Why do married people fall in love with others?

-J

Because marriage has nothing to do with love. Marriage is the result of a ceremony, a title of a relationship, a way to get benefits. Something to satisfy the romanticism that we've been programmed to desire as children (I blame Disney and John Hughes films)

Love has all to do with getting to the point of marriage between two people. Love is also what keeps people committed to each other regardless of whether they are married or not.

Realistically, there are no longer any mechanisms in society to keep marriages together. So what is to keep someone who happens to be married from following their emotions and falling in love with someone outside of the marriage. Nothing....

31bravo

becuase its human nature to want what you cant have, not only that but we are humans get bored rather easily. We dont want it if we have it, and maybe something is missing at home....

happy

We know many people who are immature and selfish. They cannot keep their words. They cannot keep their vows. Immaturity is the final answer.

trackie1

How do you know they love them? Its could be lust!

Questioning

I think that falling in love is not an once-in-a-life-time thing. Why can unwed people keep falling in love; whereas,married people can't?! Isn't it basic freedom to fall in love? Well...but whether or not u act on it is another story.

Dr. Phil-lys

Because they are too cowardly to deal with the "real" issues. There is no other reason.

it's very easy to get attention from someone else but it takes real courage to look inward and give yourself what you really need instead of always relying on others to give it to you, including your partner. That's not their job, it's yours.

living_right44

Because, for the most part, they're not being cared for and loved as they deserve.

Jbcanfi74

Eather something's lacking or its just over and no one wants to admit it

emily351982

I don't know but I told my husband exactly how he would die if such a thing happened. I won't give you all the gruesome details. I assume if my husband cheats on me that it's b/c he wants to die. If more people thought like me, there'd be a lot less cheating going on or a smaller population. The world would be a much happier place :)

jaysgirl82004

They are not in love with each other anymore! They did not think before they took the plunge.

melissa_anne_maison

It could be because they are spending too much time at work or on separate projects and the emotional bond gets lost. I think instead of finding someone else they should try to re-kindle the love they had in the first place with the person they married.

hipergirl22

Please tell me you're not stereotyping all married people

Simply Lovely

Lack of attention at home.

one_sera_phim

because they run into marriage blind, not thinking completely about it and then find it okay to just walk the other way and cheat or whatever.

Scatty

Depends-- could be a number of reasons-- failiure to express their feelings to you, lack of interest

Lack of intimacy

The main one i think is intimacy

There is no excuse-- u just dont cheat on ya husband/wife period

shay

because that was not the person god set aside for them

china doll

For a number of different reasons. The best person to ask this question would be your mate. No matter how many of us answer his answer will mean the most......Besides unless he has actually told u he is in love w/someone else, this could all be your imagination running away with you.....

phluphy

The institution of marriage is no guarantee that love will continue to grow and thrive. Married people do fall out of love; people grow and change, and not all married couples grow and change in the same way. People also tend to become bored or used to their partners and are easily attracted to other people who give them attention, affection, or satisfies some need.

bluespacecountry

Something is lacking in the marriage.

shiva_kc_123

because they are stupid. they have a well at their home and searching a glass of water around.

Chunkybrown

Some people get married for the wrong reasons, I know someone who came from another country and married someone just to become legal, he never loved her or wanted to be with her and they never lived together, he always dated other people and they are still married until she becomes legal and then they plan to file for a divorce.

Other people marry just for stabilty and security or to have a positive relationship for their children to see.

apple

May be bcos they r not getting wht they expected from their partners.

jewely

My opinion is that he is lacking somethings at home.

jocelyn26

Because they can't deal with the cards their dealt. Grow up and take responsiblity!!

looking4realLuv

they do not feel unconditionally loved

lovekitty_ca

There are probably issues at home with the spouse that are not being addressed so they go outside of the marriage to feel good. Sometimes that seems easier then to deal with problems. It is a bad idea and makes things worse.

Gaara of the desert

cause there *** holes

daydreamer

They either stop loving or the love was never real. It's not easy to keep a relationship when only one side is trying. And then you get all that love and attention that you are lacking in your marriage and see ya, you realize that you can have it again, why stay where you don't have it anymore.

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