Why am I more lazy when my hubby is at home, and when he is away I do productive things like cleaning, cooking?

AlKemest

Sounds like a very healthy relationship.
You want to be idol around your husband. You want to be enjoying your time when you are with him. You want to keep yourself busy (and distracted) while he is away. You want to save the good stuff for when you are together - and you do the unpleasant work when you are alone.

If it is the other way around you should worry. If you find yourself suddenly pulling everything out of the fridge to give it a clean at 8pm on a friday night - if you decide to reorganise the linen press on a lazy Sunday afternoon - then it is a warning that the relationship is not going well and you are seeking distractions from him.

But sounds to me that all is good in your home......why would you be concerned about this?

thatartistwin

Because you are distracted and want to spend time with him.

Wile E.

Security. When your husband is home, you feel safe and secure, so you are relaxed. When he is away, your mind doesn't want to dwell on the feeling of insecurity, so it finds ways to avert it.

Your husband is a very lucky man.

adahen2

Because You resent him sitting there while you work.He sounds like a lazy guy..

jenk

Because you'd rather spend time with him than so house work.

redhead27

because you want to spend quality time with him, and take care of regular chores when he's away.

phattybiggums

May be he makes you feel more relaxed when he is at home. You are very content and peaceful.

munkeroos

I am the same way. I for whatever reason hate cleaning when he's around, or doing anything else. But when I am home for a day alone - I go on a cleaning spree like you wouldn't believe.

I'm not sure why - I've been like this since I was young. Always like to clean house with no one around. Maybe it's so I don't get distracted or bothered, or have to work around someones feet.

I also feel bad if he gets up to start helping me when I clean if he's home - I feel like he feels obligated to do something if I am, when that's never my intention. It's nice for him to help - but I don't like him feeling like he has to cause I am.

I enjoy cooking so it's something I do when I have spare time, which is usually when I am alone. And I don't have someone in my kitchen asking what I'm doing and if it's done yet!

Guess it's just one of those things!

Hani

You don't like being watched while you are cleaning house and doing other things. It is probably performance anxiety.
You could ignore him or anyone else if you need to get things done around the house.

Getsaved

There is nothing wrong with giving your husband all of your attention when your together, Does he say anything to you about being lazy? Chances are he loves the fact you like being with him and are not distracted doing things that can be done when he is not around. I say keep doing what you been doing.

massiel248

i get the same way. idk why, its weird though right. like i just want to sit there next to him and watch TV or lay in bed . funny i know.

gurrrrl

Maybe it's like relax time when he's at home. When he's gone you use the time for work. When he's home you want to relax together.

Mike

You get bored and try to fill your time.

Clementine

hahahaha! I am the other way. I don't like to do anything when he is not around.

Donnail

Sounds like love. When he's away, do what you HAVE to do...clean. When he's home, do what you want to do...cuddle!

fiery redhead 67

because when he is at home,you feel more relaxed and want to spend time with him,instead of doing things that need to be done. i am the same,when my husband is home,i spend time with him,and don;t read like i want or be on the computer or even clean,because we want to be with each other. you do too,want to spend timw with him. if it bothers you,maybe you could set aside 1/2 hour,to clean,or do something you want to do. or maybe an hour to read. then,when the time is up,you can concentrate on being together.

odzookers

Maybe. Or maybe it's "passive aggression"--you're getting even with him because HE doesn't do what needs to be done.

Douglas B

Do you feel that you have to be at his beck and call, ready to answer his little whims? That would be one reason not to get into something of your own. Does he criticize you or watch over you as you do those things? Again a reason not to start.

Kristen C

cuzz u expect him 2 doo that and let u chill

ramni222

when he is away you are lonely and try to keep yourself busy.

when he is home you feel secure and want to stay close to him.

i bet you love him mucho (big time).

mandieg512

I thought it was just me haha. There are a lot of reasons for every person huh.

My house goes weird after my husband gets home, during the day me and my 2 sons are here we hang out and I get all my cleaning and laundry done for the day and still don't feel rushed.
Hubby gets home and I'm running nonstop until everyone goes to bed, and my house looks like we had a birthday party in it, and then I sit on here reading about other people's lives lol.
And then another day begins....

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Well in my opinion is because you don't want to stress your self out while he's there, you want to show him that you can be a loving wife. &+ also you want to show him that even if he is your husband he needs to help because your not the only 1 that lives there!

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