Why do people get married and then divorce? If they are going to divorce, then why marry in the first place?

big

i agree but i also don't like marriage why can't too people live together for ever and be happy with that

Sweetness

well NO ONE expects to get a divorce once they are married. It's life, it happens.

regiven

I don't think people ever get married thinking that they will get divorced. If they did then they'd be awfully damned stupid. As for why they do, I think it has less to do with their choice in people (although obviously that is a big factor) and more to do with their determination to make it work. I don't think all marriages are a good idea. I do however think a great deal of good marriages end in divorce simply because some people think it's easier to divorce someone than it is to actually try and work out your problems.

Mike R

This is actually a very good question..first of all people marry bcoz they want to be happy and that if they marry him/her they will be happy but then something goes wrong and then they get a divorce. there are two important reasons why this happens
1 its the poor judgment on their part in the beginning ..people just marry in such a hurry that they do not consider the consequences of such a hasty marriage.
2 and no one knows whats going to happen after 5 minutes they just think that everything is going to be fine..after all who knows the future.its bcoz of this that they marry and then get a divorce ..coz no one knows the future
Hope this answers ur question.Thanks

Friv

i married for life unless my husband said no more then I can't stop him. my greatest wish when I was a child is to have a family together forever. Growing up with no father (my mother left my father for another guy) was the most devasting experience. I used to have nightmares that my father is coming to kill my mother for leaving him. I didn't want my child to feel the same thing I went through.

maninthemirror327

I have been a lawyer for over 20 years. I have seen my share of divorce cases. Usually a couple divorces when one of the following things happens:

A. The husband does not make enough money to satisfy the wife's expectaions of how her life should be. Wife boots husband to seek someone who can buy her the fairytale. Usually the couple is drowning in debt.

B. Wife/husband takes partner for granted. Wife/husband lets him/her self go. Disappointed spouse seeks gratification elsewhere.

Why marry in the first place? Good question. Physical attraction combined with man willing to spend cash to get woman into bed. She gets used to having money lavished on her. She thinks the gravy train will go on for ever. This type of relationship is doomed to failure. Few men can keep up the level of spending incurred while dating.

Most modern people aren't willing to work at a marriage. They only want what they want. Selfishness/self-centreredness is the reason marriages fail.

If people would center their lives on G-d and be willing to sacrifice themselves for their partners, there'd be almost no divorce at all.

slopoke6968

marriage is a fairy tale with everyone looking for happily ever after...............its just not realistic to this life.................THATS what people dont realize!!!!!!!!!

Girl Next Door

different reasons... sometimes people don't really KNOW the person they are marrying... Sometimes they cheat... sometimes they abuse... or both... Sometimes they marry just to be married.... A lot of people don't take marriage seriously these days and don't realize marriage is a holy sacrament....

Anya R

I have that same question going on in my mind, that is a very hard question to answer. but what i think is that people do get married to fast with out knowing the person,n and another thing is that if a couple have problems the first thing there want to do is to get a divorce which i think is not good . People have to understand that if there have problem ther have to work it out and try to do every thing to work it out before thinking about divorce.

Fugitiveangel

Er...basically it's because when people decide to get married, they BELIEVE it's gonna last forver; so...tdivorce is not taken into consideration at all as a possibility;)...then, if it just doesn't work out, they have no other way but divorce.

sloegin

It's wasn't me that wanted to divorce. What can you do?

toy0830

People in this generation just dont seem to be as committed into working through the rough spots. Once a bump in the marriage crops up, they rather just leave instead of truly finding a way to make things work. They claim they did try,but honestly, they find it easier to pack up and go rather than leave and work ...and work harder each day for the rest of forever.

duana360

People don't marry just to divorce things happen...grow apart, cheat, or find that marriage isnt for them.

a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net

When people get Married, some of them, do mean, "Till Death as do part", but it depends on the couple who are joined together, could be that when a Marriage breaks up might be the Guy's fault, or the Woman, so my opinion on this matter, would be that to make a Marriage work, takes a lot of perseverance on the one who wants their Marriage to flourish. I am a survivor of it, have been Married for 49 yrs. coming this June, and I can never be happier than I am right now. But we had our ups and downs, I always was the one that sat us both down to talk about what ever problem, we encountered. Hope, I answered this question right.

califdreamer_2000

No one and I mean no one that I know that gets married because they love each other ever plan on getting divorced. That would be rediculous. You just never know.

mrsbrandyhall

IF YOU WANT TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE, WHO THEY REALLY ARE, MARRY THEM! When people marry, they feel comfortable to be themselves. Their mask slowly slips and you see the ugly that they hid so well. I really feel that noone marries thinking they will divorce, but that people sometimes see what they want to. Case in point- my first husband! The violence and cheating wasn't even hinted at untill after the vows were said! I have been married to my second husband going on 5yrs now, and we are still learning about each other!

sparkleythings_4you

Do you honestly think that people would put themselves through that pain on purpose? No one ever gets married thinking they will get a divorce, and people DO change over the course of time, it is entirely possible to change to such a degree that people no longer feel the same way about you. Also people aren't perfect, people make mistakes, people do make bad decisions, it's just part of life.

Mike

Are you kidding me? Not all of us can see into the future. people change, life and its dynamics go on, they influence a couple. No one gets married to get divorced. It's good that you have it all figured out though. Good luck with THAT.

MANGOMIATA has awesome thighs!

People don't take the time anymore to get to know their chosen mate. I recently married and, thank God, have known him for years. I know his flaws, his temper, his way of doing things and everything else in between. I also know how loving and wonderful he is and I didn't find all that out in a year or two. If folks would just be patient and let their prospective mate be who they really are, then a better decision can be made.

With that said, there still isn't a guarantee that your partner will do the same and stick life out to the end. It's too easy to get divorced and move on to what appears to be greener pastures. Life has glorified it in the movies, in our celebrities and on tv.

Other than that, it's up to the two involved.

Ya, know i dont think anyone really plans a divorce ahead of time. yes poor judgement runs the world to a fault. if we could know what is going to happen in the future, then we could do it right. no mistakes would be made. agreeing, love is takin very lightly these days. the only thing that last. is true love. the real kind. you have the generic love, then yes, the labled love. and lets not forget the love in a bottle. when people fail in a marriage. they fail not the meaning of marriage.

Mary

I think that some people run into problems in there marriage and don't know how to work it out so they decide to end it.

mayrad

I think that no one really goes into a marriage thinking that they are going to get divorce; everyone just hopes for the best and try to make it work.

sometimes marry to young and people change other times its lack of respect for marriage or just not trying hard enough! my parents divorced after 25 years. my first lasted 3 because of mental illness and second cause he got 7 year itch early. everyones different and there no guarentees

Rev. Bobby L. Adams

Our society is such that everyone is looking for a quick fix. Most people who marry. do not realize that a marriage requires patience, love, faithfulness, hard work, and more hard work.

Noahs Ark

sometimes people are so blinded by love that they cant see the faults of the other person and if they do they think that marriage will some how change them. people dont change over night and if they do things that arent good for a marriage before you get married they will do them after you get married

H. A

Unfortunatly, people tend to get married for the sake of being married. Many don't know enough about each other to build a mature and solid marriage. Furthermore, they tend to have children to soon to ever get to know each other well enough to weather the storms that come and go in a relationship. Marriage is a commitment that most take too lightly and never actually learn. So, when a problem arises they think divorce is the answer, when in many cases, if the commitment and maturity was there, the problem can be worked out. So, the answer to your question is that it is poor judgement and also, poor preperation when entering into a marriage. Running a household has many responsibilities and with the addition of children, many more are added. People should established in there careers and on solid financial footing before marrying and should discuss how they plan on running their home and work out potential querks way before the marriage. I, for one, think everyone should be required to take a forty hour course on how to live in a marriage prior to marrying, certainly, if they are under the age of twentyfive. Oh, and they all think that the marriage is forever, when entering it; as I really don't think they are planning to divorce. It is just lack of commitment and maturity in most cases. The exceptions would be criminal activity, drugs, and abuse of one to the other, and even in these cases, had they know the other person better they should have detected that these type of possibilities were eminent.

dragonfly22mom

no one ever knows for sure it will end. my parents ended it after 20 yrs and were better friends after the divorce. u just dont know.

crazyguyintx

Because its too easy to get married. Any idiot can do it.

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