Who is really to blame for having an affair?

Welshchick

Both, but he should not go looking in the first place!

If he is unhappy, he should leave his wife before doing the unforgivable!

Special K

The main person who is the blame for the affair is the one who has the affair! There is never an excuse to cheat, you are the ruler of your own mind body and soul!

Dimitar A

The weak husband. Nobody forced him to get in her panties.

xLoubieLoux

the person who looks for the affair is the one to blame

justagirl

The married man is guilty of breaking his vows. The mistress is guilty of sleeping with a married man. They are both at fault.

LizzaPiza

Poor Miss Piggy! Shame on you Kermit!

diceroll

both of the consenting adults

BLUE EYES

Both, we make a great combination!

teresathegreat

The weak husband is more to blame, since he is the one deliberatly breaking his promise. Her "temptations" are no excuse for his "weakness" - he always had a choice and as an adult he cannot blame anyone else for his actions. If he hadn't fallen for this woman, he could have just as easily fallen for another - he bears 100% of his part in the affair.

She, of course, is to blame for her own unethical decisions, and bears 100% of HER part in the affair. It takes two to tango, so they both bear the blame - trying to divy it up between them is pointless.

MustangPride

The husband, he was weak!

nikki f

both are to blame, however mostly the person in the relationship that stepped outside of it to fulfull some other desire by someone other than their partner. Man or Woman.

humboldt1965amy

both

louise23

Definetly Both. If u know a man is married why bother. U are barrowing another womens man and hes going home to his wife. He wants his cake and eat it too. Why would u settle for less, for a man already with another women. He does not desire u the way he should or his wife.

Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.
Find a single man who only want u and not baggage

Gretta

It is both of their faults. If you know that someone is married, that's just a line you don't knowingly cross.
Unless the person is just a cheater, when someone has an affair there is usually an emotional or psychological need that isn't been met in their current relationship. The 'marriage wrecker' probably suffers from low self-esteem and needs to feel the power of being able to take another person's partner. The 'weak' husband is just that...weak. When a good man isn't loved and appreciated and the 'home wrecker' shows him some attention, he feels needed and admired.
Everyone is accountable for their own actions regardless of their past sufferings or needs. People that try to BLAME others for what they are doing or have done need to face reality and take responsiblity for their lifestyle....that's a part of becoming mature.
Whether you are the 'weak husband' or the 'home wrecker' seek counseling and start a new life that you are proud of....one that you can take responsiblity for because you aren't ashamed of your actions and try to reconcile them by blaming someone else. Good luck!!!

littleviv2000

The married person takes a good portion of the blame, but the other woman deserves some of the blame, too, if she knew the guy was married and still pursued him.

jude

If she know she's married; both are to blame.

motochic467

Both, DUH!

spunkymom

Definately both parties, and 'possibly' the spouse that wasn't meeting the needs of wife/husband. Affairs occur b/c a spouse is looking for "love" that she/he isn't getting at home, so I've heard.

misskitti7Â®

i would say the weak husband if the girl did not know he was married she is a victim too
regards x Kitti x

Millie

Nobody is to blame, it's just one of those unfortunate things that sometimes happens in life.

sirmrmagic

The married person has the commitment not the so called marriage wrecker, but only if this person has no idea of the marital status of the other person, let us not forget some women do this too.

curious

the married man is to blame as the other women does not know that hes married if a man cant be faithful why be married in the first place why not just stay single

Niko

The weak husband.

If you're married you have made a vow to that person to be faithful. The man is the one who broke his vows, disregarded his responsibilities and proved to be weak when faced w/ tempation. The woman who has no commitments, regardless of if she knew he was married or not is free to do what she wants (though it's kind of whorish).

Cheating is wrong. & the only one who's cheating here is the man.

BabeHeart

If a person in a relationship cheats with a single person, the person in the relationship made the choice to cheat...that person is the cheater.

The other is just someone who thinks cheating is okay, and is kewl if they get cheated on...after all, if cheating were bad they wouldn't participate in it would they?

The "other woman" in your scenario didn't make the married man cheat. She's just someone who will forget she was a party to cheating when someone she digs cheats on her...she'll forget by her actions, she okay'd that to occur. She'll forget she didn't care the guy had a partner at home, and that if he's willing to cheat he's not worth wasting time on anyway (because he's a lousy person).

She's not responsible for ending their relationship, she's just a pititul, foolish person who is as self-centered as her cheating partner.

~life sucks~

If the "marriage wrecker" knows the man is married, then both are equally to blame, just in different ways. He is to blame for betraying his wife and marital vows and she is to blame for taking what did not to belong to her.

dottie c

you both are at fault..him for beinging unfaithful and you should have never look at him twice since he is a married...my the gods have pity on both of your souls

Wolfen

They are both to blame for the affair because they are both responsible for their own actions and contributions to the situation. Trying to assign blame to one party over the other is just another indication of the lack of maturity on both parts.

deborah g

Both parties.

granola

If she knows he is married she should have a little respect and keep her hands off. Half the time with women its that thrill of "can I make him cheat with me, do I have that "something" that will make it happen?" On the other hand, he should be faithful and honor the vows he took. They are both to blame, not just one person

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