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dscot399
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Before your judge your husband and his intent in staying in this marriage, you need to decide if you still desire your marriage because if not what good can come out of staying in it. Nobody want to spend the rest of their lives rehashing their spouse affairs.
Answer these 3 simple questions:
Are you willing/able to forgive him?
Are you willing to work on your marriage?
Is your marriage worth fighting for?
If you answer YES to ALL THREE questions then you must decide what is the next course of action that YOU are willing to take to repair your marriage.
It takes Both parties to make a relationship work and if you are not willing to participate in making things better between the two of you than go ahead and leave.
Making a relationship work is not about LOVE, it is about having a respect for the other person and complementing each other for the greater good.
If you are willing to put in the effort in an attempt to save your marriage ONLY then should you address your husband about the matter. Otherwise you are wasting your time and causing yourself stress for nothing, because you don't want the marriage anymore. |
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rajesh_sri_vastava
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Not all men plead. Only those who doesn't get a better woman outside, pleads his wife to stay...till he finds another one. ;) |
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As long as you're his security blanket he will keep running back to you. That security blanket is called "STABILITY". This doesn't stop until you kick him out otherwise this will go on and on. Tell him it's either you or them. You have your self-worth. Do it for YOU! |
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Swordfish
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Realize this; people treat you the way you teach them. If you let them think they can say and do whatever they want; it will happen. What you need to do is move on with your life. Don't settle for less than respect, loyalty, and love. Without those qualities, you have nothing. So what's your lost to walk away from nothing? |
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scorpion queen
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he wants his cake and eat it (both ways)... playing away and wanting comfort at home..! typical men. |
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Heart-of-Hearts
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Because the one he cheated with wont cook, clean or do his landray and you know where every thing is around the house and if you have kids he dont want to have to pay child suport. It just the way I see it. If you leave he would be lost |
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Olivia
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Men like to eat their cake and have it too. You are not confused. You know what is right and what is wrong. Give him the boot! |
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Munchy Mooneo
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Sorry to say this but it's because he never thought he'd get caught, that he'd have his cake and eat it! Ignore all the good stuff he's saying to you...if he meant any of it then he wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
Be strong and true to yourself...kick his cheating a*s out! |
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naturaloatmeal
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They cheat because they see somthing they want that is new but they want to keep what they have like a car they have a car and it runs fine and he know what is wrong with it and every thing about this car. But he see another car and it new so he want to get in it and drive it but he don't want to give up his other car because it there when he needs it and it dependable so he ask you to for give him so you stay and let him drive. |
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Ms Berry Picker
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if you stay, he'll cheat again. men never do it just once. they always tell you what you want to hear, to get what they want. |
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poohbear
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Guys do that cause they think that you are not enough for them. And when they beg they do that cause they dont want to lose you. But if they beg to me I would just let them go. Cause what if they do that again. It will hurt you more and you dont want your heart to be broken. |
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marliboco
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NO!
His world is his routine. His world is everything he is used to. His world was going out and cheating for fun then realising it wasn't all it was cracked up to be and going back to 'his world'
Sorry but dump him |
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superyoyogirl
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seems he's regretting his actions and repenting? or he wants the best of both worlds. give him another chance but not on cheating again. if he does, boot him out for good.
once a cheater always is. |
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Special K
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If a man is cheating, he most likely will continue to do so until he is caught without giving any thought to losing his wife and family. Only after he is caught, will he consider his losses. I personally would never stay with a cheater. If you loved me enough, you would never run the risk of losing me. There are three rules of marriage that I live by. No cheating, if you do there is no going back, no lieing, if you do, I'll never believe anything else you say,
always trust eachother, if you break the trust, I'll never trust you again. |
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InnerBeauty28
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well.. he's pushing to see how far he can go (just like a child does)... Stand up for what you think is right and kick his sorry but to the curb! Don't fall for it... he'll cheat again. No doubt. |
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penelope
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do not know how to answer that one have been dealing with this myself and i keep saying if he loved me as much as he is claiming then why did he do it i am still living with him but that is all |
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melly
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im sure he does love u and wants to try again, but what he see's as a blip, u see as a major heartbreak, dont let him confuse u into why he did it. just be sure if u take him back are u going to be happy ? in the begining of a relationship u learn to trust each other and now u have to do that over again but that bit more cos of what he's done, can u do it ? anyway .. make sure u know what u want b4 u worry about what he wants. good luck hope it goes ok for u :) |
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Whatever
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Abusive control freak. Dump him. |
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Noadonis
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You got it in one. Congratulations. |
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abbienikol
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OK men cheat as an animal kind of need. When a man is married or in a serious relationship they get their other needs met by that one woman. Most men think that repairing an already established relationship with a woman is easier than building a whole new one with someone they dont know. They want you back because they are scared of being rejected by other women. Its an alfa thing. Thats my take anyway. but not all men are the same.... jsut the ones in Bremerton |
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scoobybird2003
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they do it because they want the cake and to eat it, they think that they are good for you, they made a mistake and want you to forgive them and then he can stop feeling guilty. i learnt the hard way cheaters never change, kick him out and start a new life without him, i know it will be hard, but you are right if you were his world why did he cheat |
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nelly
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no they just want more than they can handle |
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Laura
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I'd highly recommend the book, "He's Just Not That Into You" - I know it might be hard, but you cant let him keep that crap up, give him the boot |
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lauzy
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Because they always want more than they can have. Most men just think about pleasing themselves thats top priority. |
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good tree
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men cheat for many reasons but it's rarely because they have stopped loving you. Check this link for advice and clarity on the subject. I've been there, recently, and things can get better, honestly. |
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jo jo
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great question!! i'm on the same boat. he said he loves me and blah blah blah....too little too late!!! |
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Girl Wonders
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Who cares why.....get rid of him. |
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sugarbdp1
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They just wanted 2 see what it was like they say the grass is greener on the other side but in reality it isn't.Mine cheated on me & it took me a very long time to forgive him plus we went thru counseling & it helped 12yrs later we worked thru it & he has never cheated ever again.Mine was Drunk but that's no excuse
I Wish U Luck You'll Need it God Bless You |
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