Why do men think that wives nag too much?

Lin â™¥ J Thinker

Really? Hm...I thought it was the other way around! Lol...j/k...I try not to do it to my husband because I hate it when he does it to me.

I'll usually just tell him once and if he doesn't do it or "forgets"...oh well...he'll do it eventually (luckily, my husband is very reliable and not lazy at all...so this rarely happens)

But I think wives may nag too much because we want things done our way and at our time...and when that doesn't happen, we can keep on going on and on and on about it...until it finally gets done or we get tired and go on about a different thing.

--- oops, I change my mind...I thought about it a little more and I think I do nag my husband when it comes to things that I'm really anal about (ie: the windows needing to be open with the fan on when he's cooking bacon)

Sunshine Girl

'Cause we do. It's an impulse I have to consciously avoid. Nagging is one of the best way to drain the spark out of a marriage. Try witty, light-hearted sarcasm instead. Or reverse psychology. Or laughter. But NEVER nag.

Dave

Man, every response I have to this will land me in Violation city.

Let's say this... There are lots of things we'd LOVE to do to show you how much we love you that you'd hate as much as we dislike nagging. :-)

patrick

No matter how much you love us it still gets old. How would you like it? Don't you think we know what we are doing? What makes you so right? We are adults, not children, please treat us that way.

AnÃ¸1eusÂ©

iam not married..i have just a GF..surprisingly..she doesnt nag..calm and understanding..ruffle her feathers and watchout!-(meaning she pounces on other folks)..her job, in city hall is demanding at times..but she can balance work and play quite efficiently..she does love me..as i do her..us get married? no way..just friends.

we all need some kind of love in our lives..try and go through life as an only child.
iam in my 40's, she's in her mid 30's..hope she'll carry on my answerholic legacy..

Leon the african

perhaps because they do?

poison ivy

lol
after i found this site, my husband begs me to start nagging now =)

ak_melinda

Some men think women nag because when they live alone there's no one to tell them what to do. I think that men expect to be nagged when they are married and assume that's what women do whether we are doing it or not.

ft3535

maybe because of that selective hearing you all say men have is turned on at that exact moment when you are repeating yourselves over and over and over again..maybe that's it?
woman do not nag they just love us a lot..
and some love us more than they know....
but will never let us forget it either......

hookiejr

So you will nag more. We want to know you love us. Just kidding, I divorced my wife because she nagged too much. Nothing ever good enough, etc. I feel sorry for men who decide to be STUCK in an unhappy marriage and put up with that cr*p. Good luck to all who do......fools.

Caprikorn

LOL! This will never end. Men nag to women to, "why isn't the laundry done?" "where's my breakfast?" "where's my lunch?" "where's my dinner?" It's going to go on for all of time.

casj2006

hahaha...guys have a listening problem...so when their wives talk to them for more than 5 seconds, it starts to irritate them.

interestly NONE of my wives suffered from this particular affliction...perhaps it was my jovial personality that kept their nagging (hell let's face it their talking) to a minimum

older hippie chick

They don't like it,especially when we're right!

msqtech

insecurity

Good luck and God Bless!!

MojoMan

They do.

Are you starting again?

21questions

we know. but sometimes some space and freedom would be healthy in relationships too

courgette

Men do not listen so therefore after the 1,000th time of asking them something they think they are being nagged.

If they used their ears and brains just once it would save hours of stress for the wife.

Tom H

I think it's because of the grab handles she had installed for riding my a$s.

oceanell15

Not sure. I'm not married. Maybe men get easily perturbed.

Clogged-Up

Because they just do!!!!!!!!!!

nena24

Not sure. I'm not married. Maybe men get easily perturbed

Sassy

My husband never uses the term nag. But sometimes I can just be expressing an opinion or making a request in a calm low voice and he says that I am "fussing" at him. Of course it is always when he has a differing opinion. I think that deep down they know our nagging, fussing, whatever, is for their greater good, but for the life of me, I don't know why they don't want to admit it.

Super - Level 5

It gets annoying after a certain time.

TRUTH.

Lisa

I think they think nagging is anything we say that they don't want to hear or do.

Owlwings

It may be because you love us (I'm not conviced, always) but we _do_ hate being treated like a 15 year old all the time (even if we behave like one sometimes).

Incidentally, how often do you hear of a nagging husband (without him being referred to as a 'bit of an old woman' at the same time)?

crush4ever

men are from mars women are from venus.

We talk, they dont. We want to communicate after work, they want to unwind in front of the tv.

Ask no question. Be uncomplicated. Be a housey wifey and get ready for bed each time he needs you. Thats all he needs to be happy.

And oh, zip that mouth.

RandonPerson1

Nagging=ANNOYING!
Talking when we have time and can focus our attention-GOOD!

Nagging is when you try and either yell at us and tell us how we can do better. A one sided conversation.

Nagging is also when, say, we're watching the game and you try and talk with us.

Talking when we have the time is talking to us after the game, when we have calmed down, and we're not doing anything major.

mrsdebra1966

Because if they said that at work, they would be out of a job, so us wives get taken out on.

Iron Rider

My ex-wife didn't nag because she loved me, it was because her momma was a nagger too and that is what my ex learned at home.

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