Why does my Wife ruin ever single weekend?

British Scooterboy

Most likely son. My fiancee is hard work too, she works nights and is totally shattered by the weekend, we hardly ever go out to socialise anymore.

You, like me are probably better off just doing our own thing and enjoying life without the "missus".

Tamiri

It sounds like she may be OCD.

KatPan

maybe she has a little OCD talk to her about it

tina

shoot...atleast she's cleaning the house...

P&Rsmommy

Strike a compromise- tell her you are hers for Saturday morning until early afternoon, and the two of you will tag-team the house until it is clean. After that, you let it go and go have fun.........entice her with something fun she likes to do- she won't be able to say no!

onibunnybell

ha ha i was just thinking the same damn thing about my boyfriend... every weekend... laundry, soak the orchids, clean the car, back up computer files, sweep, vacuum, dust, wash EVERY thing get the dry cleaning, blah blah blah.
I have no idea why. everything is clean enough, i don't want to live in a museum! is she older than you? thats what i chalk my situation up to! I hope they get the clue before its too late!!!good luck.

Well I think that is a problem. BUT if she doesn't know it's one I don't see how you can help her.

Lovebug123

Go out without her and see what she does. If she doesn't care then she's obsessed with cleaning. If she gets upset then tell her to put the dish towel down, and go out with you.

wild_eep

This question may annoy some people, but you do have a point. It's quite hard to communicate that you're serious about too much seriousness being a serious problem, and that fun is serious too, but that's what you have to do. Big talk time.

During big talk, also listen, but don't concede too much without thinking about it. Too much cleaning can become an addiction or an obsession.

jessie

Sorry to let you know that she more then likely wont change - If I were you - Id either learn to live with it or go off and have fun on my own. If it really bothers her that your out in the world without her - she'll learn to tag along!

bobdcow

probably, but maybe you could try and "force" her to have fun and she might get to enjoy it, and keep it up.

scooter

probably its a shame really cos you could enjoy life together by going out, doing things etc. My motto is that houswork can take for ever so I only do what I have to when I have to! If i had the choice to go out with my man or stay in and do housework, the housework loses every time. We can go out and then eat out also. life is for LIVING. Maybe you should have married me sweetie!!!

lizanull

She's welcome to come to my house ANYTIME, I could keep her busy for the next several weekends if you need a 'break'.

Happy- Go

My husband and I are laid back and we just trash the house on the weekends and cook everything...Then I clean it up during the week to do it all over again !!

veganballer

wow,your wife is just trying to be organized and get ready for the week. but i understand where you coming from,i hate being i the house all day.

Phily

My mums like that!! Dnt worry it will get better shes prob just stressed or hormonal!

Melanie of all Trades

Has it crossed your mind that your idea of fun may not be the same as hers? Try surprising her with a romantic weekend getaway (even if it's only across town) or make her breakfast in bed one Saturday morning to start the weekend off right. Ultimately, you need to find out what she'd rather be doing than tidying, and do it together. There has to be something!

Good luck. :)

Amy

Some women are crazy about the housework, some just hide their frustration and unhappiness this way. If there's nothing else wrong in your relationship, and it's just her wanting everything perfect all the time, then yes, she's not going to change. I don't have all the info though. Does she work long hours and only have to weekend to clean the house? If not, and she's just a cleaning freak you'd better talk to her seriously about your problem and see if she'd do something to change. How about you try to find something she'd really like so you can lure her out of the house? Or, if you can afford it, how about hiring someone to clean the house?

Sims

speaking from 8 years of marriage, honest communication is always best... so maybe you write her a nice note and say, I love you blah blah, say some nice stuff ok? ,,, THEN you say it would make me happier of we did THIS on the weekends and since I LOVE you , I want to know what I could do to make your weekend better too because I LOVE you... and if you handle it right you guys will find out some good stuff that will make you both happier, but don't blame and listen to what she says too!

Lisa

With that attitude, nothing's changing fast. You need to sit down at talk to her, not down at her. Perhaps suggest a cleaning schedule that you two can follow. Maybe its her way of feeling in control. It might be an indication that there's something wrong with her and maybe she doesn't know how to tell you.

Good luck, man. Something like this can work out. :)

Maria B

You married her, so presumably she hasn't always been like this. Is the problem her, or you??

Aron1968_30

She might be like that forever............... but maybe there's more here than meets the eye.

Does she think that YOU like having a tidy house? Could she be doing it for attention?

I would suggest that you take the lead on this, man......... walk up to her and say "Honey, the house looks FANTASTIC! Let's go out and I'll show you how happy I am that you're my wife"

She might also have OCD, or something along those lines...... but seriously, try my first suggestion... see if that gets her more in the mood to have fun!

elmjunburke

She's wondering the same thing about you . There are many millions who would gladly trade wives with you . Count your blessings .

Smoochy Poochy

romance her, give her a reason to have a little fun!

Jess

I guess you should just think about how much easier your life has been with her in it. Talk to her and tell her exactly what is bothering you, and maybe you guys can work it out.
But let me just say this, be GRATEFUL for such an amazing wife who will clean up after your mess.

Nancy M.

Chances are your wife will be that way for the rest of her life. I had an ex mother-in-law who cared about nothing but an immaculate clean house 24 hours a day. You should be glad that your wife is a clean person. Some people don't care what their homes look like.

Zed

She needs to relax. There is more to life than constantly cleaning. I agree.

Maybe she has OCD about cleaning? Talk to her. Get her to chill out. Get her a surprise bottle of wine and make her sit down and chill.

tinyfeet64

She's probably trying to catch up on housework at weekends cos she's too busy through the week!

Or she could just be one of lifes many obssessed people that can't help but clean 24/7,and that's not healthy for either of you,and if this is the case,she can get help for this OCD(obssessive compulsive disorder),her Dr can refer her for counselling that WILL help her overcome this,and if she is suffering from this disorder,it's an awful thing to go through,but it can be worked on and resolved,in time,with the right help.

Or could it be that she is trying to keep so busy in order to avoid close intimate time with you? I'm not suggesting she's having an affair,but maybe she's feeling some sort of pressure,for some reason or another,and pressure she can do without,depending on what the problem is!

However,she really does need to put aside some time for the two of you or you will eventually drift apart,maybe she doesn't realise what bad effect this is really having on your marriage,so try explaining it to her in a calm and reasonable manner!

If that doesn't do the trick,you'll have to be blunt and tell her things will have to change or your marriage will end up at crisis point,as it nearly is already!

Ask her what is more important to her,her marriage or having an immaculate house?

Hope the out of hand weekend cleaning comes to a halt and the fun begins,for you both.

Good Luck.

oracleofohio

Maybe she's a perfectionist?? Teach her how to let loose, let go and have a little fun...I suggest you start with a bottle of wine....clean the house naked together and see what happens :)

$$V-G$$

she wil stay like that if u dont do something about it. im only 15, but i didnt clean every weekend. i would clean on a saturday and chill on sunday. but not 24hrs just maybe 1 hour. after cleaning, its not gonna b perfect, but we dont do major cleaning for another 2 weeks. tell her thats the good idea, ur house does not need to be perfect. you are right when you say she needs to have more fun.
tell her just 1 major cleaning day, chill have fun sunday or saturday afternoon, thats what i do. then dont clean for 2 weeks.. simple, maybe small cleaning but not major. she needs to have more fun..

Norrie D

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