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jude
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well since your the one who betrayed him, u have to be the one to regain his trust, and if your the type of person who just wants to sweep it under the rug and show no remorse, then he is going to continue to be hurt. ever tried telling him u know that what u did hurt him, and that u never want to do that again. u can't deal with it? what about the man u promised to be faithful to? your the guilty party here, u have to make amends to him its not the other way around. and u would need to allow him to talk about his pain as long as it takes for him to get over it. does it make u feel uncomfortable when he needs to talk about it. of course he needs to know why, any person betrayed would want to know why. |
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Willbewill
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**** you...you cheat and then threaten to leave because he does not accept it after such a short time......maybe you need to actualy care about how much you hurt him and express it before you blame him for the lack of trust which you destroyed you selfish *****
- People have every right to judge you....your actions and words tell us enough you selfish spoiled self righteous useless **** of a woman |
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mtblucky
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get over it???? ur telling this man u 'love' and have been with for over 16 years to get over it??? wow...stop being selfish and acting like wat you did doesn affect him. he is YOUR husband and loves you to death, but apparently you are 'bothered' by his reaction and shock...wat a way to break a mans trust. get over yourself and think about his feelings for once. |
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soozemusic
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Your answer is clear to me. Emotionally, you are stunted. That is why you were able to cheat, later tell your husband about the affair, then watch him emotionally fall apart and now ask a question like this.
There is nothing wrong with your husband. Get a mirror. |
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b_blue_eyez
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Oh Wow! Your husband needs to leave your ungrateful a**!!!!
You told him to get over it already?! You need to be bit**ed slapped! He has every right to question you whenever he wants until you build that trust up again You ruined it he didn't and if you can't be woman enough to own up to your actions and understand what you did was wrong and your husband has every right to know everything he wants then you need to grow up. If you continue in your selfish ways you are a poor excuse for a woman! |
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Daniel G
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He trusted you and you broke your trust. "Once a cheater, always a cheater." |
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T
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Im not sure what world you come from, but in this world its kinda a big deal... I mean wtf? you cheated on him, you were married, you did this for over a year and you want him to get over it? What the hell is your problem? |
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Mrs. Alexis P
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So, I guess if your Husband cheated on you, you would forgive him in 4 months or less. |
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creepycookie
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You should do your husband a huge favour and leave so that he can move on and find a respectful partner who deserves him. |
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Kathy R
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DUH....You broke you vows. You'll be lucky if he ever forgives you or trusts you again. LMAOOOOO...you're getting mad at someone for leaving their opinion on your cheating?! TOO freakin funny!!!! |
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Megara
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you should be lucky he stuck with you
give him time
you scarred him for life |
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Tami
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Yeah, odd, he took some vows, thought you and he both shared the same ones, apparently not, heck, he does not need time to grieve or adjust or anything, You should also kick him while he is down, just for giggles....
you sure are a real winner honey
let the man grieve, adjust, and personally I would advise him to leave you...no person deserves to be so used, and abused, then disrespected, and run through the wringer like that.
Please seek some help for YOUR issues, he did nothing wrong, you did, own up to it, and allow him to be human. |
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THE WORLDS GREATEST
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i woulda left ur *** |
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JaneDoe
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well would you get over it if he cheated on you after 16 yrs of marriage? You broke your vows and his trust so its tough for him to just get over it. Its not something you can get over in 4 months. Some men would have left you for doing that. |
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Betty D
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Men huh? Your husband sounds horrible. You poor poor innocent victim. |
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scoutma53
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Talk about betrayal. This wasn't a drunken one-night stand either. Personally I would never forgive you. |
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Steve from PA
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And he stayed for you, for what Your about them most pretentious funky person Ive seen here and Ive answered 7,000 points worth of questions...I don't advocate hitting women but ur azz would have been homeless after the backhanding across the room... |
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Big Sam D
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Your azz should not have cheated. He has the right to be mad. How would you feel if he creeped around on you and screwed someone else. Answer this question honestly then stop being so freekin selfish. I'm a cheater, always have been and always will be. I'm wrong as hell but I have enough sense to understand why my wife would be pissed if she caught me. You are way more selfish than me because you think he should just say " O well" and move on. It is not that easy. |
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Chadeoman
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Have you actually told him why you did it? Or is he left hanging?
Secondly, (I could very well be wrong here and I hope I am) it doesn't seem to me that you are remorseful. He seems forgiving and willing to work things out (I hope I'm right about that) despite how devastating this is.
Don't be mad at him for hurting. You hurt him, own up to it and allow his love to come through.
...you r married, u are one together. Consider him as you would/do yourself. |
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marina
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Niiiice. |
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WKDPIXY
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You broke the vow of trust...he has every right to ask questions and be upset...you should feel bad...you are reaping what you have sewn...Sadly it seems he must love you to stay with you after you had a year long affair and only felt guilty enough about it after all of that time had passed to say anything about it...Perhaps your lover ended it or you were afraid he would tell your husband...who knows...You broke it and it's up to you to fix it...so come clean and tell him what he wants to know...no matter how bad it makes you look or what makes the poor guy calls you or how little he may think of you after...you deserve what you get...he has remained with you this long...once all the darkness is out in the open...the two of you will be more capable of restoring the trust in your relationship...Be done with it already...he doesn't have to forget or forgive you...YOU need to give him a reason to still love and have new trust for you. |
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CindyLu
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You have hurt this man in the worst possible way. There was no need for you to tell him this other than to clear your own conscious. You have destroyed his trust and wrecked his image of you and of his life. You have not given him nearly enough time to get over this. You also have the totally wrong attitude you should be begging forgiveness not getting impatient because he does not get over your betrayal like it was nothing. You need to check yourself, do you love this man? Do you care that you have hurt him beyond words? Do you know that most men immediately kick the woman to the curb when she cheats? Do you know how lucky you are that he is even trying to get past this? You should be saying prayers of thanks and asking God to help you change your ways. |
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boscobubby
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I did what you did 17 yrs ago, I didn't tell my husband but the guy did confess. Thank God my husband took time to forgive me and didn't just boot my azz out like he probably should have. He has never forgotten what I did to him, myself and our marriage and I seriously doubt he ever will! Luckily, he is a GREAT MAN and even BETTER HUSBAND. Be thankful you have someone that Loves you enough to want to try to cope and keep you as his wife!!! |
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em_h32
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"It takes a life time to get over a broken heart" and i'm sorry but i would have left you by now if i were him, you petty little cow! You are so lucky to be in a successful marriage and you want to screw it up?
You obviously should have not got married so early, he deserves way better than you! |
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Msdeb gee
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YOU LUCKY YOUR STEAL MARRIED I WOUD HAVE TAKEN THE KIDS IF ANY AND THROWED U TO THE CURB ! ADULATRY IS A BIG BETRAYIAL IT TAKES A SELFISH PERSON TO DO SUCH A THING AND THINK THEY DESIREVE FORGIVENESS ! |
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Star
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I can understand your frustrated. But you have REALLY hurt your relationship with your husband. He is going to need to know what happened. My husband had an emotional affair on me and it was a year and half ago and I am still not over it. Our counselor told my husband that he HURT ME and that it was going to take time and that it usually takes between a year to five years for something like this to heel.
Im going on two years and still VERY hurt over it. You have to understand that you destroyed the FOUNDATION of your marriage and that is TRUST. The trust was broken and that the foundation of a marriage. It is very hard to trust someone when they have hurt us SOOOOO much.
Honestly it doesn't sound like your sorry. If you want your husband to get over it then you need counseling and YOU need to be completely TRANSPARENT......What does that mean? It means being open with EVERYTHING. Giving him complete access to your passwords, your cell phones, computers, calling him regularly and reassuring him the LOVE you have for him is REAL. This is what is Necessary to REBUILD a BROKEN relationship and fix the TRUST. YEAP IT IS HARD WORK. ARE YOU UP TO IT. DO YOU LOVE HIM ENOUGH. Because it sounds as though just maybe you don't love him if you not willing to fix your marriage. I mean really YOU ARE THE ONE WHO BROKE IT. So are you willing to FIX IT????? If not divorce the poor man and move on....So he can find someone who will LOVE HIM. |
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gabsbear2
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I know you probably stopped reading these answers by now cause of all the bad feed back you've gotten.But I'm going to give you a little insight.You sound alot like my husband does the same thing I found out he was cheating and I like your husband want to know it all .My husband like you gets mad and tries to pull that whole **** about him not liking all the questions,and when will I get over it ?Its been about 4 months for me too I in response say"don't like it there is the door!" truth is I wish he would just leave.But he wont I told him Don't want him it will never be the same .Life with me for him will be hard.Cause no trust and the always asking questions.Too be honest with you leave if you don't like it the question's and deal with it if you want him that bad.Prove to him your worthy by indulging him.But don't say that stupid saying to him again "get over it" .Until you felt the pain of the stunt you did don't say that.You give him as long as he needs caused you scarred him for life.And it will never ever be the same....so deal with it or well you know where the door is right? |
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Mike the man
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you were stupid you never tell or admit to having an affair that was a dumb move on your part. He is never going to forget it men are worse then women they are not able to handle it you blew it. You need to pack your bags and leave because there is no end just forget he can't handle it. |
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