Why does my wife still want to keep in contact with here ex bf?

Bullet Tooth Tony

Its disrespectful! Why do she feel the need to keep in contact with her Ex?

jude

depends if this friendship infringes on your marriage, just being in contact with someone doesn't mean your cheating on your spouse, but if it gets in the way or takes away time from the marriage then its inappropriate and disrespectful.

mina

You are being respectful to her by focussing only on her and not having contact with your ex's, but she's being selfish and wanting to hold onto hers! Doesn't sound promising to me at all. Anyway, tell her everything you're telling us. Tell her why it's inappropriate, and point out to her that you're doing your share of the duty. Next step would be to insist that you monitor her communications with her ex's and sometimes join in the conversation or whatever. If she has nothing to hide ever, she shouldn't have a problem with you doing so.
If she has a problem with all those conditions and behaves immaturely... you may want to consider going your separate ways...

wondering

maybe they have things in common.not love just friendship. If she is true and up front with you and not hiding it Do you trust her? I wouldn't worry.

Grow Up!!!

Do they have kids?

beenthere

Her ex boyfriend was a very close friend and someone that she cared for very much. However, she chose to love and marry you! Why would you expect her to not keep in touch with an old friend? Accept the fact that she loves you and is choosing to be with you. Stop being jealous! Trust her! As long as you try to tell her to give up her past because you are jealous of it, there will be no trust in your marriage and you will push her away.

ragdoll1959

I am friends with all my ex's. My husband is friends with my ex's. Just because they are ex's doesn't mean they can't be friends. There is a reason they are ex's. Why don't you just make friends with them instead of acting like a boy full of jealousy! Think of it this way,keep your friends close and your enemies closer

well it's not necessarily bad, but I think she should break the ties if you are a respectful spouse and not an unreasonable jealous fool... I mean, i stayed friends with one of my exes while I had my new man, but had ZERO feelings for him, would NOT have dated him again if my guy and i broke up... i totally felt more like a sister to him... I mean ZERO boyfriend-girlfriend feelings left, even after having lived together 7 years. So, she might genuinely just not understand how he could encroach on your position in her life.

amare

I agree with you. It is disrespectful! You told her you do not like it and she continues to do it. That says a lot about how much she values the relationship and your feelings. There is no good reason to keep in contact with an ex after you get married!

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