Why do people stay married if they know that their marriage isn't working?

Angel Eve

I honestly dont know why. I would never stay with someone who was cheating on me. I believe FIRMLY that life is way too short to be so miserable.

tmac

I would say that neither one of them have any respect for themselves.

Fashionista

stupidity

Bev

Giving up on a marriage is a big deal, and should be. Having a spouse is also a safety net. You may not be all that happy but aren't alone either. There are lots of reasons good and bad. Maybe they just aren't ready to throw in the towel.

cmefly1999

sometimes it's for the kids....sometimes it's because they are afraid to leave one another......sometimes they believe that's the best they can do.......and sometimes it's because of HOPE

ajc0198

laziness

amber

because if there is a problem it can usually be worked out

amandarosallyn

Too convenient.

Rosie

Surprisingly, they may be comfortable with the relationship as it is

chay

maybe they're not giving for each other's IMPORTANCE ..

crissymo7484

Diffrent people di for diffrent reasons some religous some emotional some phisical but we shouldent judge other peoples descions just because it does make sense to us what what may when you say i do it's that easy to say i don't you hang on to that hope and you pray that your issues in your marriage can some how be resolved

Whootziedude

Unless there's abuse, they should stay married. the problem with our society is our microwave mentality. "It isn't working" means to most I couldn't fix it this week. Look at the trailer trash examples we get from Hollywood. You probably have bought into the mentality that they protray that marriages are disposable after they no longer make you happy. Happiness is an emotion and, as such, is fleeting. Unconditional love, what marriages are supposed to be, is a decision. Today's couples don't know the meaning of commitment and respect no one but themselves. Marriage should not be entered into unless you love and respect the other person unconditionally.

arvee

Maybe no other partner would work out for them and maybe both dont mind an arrangement like this. It's convenient!!

plsedntbthtway

they may like the marriage this way.. they may love each other. and have an open relationship

harmony

it's sad. but i think it has to do with the financial stand-point. and the cost for divorce is outrageous also. another reason is that they are both to coward to be on their own.

oldsoftee2001

they don't want to tell the family that it didn't work out and they are waiting for the other one to file so they don't have to say it was their fault.

rothe_jabbuk

Most of the time it's the kids, but I see here there are no kids involved. There could be many reasons why they cheat and stay together. Perhaps they love each other and each gives the other what they need at home, love, compassion, caring, tenderness, but neither offers the nitty gritty. Some people do it for the passion, some because they cannot stand to think of their spouse judging them when it comes time to reveal and dirty fantasy, some for the thrill and danger of it.

If they know each other are cheating, perhaps they are married for the reason that they do not want to be alone, but are wanting to be with others as well. Some people agree with "open" relationships.

Blunt Honesty

Because they are too busy trying to hurt one another to do what it is best.

Charlie

I believe that those people are afraid that there is no one else out there for them. They have spent all that time in that relationship and it was all wasted now they have to start again it could be scary for some. Also if you really love that person you try to do whatever you can to safe the relationship and you get to the point when you are just fooling yourself. But if they are cheating on each other and both know about it then I don't know.

snack_daddy10

Have you ever quit smoking?
A bad marriage is like a bad habit. You know you should stop it, but its so easy to just keep doing what you have always done.

It's because they live on hope beyond hope that one day, they'll be compatible!

hogsnotbubbles

IF their both cheating, then neither one has found another who will actually want them for good!

They will more than likely remain in a loveless, cheating marriage until one does find another who will have them.

Kate

marriage is like being partners in a firm, it's hard to split that firm even if the partners don't always agree but the firm is doing good. It's when the firm starts to fall apart that the partner split.

this couple you are talking about finds that staying married to each other is less damage than splitting, apparently they r not happy, but the plan works for them so they r ok

alohafridayalex

because divorce isn't supposed to happen

even if 50% of marriages end in divorce now

Bella

It,s normally because of the practical things like the home,Who gets what,Who will live in the house,Who will move out.

JACK

i'm happily married. can't help you!

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