Why do marriages fail?

average_secular_guy

they fail due to lack of a refined philosophy on ones feelings for the other, a downfall in that philosophy in response to a mate's lack of understanding of the main principle of commitment, and loyalty which is set before an engagement.

Cisco Kidd

trust issues would be my guess

George McCasland - Papa Bear

*** Over 85% of divorces and breakups involve couples who were married or living together prior to age 24. Lack of maturity is #1.

Chrys

stupidity...people who get married for the wrong reasons...don't talk BEFORE marriage. (about wanting kids, money, social life, etc..)
because they think they NEED someone...

lincoln 50

Usually its boredom, they start to crave excitement,

ragdoll1959

I think its because you get too used to your partner,and quit giving that extra attention. You just fade into the sunset

J K

Yes communication has a lot to do with it and sometimes both sides have to put their part in helping around.

Faith

People can be selfish and ruin a relationship. Genuine love is wanting what is best for another person before thinking about yourself.

Jonas J

people mistake being in love with love

you cant be in love with someone forever..just not possible with anyone..it has to turn to love

m320753

i'm 63 years old and married 40 years later this year. me and my wife have had this conversation more than a few times when we have friends over. the consensus is that kids today get married to soon. i dated my wife for about 1 year and married her 6 months later that's 18 months of dating or whatever you want to call it. today kids are getting divorced in less time than that today's kids consider marriage and put the same meaning on it like we considered going steady. they are not ready maturely or financially to set up housekeeping.

Jason M

Women only want your money. Why stay married when they can divorce you and take all your money.

cablegirl 50

Marriages fail for a number of reasons but communication is a big one. When you stop talking then intimacy becomes an issue and self esteem is lowered. Trust is another big one, if one or both of you lie to each other then thee is no trust so without trust and conversation what is left, Divorce

Tammy C

yes it does,at the same time there are a few other things that can lead to divorce:
1. selfishness; guys and even woman get in their head to forget the others needs or wants for their own. like the little things a cup of coffee in the morning, a sweet kiss before they go to work and when they get home.
2. dating; when they first got together there was a time of dating and spending quality time together.
3.getting to know each other; over time things change in each others lives. Find out each others interests, find out what's important to the other and then try to help them achieve it. Every day is something new.
4. finances; people let finances come in and change their feelings towards life it self. So take time to communicate what's going on. make a time and place to do so and leave it there when done.
Check out the movie Fire Proof

tollfree2u

money and the woman craving a rather large wanger

Hollywood Prod.

It's because people that never get anything when they finally do they panic and think they need to marry without testing the waters........I have a three year test drive rule. So far they all have broken down before that

chi_ma

Communication is extremely vital in a marriage. Everything revolves around communicating. Compromise is next. Two people will never agree on everything, but by communicating and compromising, if love is present, marriage can last. Next is commitment. As you spend years with the same person the love you felt in the beginning changes speed (so to speak) and this is when you stop, look back at all you've been through together and remember you made a commitment to love and cherish this person, for better or worse..etc. If two people were in love in the beginning, the love and effort spent to learn each other forms a bond that holds. I feel many marriages fail because one or both of the couples give up on each other before they can form that bond. Often after a break up, they find the grass isn't greener on the other side; it's just different grass.

lover

1 Lack of Communication
#2 Financial Matters
#3 Religious / Spiritual Aspects

tati

My opinion is when we let it be a routine. When that happend it's like living with a roommate.

piglet

Well, I strongly feel that EGO is the main killer or any relationship.

Even you have good communication with high ego, relationship will fail. Or you will end up in arguments, because you know how to communicate well.

When you become so stubborn to accept and admit your own attitude, the problem starts. It is applicable for both male and female.
Generally, knowing each other and living together are two different things and all people try to mix them up.
As a result they put their expectations too high and at the end start feeling neglected and frustrated.

The best thing to maintain a healthy relationship: Bring your EGO down for atleast someone whom you wish to spent your rest of life with.

Tell yourself to give in everything and do your level best to stay at this platform without any expectations. Believe it or not .. no matter how bad your partner is .. but still a Human.

Things will start changing.
"Bring your warmth near the ice.. it melts. You also become cold.. it will stay as it is".

Good Luck and Wishes to all in relationship.
Chao

hoofadoo

marriages fail because people dont work at them, and yes communication is a big key.

summerd

yeah. communication is they key. in a marriage there is man and wife, and they should both play equal roles in the marriage.
when you step into a marriage, you should always say to your partner, DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION! either we work through it, or we live together married, miserably! My husband and I are able to work through any problems we have because we both love each-other and know that we won't ever let our child grow up without both parents in her home! NEVER

vivyan

most everyone in my family is a divorcee.
(i'm going to change it though)
reasons for divorce: communication, money, cheaters, stupidity, mama's boy etc.
there are so many reasons but i don't think that they are good enough to end a marriage.
hope it helps.

warmspirited

Almost always money.

Second is trust. Communication is important in verifying your honor, intentions and loyalty. Be clear, humble and do not lie.

Third is greed. If either of you fail that test, you should not have married.

avavu

Different reasons.And yes if both sides communicate.things won't be so bad.Men don't like that.

emeraldcityserendipity

Yes, lack of communication is the primary cause of marriage failure. However, there are numerous other reasons such as the fact that people's priorities and values change, and more.

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