Who would you rather choose for your wife/husband: a person more or less intelligent than you?

My wife is equally as intelligent as I am.

I don't believe in marrying down and dummying up your kids.

Totty D

Definately more intelligent i think! Thats not hard though, ha! I like my partner to have their own mind and opinions!

D.Y.

more intelligent. that way I am challenged by her

kittenpinkrock

less intelligent heheheheheheehhh....

nah maybe more, i like to learn things from ppl, and id want my partner to b on my wavelength.

My husband is markedly less book smarts than I do, but is a bright guy, albeit without sufficient education. I love him dearly.

I have dated engineers and lawyers and entrepreneurs and docs, and they had nothing special to offer a relationship. I love my husband, regardless of his level of education.

aishah

as long as he can make me laugh - thats perfect...

bay bay

i would want both of us to be intelligent. lots of love.if you dont have love it will never work out.

MommaSchmitt

That is not something I would base my choice on, however, if I had to make that decision, I would want my husband to be more intelligent than Me. I am humble enough to know that I am not the sharpest knife in the drawer, curious enough to want to learn something new all the time, and yet smart enough to know that when something went wrong, I can say - "Well, You should have known better Dear!!"

newjdguy

I'd say MORE, but then she'd realize that I'm a real moron. If LESS, then I'd get annoyed. So, I'd prefer my equal with similar tastes and interests but different enough to be my perfect compliment. This isn't theoretical either. I found her! And she's gorgeous!

jo*

the same, but if i had to pick then slightly less intelligent. i dont like it when my brainy friend takes the p***.

racermom

I would rather (and did) choose the man that I loved. Intelligence not withstanding if you are compatible it really will not matter whom is more book smart or whom is more "life smart".

You should both compliment each other. I think that a couple should strengthen each others weaknesses.

In our marriage I may have a college degree and my husband does not but I could not go to his work and do what he does just as he could not go and do what I do either.

He had to learn his trade by doing it where I had to start most of mine in school and finish by doing what I had already learned.

Who is to say which is easier or harder? We both work full days and love each other to the best of our abilities. I think that is what is the most important.

When in doubt be kind and loving.

Gretta

I think the most harmonious relationships are those where the two people involved have the most in common. That being said, if you are a very intellectual person you would be happier with someone on the same level as you. If you were alot more intellectually inclined than your partner you would become very bored and irritated. This sense of superiority to your partner would cause alot of tension in the relationship. You feeling a sense of anger, irritation, and possibly disgust by your partner's lack of intelligence. In turn, this would make your partner feel ashamed, stupid, and unworthy of your affections.
So, as you can see it would be a grave mistake to attempt a relationship with someone who is not intellectually compatible one way or the other. Opposites attract, but only for a short time. Once the new wears off all the things about them that intrigued you will start to annoy, because you find that your interests and dislikes clash with theirs.
Just remember the old saying...birds of a feather, flock together!!!!!
Good Luck!

steffibaby24

i dont think there are many less inteligent than me!lol!!

JULIA E

Not so much more intelligent,but more worldy,someone who`s interesting whom I can learn from.Who isn`t patronising,condescending or arrogant and belittles You .Let`s put it this way I couldn`t cut it with someone who doesn`t know the meaning of basic words,and says what does that mean?Friend`s okay,but it`s put me off before.Likewise it`s a bad idea dating someone who`s vocab is off my rictor scale.Too posh (chance would be a fine thing!)

lilteddy0486

For me I have chosen a husband that has the same intelligence. And I like it that way> Why? Because I can talk to him with out explaining my self every ten second or having someone that treats me like a parent when his five year old is talking to him. That why we have more in common and I can never say anything to stupid.

Sarahsmama

I was with a man who was much less intelligent than me, but he treated me very well.
Now I am with a man who is much more intelligent than me, and he is decent to me, but keeps me at an arms length.

reeksofhoney

How are you measuring intelligence?

boo

I think my husband is smarter than me he know so much about everything, but he says the same about me so I guess that make us equal

tina

it doesn't matter to me its whats in the heart that counts.
if you get on well together then your good to go.

Dazed&Confused

Either or.. I know its confusing but the way I see it is this: If you marry someone more intelligent than you, you will learn new things from them, whether they are good or bad.. And vice versa, if you marry someone less intelligent than you, you can teach them things they never knew. I guess in the long wrong it really shouldnt matter because you will constantly learn things from one another whether its something smart or not... I've been married almost 3 years and Im still learning things from and about my husband to this day and vice versa...

Lydia

The same level of intelligence, but in different areas than you are. For example, I'm big on literature, social sciences, humanities - husband is more practical with sciences and math. Similar smarts, but varied areas - so it's a great mix!
Would never go for "less" intelligent - then there is no challenge and true interest there. Now this doesn't mean who has more degrees or certificates - the book learning! Life experience brings wisdom as well!

Ollie

My hubby has more qualifications than me.I would not say he is more or less intelligent.

Katie

someone who you can relate to, who has the same personality, that you can talk to. intelligence may or may not have anything to do with it.

teana

Definately smarter or the same. I have above average intelligence with an extensive education. I'm usually actracted to the working man type. Too often though some can't carry on a conversation about many things I'm interested in. Also some do not think about things and don't care why an engine works, it just does.

I want a man I can learn from, not one that I am constantly explaining things to when I can tell he could really care less anyway.

Wai Cheung

The obvious answer is more intelligent, given they actually find you attractive. Life doesn't usually go that way though, you'll usually find someone with a similar level of intelligence as yourself.

pups

Slightly less as I like to be in charge(only joking),you need someone on the same level as you otherwise you would both get frusrated

wesley s

more intelligent than me so i could be challenged intellectually without anger popping into a discussion and learn from her the things i dont know but can help me improve

Spycatcher

I truely believe thart intelligent is an abstract, something you can not quanitfy. Each person is intelligent in his or her own way. The reason people would do much better on a particular thing Vs another is because they made it a priority and worked hard for it. There are no smart and stupid, there are hard working and lazy people. A university professor would find it really hard to cheat the system, but a high school drop out is a master in it because he made it his focus!

roughruggedraw

More intelligent because that person could engage my mind and motivate me. That person could be resonable about things I couldn't. I'd have a better problem solver on my team than myself. This person wouldn't be simply a "yes person" but someone with an opinion. When we agreed on something, I'd be confident it was a well though out intelligent decision. Her reasoning would be a great asset when interpersonal conflict arised as well. I'd definitely choose someone more intelligent if I had a choice.

devanmatanian

I also agree that an equal level of intelligence is important in a relationship. Two partners have to be able to relate to and understand eachother.

Tweety

I would choose someone more intelligent than I am, because I want to be able to discuss anything with them, and that they'll be able to understand what I'm saying and participate in the conversation.

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