Which dad do I ask for his daughters hand in marriage if she has a real and step dad?

Serving Jesus

Whichever one has the largest role in parenting her. If they both do, ask both.

GREAT QUESTION!

I agree with some of the other answers you have gotten already . I have a daughter , & her Dad has never been a father to her & my husband has always raised her like she was his & she has said many times that my husband ( her step dad ) will be the one walking her down the isle , I think it depends on the father/daughter relationship sneak & if your not sure then ask her Mom...lol

Sean J

Whichever one raised her.

I had to ask my wife's mother's permission. My wife's mother is the biggest gosip in the county. It was two weeks from the time I asked permission to the day I proposed, and it was a suprise.

EVERYONE in the county knew except my wife. I took her out for breakfast that morning, and the waitress gave us a wink and asked how we were doing, and asked to see my wife's ring. She was like, "Hu? Oh, this?" and showed the pewter kitty ring I'd gotten her two years before. The waitress was so embarased. Then we went out for lunch and one of the people neither I nor my wife recognized came up to us and said, "Congratulations, you two." Bewildered, my wife asked, "What's going on?! This is like the fourth time today." The guy made something up that sounded really stupid, and my wife turned to me and said, "OK, what's going to happen at the bookstore?"

I assured her that it was nothing, and that I frequently met my friends and family at the bookstore... yes, I proposed in a bookstore. It was *mostly* a suprise by the time we got there.

Mrs. Jackson

I think you should ask them both in order to show them both equal respect.

shondak

The man she considers her "father" of course. Yes, they are both connected to her, but if she lived with the step dad and doesn't really talk much to the other, then the step dad it is. If it becomes too difficult, ask them to both have dinner with you, and ask them both!

kissfan1979

ask the mother

Amber L

You ask the one who raised her. The one that kissed the boo-boo's when she got hurt. The one who attended all her dance and school recitals. The one who made sure she had lunch money for school. The one that screened and instilled fear in the mind of her first date. The one who waited up till curfew on that first, and every date thereafter. The one who paid her way through high school and college tuition. Search your heart, It will tell you which to ask. Good luck, always

snoopdizzal

neither just ask her

Kia Sister 1- DUCK

Ask the one who she considers her father, and has the closest relationship with. Being a bio dad means nothing unless he was there for her.

Jewells

If they are both important to her then you should ask them both.

Erin

Both, but ask the one who is closest to her first. Well, unless one of them hasn't been there for her in the past. That is a special moment that should only be shared with the people in her life that deserve to be included. Congrats and good luck!

Cutie Pie

Your Real dad of course... UNLESS you two have A LOT of issues and your step dad has been more of a dad then your real dad...

SweeT

You should find out which dad means more to her. You are so sweet, old school style

sglmom

BOTH -- especially if both had a part in raising the daughter to adulthood.

Otherwise, the one who did the day to day caring and love in raising the daughter to responsible adulthood.

Shannon Letaâ„¢

Who is she closer to? Who does she consider more of her Father?
Who is ever more active in her life should definitely get a say. But, if it gets confusing, ask them both. If you're right for her, they'll love it even more that you asked both of them. Good luck!

sparky_butt

The one that would be walking her down the aisle, if its going to be both of them walking her down, then ask them both.

Kitty

Ask her.

Then, after you have reached a decision, let both dads know.

Your_Star

whoever she's closest too.

or ask both!

steve

First ask the one that she is closest to the most. After that ask the other one. Make known to the second one that you already ask the first one.

Annie

if her birth father is still in the pic, and they have a good relationship, the birth father deserves the respect of being the one ask first......... but, if the step is a father to her too, then you may need to talk to him too, after talking to the birth father... showing respect to them both, will show your full intentions to their daughter and will make relations with them both better for the future..... God bless

Douglas D

It should be the one that she is closest to.

James B

Birth Father because he's the one that's supposed to flip the bill for the wedding!!!

pandora the cat

You don't have to ask either. You ask her, and then you make the announcement to all family members. Traditions evolve just like famlies and ideals.

â™¥Honâ™¥ Luvs the Lizard King!

I've never been in that situation, but I would think the one she is closest to, if she's close to both of them i think it would be her real one, and if both the fathers get along maybe they both could walk her down the aisle

RAFAEL C

Since i am in a similar situation i would want for him to come to me first since I am the biological father.

Good2Go

I think you should ask the real father. Then if you feel like being respectful to the stepfather ask him too.

curlycute

I would say both. But if you can't do that at the same time, go the one that's providing for her financially 1st. The one that she is living with. Even if he's not the biological father. He should still get 1st pick to ask.

PraiseBob

You ask whomever she calls "Daddy".

Joy

Which one is she closest too? That one first and the other second.

SDS

Her real dad, assuming she has a good relationship with him, if you want to show the stepdad respect then ask him after the real dad.

lilac b

Ask her which one she will have walk her down the aisle. Then you will know that THAT is the one to ask.

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