Where is the privacy line drawn between wife and husband?

Julie

I think that's acceptable. The wife shouldn't care because she shouldn't have anything to hide in the first place.

steffers27

I don't mind if my husband goes in my cell phone, but he won't get in my purse unless he asks and I don't go in his wallet unless I ask. It's not that there is anything private in either that we don't want the other to see, it's just a courtesy thing.

I do go potty by myself, as does he.

americansneedtowakeup

It depends why he is doing it. It is more "bad manners" than anything else. But of course he wouldn't be doing it unless:

-he has reason to believe she is cheating on him
-he feels she is lying to him
-he is cheating on her and is projecting it on to her

az_mommma

If the wife has nothing to hide then there should be no problem with her allowing him to go through her cell phone. I'm sorry but you were supposed to be two becoming one when you married and should have nothing to hide from your hubby. If you are worried he is going through your cell phone then it sounds like there is something there you don't want him to know.

How would you feel if he hid things from you?

Jamie K

To be honest with you, yes. Think about it this way...

If a husband and wife are totally open with one another then they have a tight relationship that is "one" and unique. If the wife isn't doing anything wrong, then why should she care if the husband gets into her cell phone, computer or purse and checks something out. She shouldn't be worried because she has nothing to hide. Same goes for the man who has nothing to hide from his wife.

If the relationship is strong there shouldn't be any sort of doubt from either spouse and neither should even desire to do any sort of searching though. If there is a lot of snooping going around the relationship is probably in danger of some sort of argument regarding trust soon.

In my opinion, a good healthy relationship has no secrets. Of course it's okay to hide that you are lovingly purchasing a birthday gift or something - this sort of secret will be told whe the birthday arrives any how. Just remember, the truth will set you free! Lie's always come out in the end.

Hope this helps you. ;)

sexynana

my husband don,t do that and i don,t do that to him . now i love him with all my heart and he knows this .but he all so knows i don,t trust no one . does he trust me yes . do i trust him no i don,t trust no man or no one .

shadycaliber

You should'nt have too, or even consider it.

Sparky

marriage is a 2 way street not one way, whatever one spouse does means the other spouse can do it too! going through cell phones is lack of trust and that is a marriage breaker. if you do not want it done to you then don't do it to your spouse.

Suzy Q

yes there is privacy between man and wife if there is credit car a woman or man can have account by themselves and not let the other know anything about the particulars.

Silvy Johnston

Sure, but be ready for whatever you find. Obviously you are worried about something. If you go digging you may find it, you may not. But if she is not doing anything wrong, you will lose points with her, that you will take a long time to gain back. If ever. Snoop on her, she will do the same to you.

Brandie H

You CAN....probably SHOULDN't...but you can.

kate n

depents what way you look at it it's good to have trust but if you think that you wife might be cheating then i would look but if you have no reson to look then no you should not look but if she got nothin to hide then whats her problem

Maria

Sure, but he shouldn't expect to be married much longer if he does.

Alexis

Well you're suppose to allow your mate an amount of personal space. However, most intimate mates usually understand moments of insecurity. If your honest about how you are feeling, which is basically a moment of fear, and express it in a way that isn't a personal attack, she would probably just hand you the phone.

If she does it enough times, trust me, you will get bored with the idea and the fear will go away. I gave my husband my cell phone password three years ago, and I know for sure he's checked it maybe 5 times or less over the three years.

I don't condone it, but amongst mates I don't see where it is a huge deal. I know I'm going to get blasted for saying that.
I just don't get the drama around it, if you love your mate and they don't "abuse" your personal space, than letting them into peepholes of personal space, if it makes them feel secure, isn't such a bad thing. If it's persistant that something different. We've become involved with that mate, because we love them, and want to make them feel secure, and vice versa. I think the social propaganda of stringent personal space is a bit overrated.

jcanime@sbcglobal.net

If you can't trust each other then get out of the marriage, jealousy and controlling issues is a turn off for me. If I thought once while dating someone, that he was going through my stuff and checking up on me, I would get rid of him immediately. No one keeps tabs on me, even when I'm married to him!

guatemama

My husband and I are completely open with each others STUFF. We trade up cell phones sometimes and check each others email if the other is busy, ect. The day my husband wants to keep those things "private" is the day I will get suspicious!

puddlejumper66

To the left of Hurt, pain, danger and to the right of cheating and lying. It's called walking the fine line. If your not breaking any of these then you should expect privacy and give privacy in any relationship. If you ask yourself has she hurt you, caused you physical pain or put you in any danger, has she lied or cheated on you and you can answer no then you should trust her and give her privacy.

faeorain

Kind of a tough one...although it does seem like an invasion of privacy...when it comes to a spouse...there should be no need for secrecy, and as well....there should be a general sense of trust between them...unless there is reason given not to trust.

There is also the issue of who pays the bill....if the husband pays the cell phone bill and the phone is registered in his name...then he should be able to know what calls are being made...at least, under the law. But if it's under the wifes name only, ...then legally the husband has no right. But it still would not be a good idea to keep secrets within the marriage.

andre' w

If you trust her you shouldn't have to. But if she's given you a reason not to trust her, like if she's cheated on you in the past and if she's trying to make things better, than there shouldn't be a problem with you looking through her phone if she has nothing to hide.

Courtney B

If he is making a call on the phone and happens to see an unfamiliar number...alright no big deal. I do not think that checking your wife's phone as a way of "spying" on her is acceptable. If a husband does not trust his wife (or wife trust husband) maybe they shouldn't be married.

yogi

No, he shouldn't do that. He could simply ask her if she had news from anyone today, without snooping around.

And if he trusts her, which he should, he'll never have that urge anyway.

nicola

well she'll be mad if she finds out. She'll think you don't trust her. But if shes acting weird then I say look, she shouldn't care anywhere. Just be careful she could get very upset if your wrong. Good luck.

I AM BACK

why would you worry about it.......you should have no secrets.............

Nellie

No, I think that is proves distrust in the relationship. There is no reason for that in a marriage or any kind of relationship. If you don't have trust then you don't have anything.

tink

If you have nothing to hide then I think it's perfectly fine. Let your spouse go through your phone. If you have a problem with that, the spouse may think you've got something to hide and will try to figure it out with some investigation.

noobslayer88

I wouldn't go that far unless you thought something very suspicious was going on.

^_^graeco^_^

they can and they can't

but for the most answer, they cant.... the words are trust and respect

but there is a question...

whats the big deal on answering the question of ur partner?

Jenny74

Well, if he feels the need to, he should first talk to her. Sometimes there maybe a situation and you don't want to jump to conclusions and ruin your marriage. She shouldn't have anything to hide, but I would hope that you could trust her. If you can't, you may need to work that out.

locox62

i think the issue here is trust, how much does he trust you; and how much do you trust him, he should not have to go through your cell phone if he trust you on what you are doing

LDJ

Why would anyone want go thought someone phone. And then again why would you want to hide who you call.

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