Why do most marriages end in divorce?

Angel

I think that there are many reasons marriages end in divorce. Maybe one partner isn't being satisfied enough. Maybe a marriage ended in divorce because of adultery. Maybe the partners changed so much over time and they grew apart and they really don't know each other anymore. Maybe marriages end divorce because the communication between them wasn't so great. Sometimes marriages end because one partner thinks that the grass is greener on the other side. Then they may find out that it wasn't greener, but just more grass they had to mow. I think that there is hope for a mutually satisfying marriage when both partners involved are able and willing to make things work, to make lots of compromises and have good communication. Communication is the key to any great marriage. Hope I helped. :)

Drunken Lemmi ;) Winks

Because unfortunately, Most Americans have been taught that Divorce is a great answer to solve their problems. We live in an "all-about-me" world here, and for a lot of people, divorce is an easy way out. Sometimes, divorce is something that is very necessary. But, for those people who do not even try to solve their problems by simply talking to eachother, or going to counseling, they're just lazy, in my oppinion. If they do do the counseling thing, and it still doesn't work out, then they tried.

I think that values need to be taught at a young age about the importance about keeping promises and commitments.

LaLa

People seem to forget that you have to work at marriage everyday! Pick your battles and learn to agree to disagree.

Scotty W

Without a doubt there is hope. The divorce rate is high because people like to take the easy way out instead of honouring any commitment made.

Riella

lack of communication

joe_fleeman

The reason is simply this:
Most people are selfish and self centered and marry with a fantasy image playing in their head INSTEAD of seeing reality as it really is.

doglover4343

Great question. After 13 years of me doing marriage therapy I have a hard time understanding that too. I am married 17 years and it is great. I think two reasons. One, and the biggest one...is that people do not know how to fight fair. When they fight they fight to win instead of fighting for a goal of understanding each other. Two....I think society or whatever, has created a situation where people really don't know what it really means to be loyal, honest, caring.....all the qualities you need for a marriage.

chopsaw

Hi V...............I just lost and aunt and uncle that had been married 74 years.....and lived on the same farm for 72 and raised 7 children together...............and both had only went to the seventh grade............and he was 22 when they got married and she was 19...........so can it be done.........yes.....when I met them which was about 10 years ago for the first time ........their actions were like one. They had 180acres of farm land where they raised animals and gardens to provide for the family and make their living(which) to some wouldn't be a great deal, but when he died he was 1 month short of 101 and he still left all 7 kids 600.00 each...... not much in todays terms.........but he didn't forget them........and I don't think he forgot her either.........that' s the secret.......keep the vows.........she was 95 when she checked out... A very special thing to see........he was still working at 95.......after she died he started sliding a little. I used to call him and he would be in the fields at 6 in the morning and back home for lunch and supper...........care for his animals and in bed at 9..............almost a tale.........what an example for all to follow. And at the time I would call and talk to her,he was 82....sooooooooooo ........what you think of that for love and devotion.........sweet huh??

KamiGirl

Saying that divorce is the "easy way out" is BS! I was with my ex-husband for almost 11years, we were married for almost 8. We were married right after I graduated high school. We have two boys together and stuck it out so long for them, had we not had them, I'm certain it would have ended sooner. He is an alcoholic who has no ambition . . . he was not those things when we got married. We were both kids and grew into adults together, while, at the same time growing apart.

For those of you who think that divorce is EASY, you're crazy. It is NOT easy. It is the furthest from easy. I find myself thinking, wondering, what if I would have just stayed? How would things be right now? Would I be able to ignore the reasons that I divorced him for? Would I be able to overlook them? Every time, my answer is no and I'm reassured that the decision I made is the correct one.

Ultimately, yes, there is hope for marriage. People continue to rush into marriages (but keep in mind, for some, rushing is 6 months, for others it's 6years) You have to really know not only who you're marrying, but who YOU are in order to be able to make it work. You can't be with someone else if you can't be by yourself.

william p

so many people just get mad and dont care. people should take things more seriously and work things out instead of getting divorces

te144

There's more take than there is give. ( Married 52 yrs, not always happily, but pretty unselfishly.)

Dark A

#1 People get married too fast

#2 People do not try to work things through, when a big problem comes, its easier to give up rather than working to fix it.

Wild Ice

Because nobody thinks first before tying a knot...

BabeHeart

What's actually surprising, is the marriages that last many decades, until the people die of old age. Seriously...people grow, mature, and change over time and quite often not at the same rate or in the same direction as their partner.

'Most everything that has a beginning, also has an ending...even love. What is a great match today, may be completely unsuitable "tomorrow". Some couples are a good match for their whole life together, and others aren't but they stick it out due to a sense of commitment or obligation or because it's less scary than being single again.

It's okay for marriages to end. I'm not pro-divorce but I don't understand why people seem so surprised when a relationship runs its course. It's far more surprising for 2 people, out of all the billions on the planet, to grow and change and mature and age in ways that still are complementary and that they continue over the years (decades) to want no other. It's GREAT (don't get me wrong!) and what so many people long for...but it's also surprising because the chances are so much higher that things won't go that way.

Had to change name :(

Most people dont respect what a marriage means theese days.

Larry F

Lack of communication & compromise.

sarapuffindude

Some relationships get to serious too fast, and the couple gets sick of each other eventually.

áƒ¦ThE OnE

ugh..thats sad. It makes me scared to get married. But maybe because when people get married they know they have an easy way out..which is divorce. I feel that marriage is forever..so when I get married..I will refuse to get a divorce. UNLESS he cheats its over! lol

xoxoxo

today peoples dont really care about restarting its easy . and the feeling of being happy is so good that ......

Kevin R

Women want to be the dominate ,

Women don't want to cook or clean house .

Getting married before they can financially sustain themselves,

Both spouses having to work ,

Stress , followed by frustration, anger , fighting ,

Men who don't put their Wives first ,

Lack of Spirituality ,

KRB

People grow apart, and priorities change for everyone. I have been married for many years. It gets complicated, you take each other for granted and the things that were important are not anymore. I believe men have different needs than women. Men need affection and intimacy and women need other things first before they can connect in that way .When you first marry you both want closeness, but as time goes by a woman needs other things before she can be affectionate. But we are too simple I guess.

Nancy M.

Some couples get divorced after the children are grown and gone and they grow apart. It's like they have nothing left to stay married for. I was divorced because I was tired of arguing all the time and being mentally abused. My children were grown and gone.

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I think people far too often rush into marriage. In order for a marriage to be successful, both partners have to be ready and committed to taking that leap.

Also, marriage is hard. You go from being yourself and independent, to being part of a duo and having to constantly support and be there for that other person. It's a battle.

Mousy

yes there is hope, if the couple is able to sort out their problems and are able to apologise to each other, being humble etc. Also the main issues are if the husband isn't making money and the wife feels that she looks poor in her friends eyes, and she can't stand that humility, so she leaves him. Also because of cheating, when the women gets in her 30s and 40s, they aren't as attractive as they were before, so the men go off to find hotter women.

yaktur

Maybe it's more people realizing they made an idiotic mistake when they first got married (to the wrong person).

It happens. Don't worry about it. Besides I know a couple of marriages which hit over the 40 year mark. It happens.

Most people today are too bloody impatient or focus too much on the physical appearance to realize they are making a mistake.

You have to find the right person - that's what makes the difference it seems.

Heather

people get marrie before they are matue enough to do so. i think it should be a law to wait until you are 25 to 30 to get married. others get married because they are looking for a stable home environment, one their parents didnt provide for them. some marry out of obession to the other person and the feelings aren't exactly mutual or the obsession fizzles and they relize they're stuck with this person now that they have kids and bills together. marriage is a tricky business and should be thought out from every angle to be sure its right for you.

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