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questionmarkguy2
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They see the writing on the wall "Dude with a kid" Not impressive |
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Chickybabe
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how old are the girls your trying to date....I dont care if a guy has kids....I have 2 myself_ |
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Kiss My Shaz
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Because you're dating horrible women. Someone who is really interested in you wouldn't let that stop them from getting to know you, trust me...... |
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texascomet
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you should be upfront and tell them at the beginning. |
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betty_htch
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Baggage, it not you or your son its the ex wife that causes a lot of heart ache. |
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misskmh80
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Because they are STUPID!!!!!!anyone who dumps someone who has a child is selfish I think....I am a single mom wish I were closer we could meet up!!!!!I wish you the best of luck and oh try telling girls about your child even before you go on a date...try somthing like.....well I have a son who is everything to me and just let girls know that upfront!!!!I wouldnt have an issue with it!!!Its just plain selfishness to me....
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Tom
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Because they don't know that you're a wonderful man who has a lot of love to give.
I'm sure you'll find someone who'll see that right away. |
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goldengirl
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I have no idea, it would be a turn on in my opinion to find a responsible, caring man who has custody of his child. Try dating a single mom, they go through the same thing so I'm sure she wouldn't be scared off by your son. |
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Bark
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tell them first |
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jiffypop88
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They are losers!!!! You need someone who cares about you and will include your son into the relationship when the time is right!! You aren't looking for the right kind of people if they are dumping you over that!!! |
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uimblue
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i wouldnt cause i have a daughter...and you are choosing the wrong types,see there is a difference between a GIRL and a WOMEN do you get me now? |
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lousylaus
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I think they worry what may lay ahead, like trouble with the EX, Alimony. Take your time the RIGHT ONE will not DUMP you, she will be very supportive. |
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nevermind
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maybe they don't want nothing serious,or maybe you are choosing the wrong kind of girls to date |
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moore
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Because it doesn't fit their ideal. They want the relationship to be all about you and them, and not to have to deal with your past (in the form of your son). Harsh perhaps, but that's basically the reason. You just need to find someone who's above that. |
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Margaret W
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thats a hard one. it depends. if you told them right away then theyre scared. theyre scared because if they actually get involved with you then they actually have to be responsile and take care of someone besides themselves. but if you told them durnig the reletionship then they broke up with u because u caught them of gaurd. that can be scary. so before u start a reletionship with somone tell them. sooner or later u will get lucky and find someone who is responsible enough. good luck! |
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LC
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Because noone wants that baby-mama drama. I know I sure in the hell don't, been there and done that and it's not worth the ulcers. |
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LadyL
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Sounds like you might have some issues that is why we get scared. Like why did she leave you type of thing. It is stereotyping, but it is also the truth! |
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luvlisteningtomusic
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I know that it hurts but a woman like that is not worth having in your life anyhow. You need to come right out and tell them as soon as you meet them. Then there will be no excuse for breaking up because you have a child. |
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Steve H.
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I think it's because they mainly want to be with someone 100 percent and visa versa, they probably figure that the X will always be in your life to some degree, so they dont want the babies mama drama. |
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Aine14
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It's nothing you're doing wrong. These women you choose to date....don't want the whole package....hang in there...you will find that someone special when you least expect it. |
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Renee
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Its not you hon...a child also comes with a mom. There are some women who dont want to get involved with "the ex" and all the drama that can go with it. Some also do not want to be responsible for someone elses child. In the future, be upfront that you have children and that you are divorced. Dating is about finding the right mix for everybody. Its a little harder when you have children because there are additional needs in the relationship, but its not impossible. Good Luck. |
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gypse76
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they get jumpy cause they're worried about being weighed down with a kid and dealing with an exwife when at this time they more interested in going out.
Next time when talking about everything you like to do, mention your son and how you work your life around it. Also that your not just hunting for a replacement mother. |
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zether
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because most women don't want to be a mother to someone elses kid
start looking into getting a mail order bride from somewhere else, like russia or china or something |
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jude
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think the girls u may be picking are immature, and seek fun and romance and not a relationship. tell them when u first meet them. maybe your picking selfish self centered girls. |
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jackdaniels4meee
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If it keeps happening, it might be the timing involved. I've met men with children before, and the ones who told me upfront were the ones I respected. I wouldn't want to find that out a few dates later when my judgment could be clouded by attraction. I did end up dumping one of those men, but not because of his son (who lived with him).
Your child's age may be a factor as well, if he is young. I have no children by choice, and if I were involved with someone who is a father, that child and his mother would be a part of my life also. And to be honest, if it got to the point of marriage, it would irritate me that part of his time and finance were being spent elsewhere. One thing you have to your advantage is that your son probably does not live with you, so you may have the upper hand to a woman in your situation.
Why not seek out women with children who understand your plight? |
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Smile
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Those females need to grow up, some look at financial side of things. Some the baby mama drama, some make that decisions because of pass personal experience. Some don't like the emotional baggage if they have not been married. Some already have enough kids. Being divorce and having a kid or kids is alot for anyone to take on. Guys too are bias, they do the same thing. |
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â†Shea→
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Are you sure thats the reason they dump you? Please know I'm not saying anything about your character....I'm simply trying to find out if there is more to this.
If you have a child you should probably bring that up right away so if they are cowards they can run away quickly. |
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Rebekah
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if there's a certain reason you're divorced it's because you cheated on your wife.... if you didn't and you're a good guy it's because it's a lot of commitment and they don't want a kid. if you find a girl that's sweet and loves you and loves the kid then you are ready to launch man! good luck! |
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Promise
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they think they have to take care of him... |
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Dmvch
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You should tell them up front when you meet them & if they don't seem interested in someone with a kid move on to someone else & don't waste your time on the girl. |
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