Where do i begin if im starting a new life all over again??

Icefire

Well, where have you always wanted to live? Start there. Then, look for places there. You will meet new people once you move, so don't worry about that. Then, try and find a job you have always wanted, it's your chance to make yourself whatever you want!! New friends, new fashions, new crowd, new scene, whatever you want! The sky's the limit, so be positive, and move on. Good Luck!!!

robtiger2

yes i appreciate your frustration.. I am in the same boat... just take each day and go with it.. things will get better I promise

Celeste P

With yourself. You will not be happy if you can't resolve the past.

booge

kick all of your bad habits

sweetgranny06

get your own apt or house and a job be independent

Debra Z

It's hard right now, but sometimes starting over is the best thing you can do.

Decide where you want to be in 1 year. Break it down into managable steps and reward yourself for each one you accomplish. It worked for me.

infobrokernate

1. Find some meaning to your suffering
2. Decide where to go from here
3. What am I passionate about?
4. What dream should I accomplish now?
5. Take action and win

missy s

This is a fun question! Although I love my life, and would be devastated if suddenly my family fell apart, I think I would begin by going on a long, soul searching, expensive vacation! Like a month in Italy. Or somewhere over seas where you can see how others in the world live, and to realize that life goes on, no matter what. Then, on this vacation, I would decide where I was going to live. Should I move to New York City, where I have always wanted to live? Or San Francisco, which is another of my favorite cities? Then, after I decided that, I would look for a new job and work on moving away. Then, I would devote at least two nights a week to volunteering, since in my life now, I have no time to volunteer at all. I think I would help sick kids or homeless mothers. After that, I would adopt a huge dog from the pound, along with a cat to keep him company! Then, I would hire a personal trainer so I could get in shape. Then, I would start a book club to meet friends. I would have a Martini book club for only women my age and we could become great confidants (sp?). I would also get a massage once a week, as well as a manicure and pedicure once a week (which I really can't do at this point in my life because of family obligations). I guess what I'm saying is that if something awful happened and I found myself without my beloved husband (I would surely want/demand custody of my son-he would come along to Italy!), I would try the best to make lemonade out of lemons and just devote my life to whatever is pleasing to me and beneficial to my son (money permitting). And then I'd fill the extra time with volunteering to help those even worse off than me, and bettering my mind so I'm hyper-aware that not everything in this world is perfect, and that it's the moment to moment living that matters.

fireball226

friends may be able to help with fixing you up....try udate...if youre a girl let the guys pursue you....check horoscope sect for compatability

twysty

make sure you know what you want and set goals

meggybucks1

You deal with it in steps. Start with baby steps before you take the leaps. Baby steps would include getting in touch with friends that you two may have considered your 'couple' friends. You lost your spouse, but not your friends. Baby steps can also be working harder at your job and maybe getting a raise or promotion to make yourself feel better (but dont let work consume you..it never did before so dont start now). Start going to the gym, take an art class, or begin a new hobby. Try and slowly become an identity by youself (i.e. Matt instead of MattandJennifer). After those baby steps have been accomplished, the bigger ones will come naturally. Dating, staying in alone and being happy about it, etc. Good luck!

adkeziah

Start with your own bank account, get a place for yourself and kids if any, to live. Time will work out all of the kinks.

deathrowjuliet

Right where you will start your new life. You'll know. nothing to worry

risa_rific

You sit down with a counselor and decide what your goals should be. Make a list of what is important to you and concentrate on those things. Above all, pray for God's direction. It really works.

Hope this helps you. Much happiness for your future.

tbone

know who you are and if you dont, take some time and try to get to know yourself. since you have a clean slate, it is essential that you fill it with quality. go back and remember and learn from your mistakes. hopefully you will know better what it is you want from life. make sure to find quality people who hold the same values as you. respect yourself and others and your new life will reward you with happiness. and remember.. try hard as it will not be easy and dont give up

boomboom

Find your local place of worship 'cause you are going to need it when times get rough...Good luck!

NONAME

Crazy?

irish eyes

Take a step back and clear your head the best you can, start thinking about what you want to live, what you want your life to be, and small steps that you can take to achieve these things. Usually people that are trying to start over have had some major life event, and many make the mistake of jumping onto the next plan without thinking about what they really want.

sarcastro1976

1. Find out what you can save. If you have a few good friends, or even one, you'll be grateful later if you keep them around. They can support you as you start this new phase of your life. If you have a decent job, you can start with this.
2. Move to a new city if you really are excited about a new city, but otherwise just move to a new apartment or new part of town.
3. Start a new fun activity (one at a time so you can really get into it). I'd start by joining a gym and committing to an exercise class every week. You'll meet new people and start doing new things.
4. If you're not happy at your job, start making plans. Find out what you really want to do (or pick a job that makes better money that you can do), and write a list of what you have to do to get there from here. If it's "go to school," find out the next enrollment date and don't miss it. Don't think it's too late to go back to school if you're 30, 40, 50, 60...it's not.
5. Be positive about everything, even when you don't really feel like it. I think positive energy multiplies (not to sound new agey, but it does in a way), and pretty soon you'll start to feel it.
6. Take it day by day and celebrate every little accomplishment. You have one life to live, and you have decided to live it better. That's your first accomplishment right there.
7. If you are clinically depressed, get medical treatment and/or talk therapy. That will take a huge edge off of everything else.

Best of luck to you! (Remember, you can make your own luck).

Irish

one day at a time---small changes---very slowly------go with your heart instinct.--blessings

Honey Butta

Go back to where you came from, meaning Family. Your hometown, old friends, family, and begin to rebuild from there.

fergie

change ur pants(i'm not trying to sound like a pervert)

Kurt Sullivan

Probably a crib I guess.

optimake5

With Implants!

Ultimate Guitar Hero!

Move somewhere new!

darkdiva

Begin with an exploration of yourself. You need to find out who you are and what you like. Not until you can answer your own questions about what's good for you are you ready to begin a new life. Self-reinvention is a wonderful thing. You need to do it several times in your life.

swisschaletlover

gamble.

Gasman

New look, new town, new friends, new job.....yadda, yadda, yadda. But hey, don't come to Austin, TX. You'll never make it happen. Austin sux.

lifeseeker

go back from where you started to make sure you will not make the same mistakes.

notyou311

Move to a new area. Get a different type of job and make new friends.

Kayla22

With GOD!

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