Who do you think I should choose My Son's Father or My Fiance? PLEASE HELP?

Here'e my situation I was with my fiance for a yr. We are really good together,the feeling between us is indescribable.He make me feel so great and he get's along with my son real well.There's something special about him

On the other hand my son's father and I was together for 3 yrs prior to my fiance.It's not like we broke up on bad terms ,it was just we grew apart..Lately he has been asking for us to spend a little family time together,which my fiance let's me go because he said he wish he spent more time with his dad before he died when he was a kid he trust me so he didn't have a problem

But as we did more things together as a family the attraction and the love came back instantlyly for my son's father and I re feel in love with him.it was not something I plan,it just happened.I know it un fair to be in love with two guys at one time so I have to let one go.

Who do think I should chose and why?

Just Me

Be fair to your fiance and call off the engagement. He has the right to know that the woman he wants to marry can't decide between him and another man. That is not the foundation a marriage is based upon. I think you are in err in spending time with your ex and your child as "family time". The 3 of you are not a family unit. You both happen to be parent's of the child and while you both have the best interests of your child at heart...you are not a 3some. To say you are is cheating your fiance. Clearly, you have not let go of your ex if you believe the 3 of you to be a family. The only hope of staying with your fiance is to cut the 3some family idea you have. But, you are in your own mind a family and have to be fair to your fiance. Let your fiance find a woman who is committed to him, who loves and has feelings for only him, and when she takes her vows will be able to forsake all others.

Forever & Always

â™¥ Well I'd sit down and say to yourself... "Why did me & my son's father break up in the first place?".... You said because you grew apart. Who's to say that won't happen again? I'm sure in the beginning of ya'lls relationship it was wonderful & you felt the same way you do now, but an ex is an ex for a reason. Remember why you aren't together. You can be parents together without being together.

If you & your fiance are happy then why fix something that isn't broken? Obviously you are going to "love" your son's father, after all he gave you a handsome little boy, butttt is the thought of being in love with your son's father really worth losing your fiance (if it doesn't work out between you & his father for the 2nd time?). If you could walk away from your fiance no problem, no hard feelings, no "I miss him" or "I love him", or "what did I do?" (whether or not you & your sons father stayed together) then maybe you aren't as in love with your fiance as you think you are.

You have to access your feelings for them. Only you can make that decision. Good Luck!

Taurean W

I would advise you to stay with your fiance. Your fiance accepted you for who you are along with accepting your son. He is open minded enough to keep your son's father in your son's life. Those are just the things you have mentioned and neither is a small measure to be taken lightly.

Italy

First does your son's father feel the same or have you not said anything to him? Second the fiance that trusted you can't trust you anymore. You may not have done anything yet but!!!!!! Are you feeling that "love" for your son's father because that's the way you think things should be? Why do you and the ex have to do things together? If you have a fiance it should be the three of you doing things together. Your son's father sounds like he is going to be there for him no matter what.You need to explain to your son that mommy & daddy are always going to be there for him and that you don't need to be together to do it. It definitely isn't fair to your fiance. If you have been with him for a year why now all of a sudden do you have to do things with your EX. Don't use the child as an excuse. Get your s--t together before you end up with nobody. Why don't you talk to your fiance about how you feel think he'll still be trusting of you? Remember an ex is an ex for a reason!

babygirl2003

i tryed the let something go if it comes back it wes ment to be that is what i did naw i am married for almost 4 years and have a new little one dont forget that every day is not alway going to be grate

greta m

sounds like you need to let the fiance go. the family things you are doing make life happy for all three of you,

Buzz

go with the one that you can trust and will make you happy.

dwstargzr

My opinion? You're not in love with either one. If you think that you can actually love two different men at the same time, then I don't believe you know what love is. I'm just sorry there is a child mixed up in all your selfishness.

darick is my angel

If you son father is willing to work something out then go for it please take your time in asking it sounds like this other man loves u and ur son alot. but ur son needs his real father too. my father died when i was 22 i never knew him. i wish i did, so please sit ur sons dad down and tell him how u feel if he feels the same way then go for it. but if not then stay with the man that loves u both!

sounds like you love your fiance for how he makes you feel, and you love your ex for who he is.

who the person is never changes. how a person makes you feel will always change down the road.

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