Why does he always have to yell?

Ga_Christie_04

I get the same thing..only without the the apology.

It sounds like a form of depression. You lash out to those closest to you because youcan.

MrsPTB4Life

My sister has a similar problem with her husband, she is not a violent woman but she keeps a # 8 cast iron frying skillet on hand just in case he decided to raise his hand to her. Sounds like your guy could use some anger management classes. Next time he yells for no reason, have an ice cold glass of water, toss it in his face, tell him he looked a little hot under the collar, and then yell back HAVE A DAMN SEAT FOR A CHANGE, COOL OFF AND LET ME GET A WORD IN FOR ONCE, YOU HAVE THE FLOOR TO DAMN MUCH AS IT IS. Then calmly tell him, your momma didn't give birth and raise a dog, he did not marry a dog, and you're tired of him treating you like one. When it's over, tell him, "Don't expect me to say I'M SORRY for the water either because you've had it coming, i'm fed up and you have said 'sorry' enough for the both of us.

EEEEE

That sounds pretty scary. He really needs some anger management, and you should both go to counseling. I hope that you end up happy, no matter what happens, good luck.

Sweet Rosalyn

get a family member to talk to him, my dad was like this when I was like a little kid for no apparent reason. My mom talked (there sepperated) to him and its done some good.
If that doesn't work get a therapist, seriously.

Tony

Sorry isn't enough. That kind of behavior needs to stop. Your a door matt for allowing him to continue regardless if he says sorry after 5 minutes. Isn't should have happened in the first place....when you have children he'll do it to them as well and they will do it to their children.

Tuna-San

Give his mother a hard punch on the jaw, followed by a knockout blow to the temple. She didn't raise that boy right.

Lisa E

He needs to get a grip, girl! He may not hit you, but that kind of violent behaviour is STILL abusive. Being destructive is for 3 year olds. He is NOT a child and you are not his mother....and you should NOT have to put up with his tantrums! He yells like that because somewhere along the line, he's learned that throwing a fit will get him his way. When he does that, you need to walk away, hang up on him ...anything NOT to give him the attention he's after. MAYBE he'll figure out that it doesn't work with you.

Rawrrrr

He is probably just used to communicating in this dysfunctional manner. Does he do it to his family, too? The best thing you can do is suggest that you both get into marriage counseling so he can see what he needs to do to be the husband you deserve - and also work through those issues he has with flying off the handle.

marcia e

Why does he yell because he is a jack a*s

sally

maybe he got a big ego. if he dont yelling to you and just keep quiet maybe it will be worsen. so just accept him for what he happen to be. you are lucky enough to hear he apologies to you. if the condition become worsen, tell him what you feel.

hey

tell him to shut up

Dr who

Tell him to cool it are get some help or you will be gone soon.You can find better than that, that's no way to have to live.

Bistro

sound like some kind of anger management issue. I would be willing to bet that you make him feel inferior somehow...even if you dont mean to and he has to be big and macho and show you who's boss. you better be careful or you will end up hurt, this doesnt sound good.

solution: show him FOR REAL that you will not put up with this or else. make him realize how bad this is making you feel and that you refuse to spend the rest of you life like this. leave him for a few days or something...

cheetah7

Suggest anger management classes for him.

sassy_sexy_honey

Please see a marriage counsellor.

myshira

sounds like an old childhood issue to me... did his mom or dad yell either at him or at each other? I can guarantee there was someone in his life that was a "yeller".

You need to change how you "handle" him if you want the marriage to continue happily. If you need to confront him about something: write to him instead. Either by pen and paper or by email. That way he has to read it, you get your point across and he can reply without getting into a heated fight. Email is great because you can go back and check what you said. There's none of this "but you said" being misconstrued into something you didn't intend for.

Set a rule between the two of you that if he (or you) starts yelling, then you (or he) stop the conversation right there and cool off. This will eventually help him to break the habit of yelling.

Another trick you can try is to reduce the volume of your voice as he gets louder. Its hard at first, but if you find yourself having to try this, chances are he's not listening anymore anyways! This works with my husband and surprisingly with my kids too! You might even get to the point to where you are whispering at him. When I get to that point I usually end up saying something like "you're too loud and you are no longer listening to me so I'm going to go talk a walk and you can continue with the wall." LOL.. I swear it works.

best wishes

dluke68502

The first couple years are probably going to be really rough. Luckily, your man does say sorry after he emotionally hurts you because he's realizing that he was wrong and eventually he'll realize that he's constantly doing it and there is a problem; not necessarily with your relationship, but with himself. He needs to seek counseling individually, then you both need to seek marriage counseling. Your relationship isn't at risk of divorce. Counseling will only help your relationship, not hurt.
Generally, most men do have some sort of anger problem. You will hear this from friends and if you don't hear it, their probably hiding it. Its some way of keeping their manlihood because they are losing complete control of their life-especially after getting married. Don't worry about much, just seek counseling so you can take care of the problem instead of hiding from it.

Mistress Mychel

the cycle of abuse has started I may disrespect you but I make puppyeyes sincerely apologize you will not leave,youy need to leave and stay gone until he completes sometype of behavior modification thereapy or you will be writng this same question only why does he hit you then apologize and cry ,why?it only escalates from here and you have power you are giving away by staying and tolerating it is now acceptable behavior he is not actively panicking and trying to change cause he knows this is devastating you,he does not have to take that seriously you are going nowhere,until you get fed up

2cute4words

He is abusive to you. It is not physical but it is mental. He really needs to seek counseling and perhaps anger management. That's an awful thing to have to go through.

Of course he apologizes. That is just how abusive people are. I've been there myself. Fortunately the marriage did not last long. He refused to straighten up his act, so I got some aid in coming up with a plan for a safe escape and I acheived it.

You don't deserve that sort of treatment. I know it's difficult, but he needs to option of straightening up or your gone. Stand your grounds with him

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Sounds like something has gone on in his past. Another thing is that it seems from what you say, that he is trying to change his behavior. It sounds like mis communication on his part so if he yells he thinks you will understand better. I hope he will tone it down for you. Try just to ignore him and let it roll off your shoulders when he is yelling and talk to him when he is calm.

sar-mir

go and see a counselor

desigal

just try to reason with him. If he starts yelling, simply tell him if he can't listen to you for a few minutes, you'll start thinking of leaving him. Tell him how you feel, but also say that you probably make mistakes too, but he can't get mad for no reason like that. Tell him you don't want to live a scared life. Also, warn him that if can't listen to you, you'll take it that he doesn't care about you at all. Don't exactly do everything I say, but the point is try to be the boss. Don't let him push you around!

pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose

2 years, huh? Are you that desparate for a man that you would put up with this? Now tell us you want to bring kids into this relationship?

FlaChic

You have serious marital problems and he needs some anger management. And, god know what you need but I know it is something. You need to go for therapy....it will only get worse, sweetie!

michele v

HE SOUNDS LIKE HE MIGHT NEED COUNSELING. SOMETHING MUST BE BOTHERING HIM DEEP INSIDE A FEELING LIKE HE IS INADEQUATE OR SOMETHING AND HE TAKES IT OUT ON YOU

sexercist4hire

you are in a potentially fatal relationship and believe it that he will physically hurt you at some point sounds like a boy trying to wear a mans shoes you should not trust him unless you want to end up as a whipping post

sweetness

get ya'll some X an go 4 what you know.

whataboutme

Be Warn: This guy is trying to control you.....Watch out.

*Martha* My Dear

Maybe you could talk him into a psych evaluation. It sounds like bipolar disorder! I also have it. Go to Web MD and look it up. It can be treated; but requires meds. You'll see a whole new guy! Hang in there if you love him, it'll be worth it!

Kay

If you offered to go to the doctor with him, would he go?

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