Why do men never return to their cheating wife?
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Why do men never return to their cheating wife?
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This woman has done everything to try and get my boyfriend back.
I have been with him for over a year and truly love this man. Deep down though, I know that he is still married, but his marriage has been delayed by the fact that they are currently going through bankruptcy.
His ex-wife is coming from another state to get things settled in a few weeks, including their divorce.
He has said that he doesn't want to go back to her, that he cares about her enough, but doesn't love her the same way. They have children.
She absolutely hates me and has from the beginning. She has never met me, but I've been told that she is jealous because I am with her man.
Our lease is running out and our large home is something he wants to show off to her. It is against my better judgment, but it is his home too. I don't want to be around when she comes by since I am afraid that she might try to attack me.
When he picks her up from the airport, he will be driving the vehicle I purchased to replace his old one. His other vehicle is being repossessed because of the bankruptcy.
I am not a bad person. She left him with NOTHING... he is also a war veteran and was serving during the time that she left him. He has had psychological problems from the whole ordeal and it has affected his work situation.
She thinks that he should forgive her and they should be one happy family again.... they never were. He tells me that the man she left him for was "good with kids" and a better father than he could ever be. Now she says, she wants my boyfriend to be the father he once was. She really doesn't want this divorce.
What should I do. On one hand, I want to be protective and do everything I can to prevent them from coming back together, but on the other hand, I don't want to be the sole cause of their finalized divorce.
My boyfriend has told me that I am not the reason for their divorce, that they had difficulty in their marriage... mainly due to her infidelity. Yet, he still loves her... I guess in a way that she is the mother of his children. I don't know.
I guess I still love my ex-husband, but I wouldn't want to be married to him anymore. We were the wrong match. With him though, I don't know what exactly he means by "loving" her still.
I am scared about her coming... should I be?
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msims52
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She only wants what she can’t have. If he did go back to her she would drop him again. But there is nothing you can do about it. From the sound of it he is determined that this is it, they will divorce and he will be with you. I know you are scared, just don’t say or do anything negative that might push him away. Just be positive and supportive of him. Be in YOUR home when she gets there, if he does bring her by. It is YOUR home, too!! If she does attack you call the cops. It’s called assault, period. You are not he cause of this divorce, she is. Oh, and if he does go back to her all you have lost is him. Painful, yes, but not the end of the world. If everything belongs to you, including ‘his’ vehicle, then he can’t take any of it. |
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Katie
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Men hate feeling vulnerable. I suspect when she cheated, she left him so hurt and vulnerable he never wanted to deal with it again. The hurt he felt was stronger than the love he had for her, so he left and won't put himself through it again.
I would have BIG problems with this whole thing. Why can't she rent a car? Where will she be staying? DOn't leave them alone in the house. I'm sure there are still feelings there... |
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Meghan
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Yes you should be scared but you should also just break up with the guy he obviously has some problems and so does his wife. It will probobly end very badly no matter if you are home when his wife comes or not. |
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Vek
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She is coming to your turf, you should not back down. If for some reason she shows signs of hostility towards you, your boyfriend should defend you. If he doesn't then you know he doesn't deserve you.
Think of it this way. She had her chance with him and she blew it. He belongs to you now. |
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Morgan H.
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It sounds like you have cause for concern! This is a very tricky situation and will probably lead to a broken heart. You should call him out, look him straight in the eye if there is ANY reason he should not be trusted. See what kind of reaction you get.
Good luck with this. It sounds very frustrating. |
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MissE
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Some men do go back to their cheating wives. I know of some.
As ofr your situation. Trust him, you will have no choice. |
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benthere
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yes u have great reason to be concerned it sounds to me as if he may be encouraging her.... and get a back bone for urself ur gonna leave ur home to make it comfortable for her to go there????? |
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Steve
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You are screwing a married man. He is cheating on her as well. THat is called Adultery. His wife could nail him to the wall. |
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neca
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1st off, the man is still married regardless if they are not living 2gether. You should have never got in 2 that relationship. And there are children involved. He will always have some type of communication w/his babies mama no matter who he is with...It's natural for "HER" 2 want her man back..
I was in a similar situation as yourself however, there are no children involved. My relationship w/a married man lasted approximately 2yrs and I ended the relationship bcus I felt I was being cheated. I will not be put on the backburner for NO ONE. If there is no type of relationship w/the wifey, then it's time to move onto OUR relationship and find our happiness. But sometimes, things don't always turn out the way YOU would like them to. I still love him but I also LOVE myself..
Good luck and have a great week......... |
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TRIXIE
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the chips are in the air and they are going to fall where they may. |
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Alan
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It's a major betrayal of trust.
It shakes a guy to his very core to find the woman he loves has cheated on him.
In his eyes, he is not enough of a man, for her to go to somebody else (and not just in the sense of masculinity, a man just feels... less).
That kind of hurt doesn't go away, and a guy doesn't want to be reminded of it every time he looks at his wife.
That is why a husband doesn't go back to a cheating wife. |
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Zee ♥
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Well, because she cheated. Men don't forgive their cheating wives. Though some wives do forgive their cheating husbands, considering men cheat more. |
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Electro-chick
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He may still technically "love" her in some aspect... but you really shouldn't worry about it...
A wife cheating is the worst thing a woman can do to her husband... it's like literally cutting his heart out with a rusty spoon, and he'll never forget it! He'll most likely never forgive either, and that keeps MOST men from ever wanting to "work things out" with a cheating wife...
So you shouldn't worry, as long as you don't nag him too much about his ex-wife... |
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MikeMC
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If she cheated once, she will do it again. |
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