Who makes all the major decisions in your marriage?

chappy_25_99

We both do, that is what makes a marriage work, been married for 19 years now

P.I. Joe

We split the major decisions according to our expertise. Technical decisions, such as replacement parts, repairs, maintenance, computer equipment, and general electronics are my sole responsibility. Keeping in touch with relatives and family friends, planning family functions, and coordinating visits to relatives fall under my wife's jurisdiction.

alwaysmoose

We run the house like a country.
I have the secretary of
Treasury
Agriculture
Food and Drug
She is the secretary of
Interior
International relations

She is commander in chief of course.

jokerthefreak1

Before marriage is the best time to make the decision as to who will make certain decisions. Both need to discuss this well before marriage and know oneself very well for this decision to be reached without argument or anger being involved. For different people there are different strengths and weaknesses as well. Two people..before marriage ..MUST know these things about themselves and their intended spouse.

Lady-Dragonfly

my husband has the final say so, but we discuss everything first. and he assures me that my opinion is valued and is used.

ladylady4470

Both but, if I am not around I trust him to do it on his own with commonsense....lol

keithleyjustin

both

loveski0

My husband and I are very lucky, we have a great marriage and get along great. When it comes to decisions, we always talk about them together and usually decide together. My husband is a very indecisive easy-going person though, so many times I take the reins and make the final decision, but not always. As all people are unique, so are all marriages.

melissa g

My husband works for a company that moves alot, he always ask me what i think. I always tell him that i don't care because i support him in his decision. I trust my husband to do the right thing. He makes most of the important decision. I make the little ones. Like what's for supper. The important thing is we ask each other what they want.

Jenny W

My husband and I make all the major decisions together.

Trophy Wife

Umm Ok but all of the "major" decision i.e. buying a house for instance are a collaberation between both my husband & I. We always consult one another letting the other know our intensions but with smaller decisions there isn't as much a need for joint decision making persay. We are more liberal I guess you could say from most marriages. We each have our own seperate bank accounts, both work full-time, each pay our own bills. Yet our home is in both of our names. There is an agreement where my husband pays the mortgage & all the house bills. And I provide all other needs i.e. groceries, pay health insurance etc. This way we maintain our own individuality. This positively feeds our relationship & there is no financial "spats". There is no "asking" when it comes to minor spending and everyones happy since each party is carrying their load. This is what keeps our marriage happy-healthy-& prosperous! We are seperate yet very much together~

orphan annie

Major decisions are decided by both of us.

Jasmine K

We make all the decisions together. Sometimes that means that together we decide to let one person handle a certain part of the marriage like I handle all of the money and finances, shopping for the family etc....

macalla b

my husband.if we can not trust our husbands to provide well for his family then we are undermining his abilities as the man of the house.sure,he might make mistakes butdont we all and he will really benefit from knowing that his wife believes in him and trust his judgement.

Danielle

well in my marriage...my husband has complete control. NOT because i let him just because hes the more responisible one that makes the better desicions. but then there are alot of things that we both decide on. it just depends on ur marriage i guess

tll

We discuss major decisions together.....I wouldnt want him to do it alone and vice versa....so its a joint effort!

dalton

I do the decisions, and I have the voice in the house! When I say I'll be the one to cook, I cook. When I say I'll wash the dishes, I wash the dishes. When I say I'll be the one to clean the house, I clean the house. She never argued and no one opposed my decisions!!!

mr.pattersonfromkc

to answer your question first i must ask one ,how many people in your marriage now you know the answer you're welcome

Big Daddy!!!

a marriage is 50/50, so before a decision is made, the both of you have to talk about it. if it is an emergency, then one person has to make the decision. bd

keezymama

I always like a line out of the Readers Digest a number of years ago in the Life in these US column.
"When my wife and I got married it was decided that she would make all the small decisions and I would make the major decisions. There has never been a major decision."
Truly major decisions should be a shared process.

suepooh23

now this is a silly question and i will tell you why if you are married you both make the major decision
its a 50/50 things

dede

both.

Steven's Mommy

we decide on all MAJOR decisions together, however on the small stuff I (wife) usually make the decision.

UofL Girl

my husband and i both talk about it before we make any big decisions. we are a team and there is no "i" in team.

Kitty

WE both do, but you r right. for ex; I take care of the bills, he does the rent, I will cook, while he cleans etc.

Maria

You both have to decide together, but one always wears the pants in the family.

Mya W

We talk about it and come up with different ways of controlling the situation but I usually have the final say.

walkin

I do, i am a a stay at home mom and there are decisions that need to be made with out me calling up my husband all the time to see what he thinks. Yes there are major decisions that we will work out together like: when to buy a house, what house we should buy, how many children, where to go on vacation, etc. But for the most part i decide things like: where are money goes, i pay all the bills, he trusts my judgment how how to raise the children, i can take my children to see all the doctors, dentists, etc with out telling him that i am. Of course if i wanted him to help me make all of our family decisions or if he wanted to help me he would. But he works 80 hours a week and i work at home. i feel like he bringing in the money and working very hard why shouldn't i take of some of the pressure of making all of the little decisions.

ChocLover

Well we both do after discussing them first. That's the idea of marriage isn't it?

Sweet Suzy 777!

I don't agree, marriage is a partnership and both should have equal say.

Flower Girl

Let me guess, that person would be you? We both make them in our marriage

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