Who should sleep on the couch?

Margaret Opine

THAT'S IT. The solution is right there in front of you. A snoring husband is a common problem in marriage and some help is out there but hubby is not interested. Well, there you go. That's it. [It's like the husband who cheated on his wife in the first 25 years of their marriage, but in the next fifteen she divorced him but he threathened her life if she actually moved out so till now she still lives with him in their country club estate home. She actually married someone else for a while to show her independence (while living with ex-hubbby) but the guy died. So, they end up still living together having both cheated on the marriage and all other such drama. Well, the cheating ex-husband becomes impotent because of tobacco use. She drags him to the doctor and the doctor told him there was a solution. Well, he refuses to do the solution. She tells ex-hubby she will remarry him if he gets the impotency fixed but hubby again refuses saying he doesn't want to be with her because she has been with somebody else. So, these two live together, their kids are grown and gone, they sleep in separate master bedrooms and they both complain to their friends that they do not have a sex life.] LISTEN. IT'S AS CLEAR AS THE NOSE ON YOUR FACE. We can make our lives bitter or sweet, highly dramatic and tramatic...it's a choice...or the solutions are a choice until you find something that works but even trying to solve the problem together is love and sexy. --MO

Sheryl F

I can really relate to this problem cos i dont get alot of sleep either due to my husband and his snoring , sounds like a train coming through the room , i have even gone to bed and fallen asleep before him only to wake up to his snoring , my sister also has the same problem with her husband , every few days she makes him sleep on a spare foldup bed in another room , she does have to get some sleep . I have found that if he has a few drinks it makes it worse. The only thing i do is to either take calmative tablets to make me relax or wear myself out in the daytime to make me very tired , if i have a sleep in the arvo im wide awake during the night which doesnt help . Make him go and sleep in another room , if he sleeps through anything doesnt matter what hes sleeping on does it .

rosie babayyy

I'd probably sleep with my 3 year old. I hate the couch, but his bed is pretty comfy. Plus I feel like if it's me being bothered, I should be the one to move. Although, he really should go to the doctor about it.

Rosie is Chief Justice

I meant to answer this question way earlier, but my boss wanted me to do some work, lol! I had this problem with my ex when we lived together. I ended up sleeping on the couch, because it wasn't his fault that I'm a light sleeper. It was so aggravating, though.

Yankee Chick

Alright Boysrus...I'm scooting over. You can bunk with me but you will have to be the big spoon.

Mean Carleen

I understand and sympathize with you because I am going through the same thing. We are doing up a make shift room with a futon in which my dude is going to have to sleep in. I feel your hubby needs to make the couch comfy enough to not hurt his back or find and use his mouth guard!!

I also suggest that you return your child to his or her own bed each and everytime they come to yours.

Jordanbby

Call the doctor and ask what they can do.
Or he should sleep on the couch, because he is the man.
Or if it is bothering you very much, you sleep on the couch, then he will feel bad.
Then he will.
=]

Designer~Wife

We have a similar problem - I bought some of those little foam earplugs and they have made a WORLD of difference in my getting some sleep without either of us having to leave the comfort of the bed.

ozJay

Have separate rooms (thick walls lol) with a bed each, and maybe share a bed sometimes, and just explain its coz of the snoring not lack of love lol

melizza

Drink a bottle of wine before bed and you won't hear anything.

Frank Capo

My Dad used to snore real bad. I don't know what they gave him or did, but he went to the doctor and he doesn't snore real loud anymore.

kitkat

If he refuses to go to doctor for help then he gets to sleep on the sofa. I wouldn't let it be up for discussion, that's his only choice period!

Katie

build an extra bedroom or take turns

Korine

I have exactly the same problem. Whoever goes to bed first gets the real bed. The kids like it better when he gets the bedroom because they can shut their door and his door.

michael

flip a coin !

Baby Bat

you could get another bed and put it in your spare room (if you have one) and make him sleep there.

AnswerDude

I know many couples that have separate bedrooms just for the snoring reason!

They are happily married and "visit" each others rooms for certain activities BUT when it comes time to sleep you have to do what you have to do! ! ! !

That Guy

Make him go to the doctor, or take a sleeping pill.

Ulrich S

I had the same problem with my ex-wife ( not the reason we split ).
We ended up sleeping in different bedrooms at opposite ends & floors of the house. We only met for spawning. Foam ear plugs do help and high pitched noises do filter through, try them you should be able to hear a child cry. As for who sleeps on the couch, it should be him.

Mickey.Slick

i'm in the same boat as you (no kids tho) and its me that sleeps on the couch. he wont wake up and refuses to sleep there unless he just happens to fall asleep on the couch in the first place. so if it wakes me up, i just get up and move. i've also tried buying ear plugs. they work pretty well, unless he's snoring in my face. you should try them out. get the foam ones that come in like a pack of 50. they should have them in places like models (anywhere that might have a hunting section)

Srsly

Snoring could be an indicator of a health problem, and he should be made aware of this. He may have sleep apnea, and is actually failing to breath at certain points of the night. This could create other health issues as well if it remains untreated.

Neither one of you should have to leave your bedroom. He really needs to see a doctor about his snoring for the sake of his health and your relationship. Couples who do not sleep in the same room have an additional strain on the relationship, creating greater distance in a time where couples hardly see each other as it is between child raising and full time jobs.

Violated Meppa

My partner snores too, he has gained some weight and his snoring has got worse over the last year. I also have got three kids to get up to, too. I usually go to bed before my partner does so I am asleep before he starts snoring. But of course if I get up to my babby or a child during the night and he is snoring, I am laying awake trying to get him to roll over or change positions so he stops snoring for long enough that I can go back to sleep.

My partner has some nasal spray and it helped a lot but he "didn't like it" so he still snores. He also complains of being very tired all the time and I have told him to go to the Doctors also because his snoring means that he isn't getting good quality sleep. If your partner and mine lost a bit of weight (I am not picking, this is just fact) they would both snore less and not as loudly and a Doctor will point this out.

I would go and sleep with one of your children, or alternate who sleeps on the couch, that is what we do if my partners snoring gets out of control.

mike j

make him sleep on the couch why should you be deprived of your sleep

suzwiz3

I had the same snoring problem with my husband. I go to the couch, because at least I get some sleep that way. he went to have surgery now so he doesn't really snore any more. Don't use sleeping pills or ear plugs because they don't work either. After you go to the couch and get some sleep and feel more normal you will be able to discuss it better with your husband. Good Luck

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My husband snores really bad too. When we first got together I didn't say anything because he said that his ex-wife used to be really mean to him about it. He has Sleep Apnea, so he has a machine that he has to wear - but he only wears it most of the time.

Your husband may have Sleep Apnea. Its a serious condition that could be life threatening. Especially if he has "spasms" at night or wakes himself up with the snoring. You should really try to convince him to see a doctor. I know it will probably be hard because my husband is stubborn too. Maybe print off some literature about it to show him. A doctor's visit wont hurt.

If he still refuses, make him sleep on the couch until he agrees to go! LOL

Exrotic_illusion

i seen something similar 2 this on wifeswap and that woman made her husband sleep in her daughters bed but there might be something u can buy at wal-mart idk