Why do ex wives want to make their ex husbands life miserable?

Rich

JUst smile and be thankful you dont have to live with her anymore.

BOBBER

To remind you why she is your EX.

Magicman

I can relate to this one for sure!!!

I have an ex...she was all kind when we first got married.

Anyway, the point is that she doesn't want you and she wants no one else to have you. She thinks it's her "control" over you. She is using your daughter as a tool and it's sad.

This is what I did. I went out and got her clothing, toys and all that for when she came over. I bought her everything she would need.

I remarried and my wife instantly took over to make sure my daughter was happy. Never once was a ill spoken word said in our house when my daughter was there. We done things for her that her mother would not do and that's the best thing that you can do.

Childish games?!?...it just shows your ex wife is a self-centered person and wants to make your life miserable because hers is.

Think about what I said...it's true because that is a road I traveled on. The best thing for you to do is be mature.

And to answer your final question...there is nothing you can do other than show your love for your daughter as much as possible.

caaaad

Pay attention to when she walks out the door and realize its over.

It's called revenge. She's depressed and hurt and wants you to know what it feels like!

Em-Jay

Keep some clothes and other stuff for your daughter at your house. Avoid any arguments with your ex, she's just trying to get under your skin. When she realises it's not working, she'll move on!

BUBBAOBUBBA

Smile and make sure she know who will be making love to her ex tonight. That should really got to he. Remember always smile, it really gets to them.

mktmonitor

Because she is bitter about the divorce and she want to try to make your life as miserable as she thinks hers is. She probably can't believe you would actually not want to be married to her. If I were you I would act like nothing happened, don't let her get the response from you she is looking for!

The Mrs.

Sounds like she still loves you

Tonilynn

carry a comb or brush and bring a nice outfit if your going out. Can't change but you can adapt. That is not worth fighting over. I am an x but I haven't seen my x in six years and don't bother him and he don't bother me. I raise our four sons with my new husband and everything is going smooth. Not all women are hateful. Your daughter is who you need to focus on and not allow the mother to cause issues infront of the child. You get more bees with honey then viniger so try to be understanding...and don't let her see that it bothers you.

jtsimon6414

It is such a crappy thing to have to deal with. I have seen so many people just be so hateful. Isn't it bad enough that you both had to go thru this loss? Sighh.
Could you have her drop the child off? or have a mutual friend/ family member pick her up? until the ex gets use to the idea that your not together. Maybe allow yourself extra time so the games don't get to you? If you don't have some place to be right away, it might help.

I use to have to deal with my husbands ex.. well not directly, but being in the relationship with him puts you in it. And she would do the same type of things, the clothes ect. I just bought extra clothes to keep at our house. It wasn't worth the fight. And the games never stopped. Sorry to say. she would have her nice moments, but then she would be crazy again. (they were divorced 4 years before we met). By crazy I mean my husband drove 16 hours to pick up his daughter and the ex got mad because he was not there "on-time" and decided not to be home, and to not come home at all. So all that ways and not able to pick her up, or see her. That was just an example.
Maybe your ex will get nicer over time, when she has moved on. Good luck and hang in there.

jude

nothing u can do, she obviously is still hurt, wants to get even for something she thinks was done to her. maybe u need to keep some outfits for the child at your house, and change her clothes. nothing u can do if she knows it bothers u she will find even new ways to upset u.

brwneyedgrl

what price do u put on a broken heart and broken dreams??? Most women who play games after a divorce "spite" games is usually because they are so angry at the fact that their heart has been broken and the dream of a "whole" family has been destroyed.. doesnt make it right but thats usually where the spite comes from.. as far as the childs hair and clothes.. what do u do?? u carry a brush in the glove compartment to fix her hair when she gets in your care, and you buy your daughter clothes that stay at your place for when she comes over.. problem solved.. u just have to be smarter then the x and be able to work around anything she throws at you.. eventually with time her heart will mend , the spite games will come to a minimum if not go away all together.. just concentrate on your daughter and dont let anything the x does destroy your time with her, or shadow it.. the important thing isnt her hair or her clothes, its the time u share together thats what make "healthy" memories not the clothes or hair.. good luck.

That's probably the thing? maybe she never wanted the divorce to begin with, no matter how it may have happen, because if that was not the case she would not put you through so much, she only do whatever it is she does, because she knows it will get under your skin, but be the bigger person and kill her with kindness, she only wants you to be miserable because misery loves company, she wants you to suffer, and using children to do so is the perfect opportunity. but don't pay mom any attention, focus on your child and be thankful you get to see her regardless how she sends her, some moms are worst

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