kissing someone or something just because you did it.

if u ask me, i would say tell!
but
if u think telling will end your marriage and split your whole family, then maybe you should wait until the time is right.

good luck
i hope it all works out!

mindfreak

looks like you beat me to ask this one.....but i think is best not to say anything......i do this all the time to my lonely women co-workers.....i get to know them and know that a few shots will make them loose those panties so i know when the time is right I'm there.........so you fell for it and this guy is laughing his head off that it happen........so now all you can do is say thanks for the memories (what ever kind you got) and just move on........but remember......there are guys like us that plan this and most of the time it works......find that lonely married woman at work and work the charm with some happy hour and bang.....instant free lay.......=]

Kylie

If you tell your husband, you will relieve your conscience, but will undoubtedly hurt him terribly! Do not tell him.....and don't put yourself in a position like this again.

Bowie

If you want to stay married don't tell your husband. If you want to get drunk and fool around don't do it with co-workers.

beautiful stranger

well make sure you never do anything like that again... how would you like it if your husband got drunk with abunch of his co-workers and made out with one of them?? put yourself in his shoes.. how would you react? as a married woman why are you even going out and getting drunk at co-workers houses without your husband?

moody dude

Keep your mouth shut and behave yourself from now on. Nothing good can come from telling him. If you love him, do not tell him.

fire wife

don't do it again...

Hamada

I think u shouldn't do that again and forget the matter and that guy .

Angel

It will probably happen again. Unless you are smart enuff not to put yourself in the same kinda situation. If you want to stay married, then don't tell your husband, especially if you love him and he loves you and you want to work it out for real.

If you don't love your husband anymore, tell him.

Douglas

Difficult to say. If you are no kidding reliable for not doing it again, I think it's okay not to tell your husband. However, if you keep thinking about it, it's going to come between you and your husband, even if only slightly.

About 4 years ago I had a brief (two night) affair. I went back and forth for a while not telling my wife, but thinking about it all the time. At one point a friend of mine I respect counseled me to tell. It was difficult for me to do it and it took about 2 years for her to forgive me, but I am no longer in my head thinking and worrying about it.

If I did not do this, I would keep some part of myself private from my wife, which I found distanced me from her.

jazzfanmd

Don't tell your husband, but avoid this guy, other than for professional reasons. YOU are the one who made vows in front of family, friends and God.

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