While sitting at a restaurant; I asked the waiter to pass on a message to this woman, but she?

likkle

i would say that was fine i would be very impressed if someone did that for me you respected the fact that she was with other people maybe she has been busy or she could have lost your number but i hope you get a call back good luck

mrbatfink

She wont ring, she smiled because she took you asking as a compliment.

eriverpipe

I think we have to treat your query 'Is this normal?' within the confines of the fact that passing a mash note to someone (if you are over the age of 14) is not really socially conventional.... To be fair a 'semi-smile' is hardly an indication that she was even remotely interested and, not wishing to be cruel could merely have been a smile indicating that she could hardly believe she had got such a note from someone over 14!!! I would also say that a possible problem could have been the silly 'winking face' - it would intimate to me an immature nature which compounds the lack of self belief in not asking her in person. Really if you are answering 'Is it normal for someone to whom i passed a slightly immature mash note in a restaurant not to call me back?' then the answer is a resounding 'Yes.'

bord_gal

maybe she thought u could hav asked her in person and just wasnt impressed my the way you asked, maybe she wasnt single or even interested??

Firefox

She's probably not interested, but was still rather glad you'd asked. You may have brightened up her day.

David Wilson

Dear Alpine, If she was beautiful as you said, she might get plenty of people doing things like that to her and something it can be rather boring. As you were out with a group it could have given the impression that you were trying to impress your friends. this could have been embarrassing to her IE, the semi smile. Women whether beautiful or not would like to have some one approach them, this shows courage and makes them feel like a ladies rather than a mail box. Yes I would say in this case it was not normal and No you didn't do the right thing by this lady. If a Waiter was to give me a note from some woman I wouldn't even bother reading it. I like the personal touch. Good luck next time Alpine....David

Zaferus

Not every woman is available or interested, you can pass a note with your number and a smile but it takes two to tango.

mom_single_sexy

I would find it sweet. You need to realize though that she could have someone.

raftart

I would find it quite a nice gesture but would question whether or not it is a good idea to call you. She could already be taken so therefore would have left it. She could have lost your number, or got caught up in something personal or she may be shy, or thinking it too forward to call you. There could be a hundred reasons why she has not called! If she does not call by the end of the week then try to forget about it.

johanne

YOu did the right thing, but just because she smiled doesn't mean she was interested. If she doesn't call back then you know that that's the case. Move on

kiaSis3lovestodd

It's not right or wrong, but she was propbably being polite. She should have just politely declined instead of giving you the impression that she would contact you.

Just blow it off and get on with your life. I wouldn't spend any more time worrying about it. Maybe she is in a relationship.

Ellie

I would be flattered but you have to consider that she may be very happy in a relationship. She probably hasn't given you a second thought. I think you can take it she's not interested-it doesn't matter how good looking you think you are- if she's happy then thats that. We girls don't drop everything everytime we get propositioned by a man (good looking or not)- especially if we are happy already.

xyz

I'd be complimented. she smiled you back just to check you out and being polite. she may be interested or not. or she's just simply not avaible or not ready. i think you did the right thing and was very sweet and spontanous. i like guys like that. but sometimes it's not about you. you can be totally creative and a great person, but if the timing isn't right (for the reasons I listed above), there isn't much you can do. good luck and keep trying!

Linda

Like others have pointed out, she might be taken/not interested/whatever.

Doesn't always have to be anything wrong with you or what you did.

redneckgirl

That sounds so sweet and romantic, of course what women wouldnt want this to happen to her? but... if what if she is in a relationship already or has just recently finished one and inst ready yet. Everything happens for a reason, if you are ment to be you will cross paths again - trust me, fate works in misterious ways.

Tweety

Your question has nothing to do with marriage & divorce.

pamperpooch39

Attractiveness isn't all about outer appearence. Maybe she is already settled, or maybe she is the type of woman who needs to know more about a mans character before she rings them. I myself would never ring a man without getting to know him first, and I think this is a wise way to behave for most women.

Kat

I personally wouldn't call a guy I didn't know, full stop. Let alone someone who passed me a note, whom I'd never even spoken to. You don't know her story, you may not be her type or she may be in love with somebody.

Big Mamma

Just take it as maybe she's not available.

Andi

Maybe she's is taken, but flattered by the fact that you are interested in her, and instead of embarassing you in front of your friends, she was polite and just smiled and disposed of your message when no one was looking.

tattylashes

that's a nice gesture but i think she may be in a relationship already and may have thrown your message away....sorry but that could have happened....but then again she may be pondering the thought and is too shy to call you...if she don't call in the next few days...forget it....

thinkquick

that is so romantic. sorry she didn't call maybe she married or in relationship. maybe she not as confident as you. maybe she lost your number.

claudia

sorry but i don't think she's going to call you... usually someone will call on or before the third day.

it's sounds like a cute thought but maybe she didn't think you were her type.

Lizara

LOL I would love something like that. What you did was real cute. But if she hasnt called you yet she may not be interested. That doesnt mean YOU did anything wrong, it just means she's not interested.

Your tactic was on point.

Borayda

Ever thought maybe she has a husband/boyfriend?

zen

Dude! Did you ever think that she was already taken? Or just out of a relationship, or gay? I say kuddos for the ba**s to write the note and better luck next time. She gave you a smile to acknowledge your invitation, so don't think you were totally gaffed off. The note thing is really great, just wrong girl....

orac

its was quite a romantic gesture but maybe she thought it was a joke and thats why she hasnt responded x maybe she is involved with someone or maybe she just didnt like what she saw x just because you are a "certain type" (looks etc) you might not be her type x if you think she might respond to you on a one to one basis - then go back to the restaurant and see if the waiter can give you any info (is she a regular diner) if not then wait until fate takes a hand - if its meant to be it will be x

delux_version

Dude, you did the right thing. It just wasn't meant to be. Many guys that are as homely as can be, have beautiful women on their arms because they do this with every woman in their view! The massive rejects don't bother them because they sooner or later get one or two positive responses. I asked this biker guy that had a drop dead gorgeous woman with him how did "he" get "her"? He had a beer belly, four inch beard, and biker shirts was all he wears. He just said, that the shot gun approach works! Shoot a bunch of requests for a night out to a massive amount of women, and something has got to hit somewhere. I've done it wrong all my life, if I had it to do all over, I would have done it this way!

Laura

Heehee.
Ok. Not to sound bigheaded, but I'm a pretty attractive woman. I have had men come up to me out of the blue and ask me out. I don't like it. Why? Because they don't know me! They're wanting to go out with me purely based on how I look, and I don't really find that flattering. That sounds like you're just wanting to get a piece.

The thing to do is buy a woman a drink, have a conversation with her, and make her feel that you find her interesting/ smart/ funny/ whatever, and based on THAT, you want to go out with her again. This tactic of not speaking to anyone and asking them out isn't going to work for you. (If it helps your ego, maybe she has a boyfriend too. Attractive women usually do.)

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