Why don't people Honor they marriage vows?

Mister Wizard

They may have not written their vows themselves and perhaps they were just reading other peoples' words, not really feeling or understanding what they were saying.

amy_butterflyblade

Because people don't think before they act, and let their hormones/emotions overrule their head. It could also be because people are also selfish, and just want to do whatever they want to do at any given time, like screw another person other than their spouse.

ladybug1

I don't know and it really pees me off i sometimes wished i lived in the olden days when gentlemen really were gentlemen and everyone got on well and it was all happy and joyfull! I hope my partner stays true to me!

Jamsie

They do, they do. please don't spoil the fairytale ending..

uncle billy

because they're weak & it's easy.

Red

Society has changed. The social stigmas of single, pregnant and cheating has changed.

It is now OK to quit a marriage. Just how OK divorce is should be discussed before getting married if you want it to last.

reverQ

Because
they don't have strong faith in it. .

Jay

no one is perfect, rules are ment to be broken always

geegee

Human nature - there are a lot of sh#t heads out there.
Saying that there are also a lot of people who do love and honor the partners. I've known mine 22 years, lived with him for 14 years and been married to him for 4 years and I trust and love him now as much as when we met and vice a versa. So don't give up hope there are some good people around you just have to find them.

vanhammer

I think some people get so into planning the big wedding and get caught up in all the planning and romanticize marriage. Marriage requires a total commitment from both people involved. You take vows to love, honor and respect each other in good times and bad. When the going gets tough people just give up too easily and walk away. Commitment takes work from both parties. Also in a marriage you must learn to compromise and some people just aren't willling to put that much into it.

Lynn

They don't know what it means to honour... : (

bexieboo

its taken me 10 years to finally tie the knot with my man n now its till we get old and die weather he likes it or not lol
marriage is a joke to some people thats just the way it is now

Girliegirl

I think a lot of people are too selfish. When they get married they think of the fairy tale ending. Happily ever after, but then when real life hits, they tend to forget their vows. They think that the puppy love, where you can't get enough of each other, should last forever. It doesn't. I still love my husband with all my heart, but I don't have the puppy love for him anymore. It goes much deeper than when we were first married, but some people think that when the puppy love is over then they must not love their spouse anymore. People expect their partner to make them happy, or they didn't think it would be hard to live with another person. Too many people have the "life's too short" attitude and if they're not happy, they tend to think it must be because of their spouse instead of looking within to see why they are unhappy. Just because they leave the relationship doesn't automatically mean they will be happy. I think that's why there's so many multiple marriages and divorces. Too many look to other people to make their lives good instead of looking within. When things are good it's easy to stay, but if there's a problem then marriage is hard. There are happy times and not so happy times, but as long as you work through it together, you should be ok, but it takes lots of work and lots of communication, dedication and patience. And you have to be willing to stick it out during the rough patches. It's too easy to quit.

waiting for baby

because once married Honnor seems to have different meaning for some people

JUSEve

In this day and age vows are nothing but words said because of the occasion.Dishonoring vows seem to be the "norm"

sarah_roo03

I am planning on getting married next year, and am not taking it lightly at all. I think it is a very serious manner and I plan to honour my vows as long as we both shall live.

godly

actions and reactions of the couple in the marriage lead them to either honor or dishonor their vows.

start 6-22-06 summer time Mom

because they are SELFISH, if your marriage is not working GET SOME HELP, don't go & cheat !

IcedWildRoseAngel

People who do not honor their marriage vows have no self control or that the want their cake and eat it to, who know what goes through peoples minds to do such acts

westfield47130

Because they got married for the wrong reasons... It's hard to honor vows that are based on love when they really aren't in love... They are often in love with the idea of being in love.... a very different thing.

Finding the right person and getting married for the right reasons... greatly increases the chances of a committed relationship without the breaking of vows...

Teh halia

" To Err is Human"

OleMarbleEyes

I do honor my vows, even though my wife has had two affairs, both workplace related, one with a manager.

That was four years ago, with much hard work, we are still together and she is a changed person.

It would have been easy, perhaps justified had I taken my problems outside the marriage, but I am not morally built that way.

sweetfemaleattitudeuk2076

Because marriage has become a trend! People want the big party, white gown, 100's of bridesmaids and a fortnight in the carribean. More often than not, people arent looking further than the day itself!

Iain N

In the same way that people lie and cheat in other aspects of their daily lives.

George McCasland - Papa Bear

As the churches have failed in their roles as moral leaders, people no longer feel it is important to follow the commandments of God.

Drummer

Because people have lost their sense of God and most things moral. There is also the constant bombardment on TV/films/magazines of extra maritial behaviour. look at Bill Clinton and he is held up to be a hero even by the most moral of people. I believe in forgiveness but the reasons are as stated.

good tree

We tend to go the extra mile to impress someone when we want to marry them, I used to put up with his football and cricket, he used to listen to me chat until the early hours. The time we put into getting our partner is not the reality once we are married. It only takes a little time to learn how to keep your spouse interested, and put their needs above your own (as long as they are doing the same for you) and any marriage can be a good one for life.

whatelks67

Because the last two or three generations have been raised to do what feels good and what is fun, not to honor their commitments. They have not been taught honor, commitment or the idea of hard work and perseverance. They have been raised to believe that everything is equal and that everyone is the same as everyone else, that everyone is special and no one loses because everyone wins. They don't even let children win/lose in a sports contest. They and the children that they are raising do not know the idea or feeling of failure and opposition.

In a nutshell-they have been taught that if it isn't fun anymore then just quit and move on to something/someone else.

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