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Mina
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It isn't stupid to get married at a young age but there is more risk involved. Assuming that you are under the age of 25 it is very smart to ask this question. The funny thing is you won't know for sure if you should be get married until a later age when you are much older. In my case I am so glad I waited. Not that I could even see myself as married when I was in my 20's but I know that I was not mature enough. Seriously no one is. I had a lot of growing up to do. Even with a full time job and putting a roof over my head, That didn't make me grown. I still knew in my gut there was more to do before I settled down. And you couldn't tell me I wasn't an adult. No one wants to hear that.
Now a sure way to know you are ready for that someone special is when you have been with that someone special and it didn't work out. Sometimes you think you can love someone so much and want to be with them and then it doesn't work out and you look back and you're like "What the hell was I thinking?" And then the right one comes along and you just know. You can't explain it but it's not like that 'other time' with the crazy nut job you loved before.
I am not making fun just want you to know that if someone really had the answer to this question there would be no divorce. For those that marry young and stay married they are the lucky ones. And don't be fooled by people who are married a long time. That doesn't mean they were happy all of those years. It just means they stayed and worked at it.
And there are happy couple don't get me wrong. But a lot of work goes into a relationship. It will be the hardest and most wonderful thing you ever do if and when you meet the right person. Sometimes you just know and sometimes you are taking a chance. Talk to couples that are married and comfortable telling the truth. It can be a real eye opener. I think if people were more honest about their own relationships they could help others make informed decisions. Good luck to you! |
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Because you haven't finished growing as a person. |
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*. Bre Babe .*
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not stable emotionally and financially and haven't experienced life. |
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Lucy
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You must be young. |
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faceless
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because younger people fall in and out of love more than they clean their cars out |
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Robert
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Simple - you don't know yourself yet. Personalities aren't formed until later in life. Once you know yourself, you can then make a smart decision about who you want to spend the rest of your life with and recognize that person when you meet them. If you don't know who you are yet, or worse yet, neither of you know yourselves, you could very well be staring at a stranger in 10 years. |
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Jessica Lauren
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Because our brains are not fully formed and we most likely have not known the person we are marrying very long if we are very young. |
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Michael M
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Its not stupid. The younger you marry, the younger you will be when you get divorced. You still might be a hot commodity after your divorce, and not old with baggage. |
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Ian A
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Well it is certainly stupid to not be able to drink at the reception. But honestly, no, personally, I am not sure... because i am in a similar situation. |
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Wendy35 loves Hot Firemen!!
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My Mum got married at17 & she has had more affairs than Liz Taylor has been married & divorced |
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nelly
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It depends on how young you are talking. I would say like teens or early twentys is too young simply because we are not equipped to deal with everything marriage comes with. We may think we are at that age but when it comes to the day to day struggles you just are not ready for it. Children are hard to raise especially when you are still in essence a child yourself. At that age the world is so new and wonderful to you and you may think you are in love and want everything that comes with it the responsibility and the challenges but in a couple years you will find yourself drowning in stress and regret for the time you should have spent discovering yourself. |
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Steve from PA
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Because most ppls maturity level and life experience are still green... |
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Paige Due 10/28/09
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It isn't stupid.
I, for one, am 18 years old and married to a 21 year old. We have known each other 9 years and we love each other more than everything in the world combined and multiplied by a million.
It isn't stupid, as long as you are ready for the commitment. And I am, we're having a baby. |
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♫ Mad Luv ♫
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it's not stupid!
but it's not smart either! or i can't find the right word not thought out enought in adult mindset! anyone getting married below 25 i think is too young hey my personal opinion can't say i woudn't of did it if that came up but i'm almost sure i woudln't of did that!
Love shouldn't have an age but if love is so perfect then why rush!
I personally feel when people rush to get married they are scared someone else might come in the photo!
why not put love to the test! and be together with out the paperwork and hold it out till you can't stand it anymore!
then the other side! can you imagine having a real 50 year anniversary! awww
i mean i'm 30 i'll be 31 when we do this thing and i have to wait till i'm 80 years old to have a 50 eyar! wow
but i think people get married young and then end up missing out on something! so why not if love is so true just wait!
this is coming from me who watned to wait 2 years after being asked to get married! |
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Christy S
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Its not. The younger you are though the more indecisive you are. Plus your options are limited afterwards. My husband and I have been married since we were 16. We went through some hard times. But after a little while we are great. Were 27 now and happy. Plus we had kids early so we will still be young enough to party when theyre grown. |
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d k
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Since you don't state your age, I'll generalize. When you're 18-21, you really haven't seen enough of life to make a life long commitment. You have limited ability to see the consequences of your actions and most likely haven't lived on your own automously. After that, it seems most people should be able to make lucid decisions. Just be aware it's not just you that has to be mature but also your partner. |
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SummerS
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I wouldn't say it's always the stupid thing to do, but these days people simply don't commit like they used to. When your young chances are you haven't 'found' yourself yet. As you age and mature things about you change. It's best to get to know what it is you really need in someone than think you need in someone. Maturity is key in making more wise decisions about everything. Unfortunately most of this wisdom does come from experience and regrets. |
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smiley
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because there is so much more to life than just been married, life is a Challenge you meet different people and guys, you go out and have fun, wen u married you sit at home , have babies while you still a baby.. no need to rush, then there is divorce after marriage shud things dont work out.. lots of things to explore, first grow up then you will understand. |
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Molly
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It's not always stupid. But Robert said it best. I've heard you change so much in your 20s and you still have so much growing to do. You may not fully know yourself yet. I'm less than a month away from 20, and I know I'm in no position to get married now, or even two years from now. I'm not ready for marriage-- I haven't fully grown up yet, and I can recognize that I don't fully know myself. |
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Happily Married to my Prince!
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Because you're not as mature. Personally, if a couple wants to get married and they're independent adults (18+) than I'm not going to say anything. I know plenty of older, supposedly more mature couples who get married and still end up divorced. |
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Chances68
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I don't know that it is. It's risky, in some cases, but it's worked out very well, in other cases. I was married at the age of 19, and here I am, twenty years later, still married to the same girl, and still loving it. |
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Shannon
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You're not emotionally mature enough to handle it.
Marriage leads to children. If you marry young you still want to put off children until you are much more stable. Marrying young because a child is on the way is virtually hopeless in terms of long-term success.
It's like having to lift 250lb weights everyday all day long - you simply cannot do it if you're only 16; it will exhaust you and eventually you blame your partner for not sharing the load (this is the emotional immaturity - its not something you exactly choose to do - it's how you /feel/).
Now even if you build up to the point you can handle it, it is too late the damage is done; you have stopped loving your spouse and eventually you will quit (divorce).
And, like working out to get stronger, you have to make a conscious effort to practice if you want to improve. Think about what you need to do to make your SO happier and you need practice restraining yourself when you are angry to avoid saying and doing hurtful things. |
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mindy
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When you're young do have so much to learn about the person you're with. Even if you've been with them for quite some time. You also haven't gone to college yet and moved on to that next step in you're life. A good age to get married is when you're through with school or when you're in your mid twenties. |
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Magic 8 Ball (Call me BILF)
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Because you have to be together so much longer than if you marry older. |
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Cutedervish
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not necessarily though... |
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Miss Death At Your Service
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I dont think so at all.
I want to get married EARLY not later when Im 30 or 28.
Im thinking about 21. :D
Not stupid at all. |
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