Why is it husbands feel threaten if their wife wants to go to college and get a degree?

groovytarheel

I think it is because they think that you might view them differently after finishing school........as if you are on another level...........and they may feel that leads to you looking for someone else that's on the same level as you are.

Switch

I dont think he was threatened of you going to school. I think he was more concerned with the finances.

sexxi_tami_13

becuase there lossing time to be with u and they think ur gonna be out in the world making sumthing of ur self and they think ur just gonna like forget about him and move on...

upnorthguy

Most "old fashioned" men need to feel like they are the significant financial provider in a relationship. Many times the desire of their wife or significant other to get more education and a better job only reminds them of how much they are lacking in the provision area of the relationship.

â™¥The Mrs.â™¥

Mine is not, we have nearly identical degrees. In fact I want to go back for my Masters and he does not. He has no problem with it, in fact he is encouraging me.

Generalities are not good things to make.

However I think your husband would feel pressured to keep the family living as you are now, without making sacrifices for the loss of income.

The D

I would have to say that most men probably don't feel that way. Most families need to incomes to be comfortable. The better your education the better job you can get. Not to mention your life together will be better if you are happy.

#1 Lucy Fan

He probably felt threatened and was worried that if you did get an education you might make more money than him and that can make a man feel insecure.

abstract_alao

he is insecure and wants to feel like a "Man". Personally if you don't have a degree you can't mess with me. I need someone who can be my equal.

smile4u

Alot of men have big egos and feel bad if they don't make more than the women. I think its from the olden days when men HAD to support their wives. Also They might think their spouse may become smarter than them and find someone who can be their equal in intelligence. Or they just want to control them. There are alot of reasons. Depends on the man. Some are very supportive and some are not. Just be happy that you were capable of working and going to school and be proud of your accomplishment. And sit the hubby down for a nice long talk about his problem with it. Good Luck

westfield47130

It would seem to me he is a cheap SOB. I think any REAL man would love for his wife to be happy and do anything to support her goals. It's the childish men that never grew up...that are idiots on this subject.

bardstale

Sounds like he needs to have control over you - money and job earning potential. Good luck living that life.....it only gets worse. Let me guess, you have kids and he makes you do all the work, he goes out with his friends whenever he wants and you have to ask his permission to go out with yours.

emtb9

Because they are afraid you will better yourself, and not need them anymore... or find someone else while in school... its more of a jealous thing than anything.

sara

because then you would not have needed him. he would have felt emasculated and jealous by your financial independence. as long as both of you needed to work to survive he had that hold over you. he probably also felt that you were growing in your life and would grow apart. as long as he could hold you back, you would have no chance of finding someone else, not that you would, but guys are threatened by independence. no matter what men say, they want weak desperate women they can control and do what they want.
or maybe he didn't think you could afford school and still keep up the lifestyle you were living.

SpecialK

Funny you ask. My wife is an RN and just went back to school last week to get her Bachelors and on to become a Nurse Practitioner. I was hesitant at first because of the expense. I figured, hey I've got a good job, you already have a good job, why go back to school. Then, I realized that it was something she geniunely wanted to do. So, I quickly reminded myself that I'm in no position to restrict anyone from doing anything. Why on earth would I prevent my own wife from doing something she wants to do? I'm not her owner. Maybe you should softly mention this perspective to your husband in a non-confrontational way. My wife is much happier and we both learned from what could've been an "ordeal" had I acted selfishly.

Not all husbands feel that way. I have a bachelors degree while my wife continued and has her Masters.

Your husband is insecure he feels that once you have your degree not only will you have more education, you could potential make more money and he feels that threatens his manhood.

Do what you have to do and get your degree an education is something that know one can take from you

spunion

Sounds like he's afraid you will be more successful than he is. Spouses who don't try to let the other better themselves, especially if it's through school, is controlling and I would think he may be emotionally abusive. Why would he not "let" you go? Why didn't you just tell him that you are going, and cut back on work and go to school? You could have applied for scholarships, grants, etc, and put any loans in your name so he is not responsible.

There's still time, you can still get a degree don't ever think it's too late. If you are regretting it, and you don't realize that this is what YOU want to do, then you will be asking yourself this question for the rest of your life. Find a school, work out a payment plan, and GO!

bubbly_bubbles_r_bubbly

they feel that wy becuse you want to make something of yourself and they think they wont have a place in your heart anymore.

smileytexas

Good grief! You took that from him? Do it for yourself. You need to live your life and not let him manipulate you. The day may come that you'll get laid off because you do not have the BSN.

deniver2003

Some guys feel intimidated by successful women. It makes them feel like they don't need him. Men have a natural need to take care of their families and when a woman is successful she takes some of that away.

BabeHeart

The question shouldn't be "Why is it husbands" but "Why does MY husband" and you probably know the answer to that, since you know him.

Someone who doesn't support our growth and betterment, isn't a good partner.

Boeafitness.com

they are scared because you will have an affair and also leave him.

and they think that they should be the ones to bring in more money and have degree and power.

girl go do what you want and tell him you love him but need this for you.

daisy

Because then you wouldn't be as dependant on him.

Pythagoras

Let me get this straight... Men feel threatened if the wife goes on to get a degree and make more money? This would allow the man to not work 16,000 hours a day to make ends meet.

Go study your little behind off, sweetie.

Mrs.Ann

seek God in this matter he'll provide for u

Venus

He should have been more supportive of you. If you feel it is something you should do then do it anyway. My now ex husband did not want me to go to college and after I left him I went back to get my BA and MA best decision I ever made. Marriage is a joint partnership do not waste your life regretting something you should have done.

mark019

I am not threatened by ANYONE who wants to get more education and better themselves. It's too bad your husband doesn't think that way. I wish you all the luck in the world if you deside to pursue it.

Judgie C

Most of us don't. It sounds like yours might have some issues with his manhood.

mindless1eye

I've been trying to get my wife to go
back to school and get her Masters'
in Teaching, but she won't do...'cause
she wants me to go back first and
up-grade my degrees in order to
change jobs !!!
So, we're at a stand off !!! ;-)

DK Julie

Because they are afraid that you'll get a life & mind of your own and realize you don't need them. In your case it seems like your husband just didn't want to pay the $$$ necessary for the extra college classes.

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