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Stewie
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a popular feeling among all humans including me ( i'm a dude by the way.) dont eat yourself up it's how we're made. |
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Miss
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It's just human nature to do that. I do the same thing, lol.
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flavorflash69
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cause we all like to get reassurance and attention of others besides your husbands compliment...... good for you don't ever let yourself go |
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star
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dont feel bad. thats all women, specially if you were once very attractive and got lots of attention from other men. i do it, and i still love my boyfriend deeply. |
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mande
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Maybe your need is not to impress (other) men - maybe it's just that you like taking care of yourself and knowing that you look good.
Everyone appreciates compliments - it's human nature.
I think it's GREAT that you feel the need to primp up and stay in shape - all to many people fall into the "I'm married so I don't have to take care of myself" mode.
Keep it up. Not only will you feel better about yourself, you'll continue to receive compliments, and your body will thank you for it later on down the road. Health habits now maintain healthy bodies for years to come.
As far as for feeling competitve about everything --- unfortunately, that's what society has taught us to do. Get the best job, make the most money, drive the nicest car, own the beautiful house.....everyone wants a good, comfortable lifestyle that other people notice. The main thing is that you're happy with what you have, and that you appreciate it. You've worked hard for what you have - enjoy it!
Take care! |
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psycmikev
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Good for you! Every man or woman should stay in shape and try to remain attractive as long as possible. It is not only good for your relationship, but your physical and mental health as well. There is no rule that says once your married your dead, or that you should let yourself go to pot. I hope your husband appreciates you and does the same for you. |
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johndeere25010jr
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Low self esteem.... you think that if you can "make" other men look at you, it will boost your ego. nothing harmful in itself, but don't let it go too far, you can make your husband jealous and cause damage to the marriage even if you're not actually "cheating" |
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♥beautiful
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It's totally normal. Even though you already have a man, you still want to look good to others. It boosts your self esteem, too. You say you dont have the urge to cheat. Even when I have a boyfriend I still feel the need to look my best for others, too. It's not a big deal. |
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Nena S
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This is a good question.
Perhaps a trained professional can help you discover the answer. |
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Bored Now
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Women I know who feel this way often are insecure about themselves and feel they need the attention of other men to prove they're attractive. They put a lot of their self-worth into their desirability . I think if you don't have the urge to cheat, this probably does little harm, but it would be nice, with or without counseling, to figure out how to not feel that way. |
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Babii D
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whoa...........What |
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Dashboard Confessional Rocks!!!
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I think its natural. You wanna look good. As long as you wanna look the most good for your husband there is nothing wrong with you. |
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nicolee! [♥]
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uhhh... maybe u just want attention 2 make urself confident... |
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jessconnell
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its normal i do the same thing!
but im not mairryed i have a boyfriend but i kno ill do the same hing when im marryed because i just want other people t think i look good too |
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Zara A
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nothing is wrong with you!!! Every lady trys to impress some more than others...... Long as its only impressing your doing and nothing more no harm done?? |
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Drifter90
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There's no shame in staying in shape and keeping up your looks, whether it be for yourself or other people. At least you're doing something good to your body. Not letting yourself go like some people tend to do after they have children, as if giving birth is a license for them to look like shyt. There should be more women that think like you in the world, because I see some women with appearances that make me wanna cry...
Plus: You're naturally competitive person, so do what you gotta do! |
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josnofosm
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To make sure they've still got it! |
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linlin:D
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so your married and want to attract more men!? um...............well, like, I like somebody and I still try to get more people to like me and everything......guess that's normal........... Just don't get too actrac thingy-ma-jig. |
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CASz
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I really don't understand the thought processes behind the - I'm married so I can now let myself get big and dress in old, crappy clothes - school of thought.
Do you ignore your children and/or husband so you can spend your time primping and exercising? If not, then no harm done. You can be happy with how you look, your husband can be happy being seen with you and your kids don't want you to wait in the car or drop them off out of sight of their friends. By staying in shape you can do more activities with your family. Strangers get a good impression and are more willing to listen to you. I don't see a down side here.
Who is telling you something is wrong with you? Some slovenly family member who thinks that anyone who looks good is looking to stray?
Oh and the competition thing, as long as you use it to improve yourself rather than criticize others what's the big deal. People like to feel they can do something well. |
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Uncle Tim
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I've ran across the occasional married woman who is this way. I personally am not bothered by it. So long as it does not upset your husband this isnt a problem really, is it? All of us other guys out there in the world do appreciate it when we see a lovely woman so, we don't mind, most of us do see the wedding band and other than noticing you and appreciating how you look thats all that will happen. |
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b2b 5-2-10
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there's nothing wrong with wanting to look good... when i was younger my mom would put lipstick on me when i felt sick because looking better makes you feel better!
if you're not cheating you're not doing anything wrong
you should want to look good for yourself though... |
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Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥
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Because you don't want to feel like a wife and mother of 3..you want to know that you "still have it" |
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LienaLo
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There are some very rude answers here. I don't know what's become of the world, really. It's absolutely normal for you to want to look and feel attractive. Everyone in the world does! It feels great to do your hair, have a nice body, and wear some makeup. It boosts self-esteem and self-image. If something makes you feel good about yourself, then keep doing it! |
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rdsttp34
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What is wrong with you is that you appear to have a strong "Don't Hate Me Because I'm Beautiful" Syndrome.
That or you have inhaled too much hairspray........... |
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Slowhand
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There's nothing wrong with you. Everyone wants to look the best they can. Some people are just better at it then others. The fact that you have no urge to cheat on your husband just shows that you're not doing it just to be attractive to other guys, but that doesn't mean you can't show them what their missing and at the same time show your hubby how lucky he is. Enjoy your bod while you (and your hubby) are still young enough too and don't worry about what the world thinks. |
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DRAKE
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I would say there isnt really anything wrong with you particular...It is a complete human instict to look good and impress people, that is human nature. Dont look at it so negativly Instead maybe look good for you! Generally when people look good they feel better about themselves and so they care more about how they look. I would say its pretty natural :) |
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