Why friendships go sour when your friend turns into your boyfriend or your husband?

P'quaint!

We in India do it the other way...marriage first, friendship later...I'm still praying for the friendship even after celebrating Silver Jubilee!

A Husband is a Husband and a Friend is a Friend...and the twain shall never meet! That seems to be Cardinal Truth of Marriage...Be it Love or Arranged!

Madhukar Daftary

Your question relates to love marriage. Mine was arranged marriage. So, we got married first and are friends now.

Boo

life doesn't stay the same all the time there are so many changes as life moves towards the future so we should be strong and hope that changes are for good and it also adds spice to our life

Sonali

not true. my hubby and me are good friends

Expectations. As a friend you don't have stipulations on their spending or saving or keeping up responsibilities in the home. In a marriage that is necessary, and unless you have the same goals and ideals (being equally yoked) you will knock heads over when he should be mowing the bird sanctuary that has overgrown your front yard, the new car he has to have in his midlife crisis that looks great but cost $200 a month to drive to work, or getting your hair and nails done at $100 a pop every 3 weeks.

destiny

My dear Banjaran...

Hmmmm...I can NOT relate to the "thesis" at all...simply because I am STILL friends with my (Ex)husband and am so glad for him, that he's found a "new wife" with whom he is content and I wish them BOTH all the BEST IN THE WORLD !!!

And...may I say this much to you....if you are happy & content with your husband...and...you say that he's a GOOD partner, than be glad about it my dear ! You both can have friends "outside" your relationship which is just as great and rewarding !

You have all the reason's in the world to be content, if you're satisfied with your marriage...I am happy for you ! Not many people can proclaim they have a "GOOD husband" ...so be glad honey !

Wish you both all the best for the future ...and all my love..."your BEAST"***

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Besides the Lord God, my hubby is my very best friend in this whole world!

It takes two to tango!

BAN arranged marriage

Because life is not about black and white, **** happens, people fall out of love, people move on, the want different things, new pressures appear in their lives,they get exposed to new things they like, they change, the list goes on. It's called life. It is as natural for people to grow apart as it is for them to grow together. Yin and yang, they co-exist....

Yoman booga

because friends friends are not meant to be husbands or wives or boyfriends.

yoadriannejohnson

i sure would like to know the answer to that one.

gora

Envy!
True friends are always well-wishers.
Take care and best wishes always.
Acquiantances are many but friends are very few.
GOURANGA GOURANGA GOURANGA
But Krishna is our dearmost friend eternally.

constant

It is b coz in love marriage when both a boy & a girl are at the peak of their love, they overlook many things, not coming in love but needed in the married life of a couple. In 24 hours of a day, all the time a couple doesn't love only. For love too expertise in other activities are needed. Deep loving husband & wife are best possible friends. Life with friends outside needs superficial good qualities but deep loving life at home needs really good qualities a wife can realise but never friends. A simple man is that who is simple for his wife, not friends. As far as I'm concerned I'm not dependent on my wife in food preparation. She is a great expert in that but if she is very tired or not feeling like doing that, it doesn't at all affect me as I too know to a great extent how to prepare good foods but not as good as she can. I honestly tell you we learnt a lot from each other in my married life which is so far extremely sweet in all respects. We both are God fearing.

Kezia

because they start viewing that person more as boyfrnd or husband rather than a frnd.

Mike the man

i don't believe you were true friends because why would it cause a problem

Shannon

It's unlikely you are being a good friend to him.
Guys /do/ things together.
Do something with him - something /he/ likes not you. Then ask him to be a good friend back to you and sit and talk. Pick a topic he has some interest in to get started and shift to something more to your liking.

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