Why is he like this ?

hoownts2no

If you do not leave and start living your life and I mean living, you will die a slow death.

Tthere is no pleasing him or reasoning with him.

You cannot take it personally because it would be any woman in your spot. I learned this from five years with a similar scenario. I finally became enraged and physically hurt the man that put me through the same kind of misery. He had big problems and then he got into crack. That was when things got really violently ugly and he got hurt far worse than I did. I knew then, I had to get away because he made me behave like someone who I am not.

What he has done to you is tear down all your self esteem and worth and tried to give you a whole new identity based on what he says you are. GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN AND REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE. YOU WERE NOT PUT HERE TO BE HIS WHIPPING POST AND IT WILL NEVER GET BETTER UNLESS HE GETS SERIOUS HELP AND HONESTY IS CRUCIAL FOR THAT.

the_hedda_lettuce

People will treat us the way we allow them to.
And for you to be with this knucklehead for 5 years kind of makes you out as a knucklehead too.

Want to stop the abuse? Leave. Change your phone number. Move if you have to. Have a restraining order put against him so he won't be able to harass you at work or out in public.

When you decide to grow a spine, you'll find the ball has always been in your court.

Michael H

Run , don't walk.

And at 88 pounds on 5'2" frame, you sound hot in the shape department. This guy will abuse you forever.

gingers.ginger

well because you make a good whipping post .. are you nuts ... pick what little self estem you have up off the ground and move on ... your boyfriend sounds like he's so low... he'd have to look up to see a snake

Kitten

I am pretty sure that you are very much in love with your boyfriend but the type of relationship you are in is extremely dangerous. You need to realize that this is not a healthy way of life. In your situation or case, I would get rid of my pets and make a way out. It seems as if he has insecurities of his own and major issues with anger. You are extremely young and there is so much more out in the world. I am not referring to another man, I am just suggesting that life is filled with excitement, joy, and freedom. You do not have to live in fear. Please be safe and good luck to you. Think long and hard to what you want out of life and reach out and get it.

â™¥Brittanyâ™¥

it's time for you two to go your seperate ways...

Candy517

As bad as this guy is... you teach people how to treat you. It's only going to get worse if you don't drop the zero. He only does these things because he knows you will put up with it. I've been with my man for 12 years and he's never threatened me, hit me, cursed at me or even called me out of my name. He knows that even after all this time, I will leave his a$$ with the quickness if he doesn't show me that much respect. I inturn treat him like I want to be treated.

SHARIKA F

why r u staying when he treats u like this u deserve much better then that as a women if he instills fear in u its time to go what r u waitng for u need to take care of urself and get out before it gets worse then it is right now ur presious and need to be treated like the queen that u r so do urself a favor and run as fast as u can 5 yrs is a long time but abuse will last forever u dont need it sweetie good luck with the situation and i hope u deside to do whats best for u

moose

sounds to me like he's bipolar. or must of had issues with his own mother, that's why he like to mistreat woman.
My question is why on earth would you want to be with someone like that unless you yourself have issues and like to be psychologically abused.. There are lot of good guys out there.. I say you dump him.. but of course you won't and we all know that... no matter what he tells you he won't change... and you probably will never leave him so you should just cope with it best you can and hope he doesn't start to physically abuse you.
p.s.. if your paying half rent I'm sure you can find someone who can rent their room out to you, thats cheaper than apartment rent.

ImThizzin'

you should start saving money and when u have enough leave him try making friends or if you have any cousins ask them to give you a hand that relationship is not good at all and you nedd a better life. get as much money saved as possible and move the hell from there

Q&A

LEAVE NOW. TODAY.

MRS. MARTIAN

who says you cant do it alone? make some sacrifices for your own good.

Dave

He want's smacking get rid of him,i'm sure you could get a lot better than a idiot like that.Take care.xx

one of the tallents now

You've got yourself an abusive boyfriend. Chances are that he is insecure, and that something happened in the first months of your relationship to trigger something that tramatized him before. Now he is going to strong arm you, so that he is control of the situation. Whatever the trigger was, you are a constant reminder of what went wrong, and he is constantly always going to bring you down. You need to find a way out, and leave. Don't look back. If he convinced you to have an abortion, he is going to convince you to do a lot of other things you don't want to do. If you truly believe that he is dangerous, you need to get out while you still have your life. Abuse is abuse, and it isn't going to get better no matter what you tell yourself.

GOOD LUCK!

uranus2mars

you have been with him too long, girl
he is abusing you terribly
if he is threatening you, you need to get away from him...NOW...and don't look back
it only gets worse!

twinkle

And you'r with him because......?!

goldengurl412003

Sounds like he is crazy and you are too for putting up with this abuse. Get out of this so called relationship soon. Do it for yourself. You deserve much better than what you have described. He will continue to verbally/physically abuse you as long as you let him. So take charge of your life and get out of this. Life is too short to be miserable. Best wishes to you.

Mindlessfun

Your boyfriend sounds like my wife... leave... he is immature and needs professional help.

Troy C

...and you stayed with this monster for another 4 years and 8 months and counting?! You must be a glutton for punishment!

mbaker

Were you even 16 when he got you pregnant? What kind of 22 year old would be with a 15 year old? Sounds like he tried to get you while you were young before you would have the self respect to stand up for yourself. Get out there and find a man that will treat you right instead of a 27 year old who should have been locked up 5 years 4 months ago for messing around w/ a 15 year old.

burghsgirl05

leave him while you can and before it is too late!!!!!

Andi

Don't take this the wrong way but, GET OVER HIM AND MOVE ON. Lets see, if you guys have been together 5 years, then he was 22 when you were 15. Thats called statutory rape honey. There's the problem. You are a baby, he is an adult (age wise, and as far as legal things go). And if you say he changed 4 months after dating, WHY DIDN'T YOU END IT THEN? It was early enough to do so, so don't say he's immature, cause you are on the same level. AND WHAT STATE DO YOU LIVE IN? Cause if you were pregnant 4 years ago, that makes you 16, and he was 23. And NO doctor will allow a 16 year old get an abortion without parent consent. Look, obviously you like the abuse, otherwise you would have shaped up or shipped out by now. So if all this is true, my advice to you is to GET THE HELL OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP. "First time, shame on you. Second time, SHAME ON ME." Keep repeating that to yourself until you believe it.

Pakhi

Why the hell you still hanging out with this creep??? Just dump him for hevens sake. Even if you people get married you can never be happy with that monster. One who can hurt his own baby can do anything. I think he is a physicopath. So my suggestion is dump that guy and even better get some guys to beat him so hard that he can never think of behaving with a girl like this. But 1st of all get that garbage dumped

chicago floater

make like a banana and split
make like a tree and leaf his sorry butt

Mommy To Be for First Time!!

I dont know much about you are the sitiutaion but I do no that u or no woman deserves to be treated that way .. I understand you have no where to go but to make you take the life of ur own child now that selfish not childish. is there no batterd womans centers you can go to to get help? All Im saying is if you thing its bad no just wait till you get married. Because hes gonna see it as hes got papers on you and ur his. just be smart in what you do dont let ur self get hurt or ive seen in some cases killed. Please get help before its to late

im whats up!

you are only 20 years old and you are being mentally and emotionally abused you need to get away from this man it sound like he has some serious anger issues ....you don't deserve this there are plenty of men that will love you the way you deserve to be loved and put those butterflies in your stomach again ....move on

David J

I know why he treats you bad. YOU LET HIM!!! quit whining, take action now, tell him how is to act, if he doesn't straighten up ....... leave. No threats just pack up and move on down the road, never speak with him again. A thin gal at 5'2" won't have a problem getting a good man. Good Luck

LDJ

Time to move on.

Rafa

You should be asking yourself " why are you with him?" Get away, now. This guy is a monster matters will only get worst. There is no counseling in your situation. The abuse has gone to far--end it. Good Luck!

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