Why is it that when a woman gets involved with a married man......?

charlesjerrell

years ago, women werent as open as they are now, it was always the mans fault, but now the women are or worse then the men ever thought to be,to sum it all up in a nut shell, there is no love in the world today, its all lust, and that never works for long

Flower Girl

I never assume the woman is innocent! If she knows about the wife she is just as guilty as the man!

Baby Nolan arrived Apr 18, 2009!

I personally have never heard anyone say that---I've heard people say that his *wife* deserves better, but never his mistress.

Jess

I've never heard that before! I think if a woman gets involved with a married man she is just at fault as the man is. Sure she doesn't have much to lose, but she's still very very wrong for doing that.

iluvwoman

Most women get involved with married men because they like the stability that he shows. Being married and usually a Father, he has shown and taken some responsibility. Women like that in a man. Married women usually go for a married guy because he shows them interest that their husbands no longer do. It is looked at by society that the "married man" seduced the woman. Unfortunately, that is the way people think. Same with the married women that cheat, it always seems to be the fault of the married person, because people see them as more responsible.

Mr. Vincent Van Jessup

I have never heard anyone say that. Far more often, I hear your POV echoed by male and female alike, in the cry "HOMEWRECKER!" Everyone considers w oman cheating with a married man a tart. Never heard "You deserve better." I've heard "You deserve what you get."

fox_maple

They are talking about the man's wife....not his mistress!

Bill

It's not that they're innocent...it's that they're selling themselves short. In essence, they're going after someone else's scraps instead of finding their own full meal.

Do they deserve what they get? Yes. It's just plain wrong.

cobrasnake

When a woman get involved with a married man,she knows already;what she will be expecting of that wrong relationship,in the first place.She knows the man is married,so,she never can expect something good of that wrong relationship.Good question.She can have a good relationship with a single man.Why to choose a married man?

drewxjacobs

If a woman willingly allows herself to become involved with a married man, she is as big a cheat as he is, maybe more so. I say this because if she is single she has a greater pool from which to choose a companion. The married man on the other hand has a much smaller selection as half of his selection of potentials have been eliminated by (1) those who will screw around with another woman's husband and (2) those who will not.

Shame on both of them as they are both committing adultery. No one is the victim here except the man's poor wife and family.

JJK789

sooo true. and even then, doesn't she realize that if he is so willing to cheat on his wife with her.. in the end if it works out the way she wants it to and she gets her man. couldn't he just as easily cheat on her? foolishness.. on both sides..

knowledgeable1

u r definitely right...women r as guilty as the men and they should b held accountable 4 their action, or suffer the same wrong doing later on in their lives

Darby

Well, I wouldn't say that. I'd be more like, "She's going to get what she is looking for." Another way of saying, a lot of worrying, wondering, doubt, turmoil, uncertainty. Maybe that's what the other people are saying as well. A woman who sees a married man is not an innocent. My son met a woman on the Internet and she's tracking him like a coon hound on the scent of prey.

getmymackon

Interesting question.

Like everything else in life it is human to make assumptions, and yes you are right not all women are innocent and deserve everything that's coming to them.

SuperVibrationalEscrow

Even when you do somethig dumb to yourself, you deserve better than what you dished up. Doesn't mean you didn't see it coming or that you weren't totally the blame for what happened. We are all responsible for the stupid choices that we make, but that doesn't mean we don't deserve better. When I have said a woman who dates a married man deserves better, what I mean is that she has carved out a place for herself where she will always be second best. She has selected a place where she has no rights and can be dropped like a hot biscuit whenever he's done using her up. So sure, she deserves better than that, but she won't get better unless she straightens up and starts making better choices for herself.

Julianna

Because they are her friends ( the people who say that) and they don't want to offend her by telling her what a filthy ,disgusting $lut she is and what she really deserves. Personally, I don't think those women deserve better. If you try to break up someone's family and cause suffering to the wife and kids you deserve to suffer too.

CammyB

Women who have affairs with married men don't deserve better and they must not have enough respect for women (as a whole). I find it disgusting.

Now What?!!

I agree with you and I don't say that she deserves better. I think when a female deals with a married man is because she is insecure, selfish and weak. Until she realizes she deserves better, she will continue in the relationship. Also karma is a b***h and she will reap what she sows.

is life really hell in Hell?

What if both cheating parties are married? Then what? And, just listen to all the " high and mighty better than you " answerers we seem to have attracted to this question...

tammy

A WOMAN HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH A MARRIED MAN , KNOWINGLY, DESERVES ALL THE MISERY SHE GETS AND MORE. IT MAY BE A GREAT EGO BOOST FOR THESE VERY SELFISH WOMEN,BUT IN THE END NOTHING GOOD COMES OF IT.

Misheee!

I don't think a woman who gets involved with a married man deserves better simply because she put herself in that situation and if she doesn't think she deserves better, then she must not. But on the other hand I also don't think she is as wrong as the man. The man should be the one who cares enough about his wife not to cheat on her or at least get a divorce before he does, if the relationship is dead. I always see women getting mad at the "other woman" when they should be mad at their man.

#1NAN

You know what assume does?it makes an *** out of U and me.HA-smile.You hit the nail on the head.

Tibbar

It seems clear to me that you have been talking with the wrong people. When a husband cheats, I say the girlfriend and the husband deserve each other! The wife is the injured party here.

Cheating isn't the way to go! Desrespectful. The husband should at least have respect enough for the person he married to get a divorce.

â™¥Ti Amoâ™¥

Well I do not think that is the case, people who say that to the mistress are usually friends of hers or family. You can hate the woman who knows that he is married that is wrong but the husband is the one married and he should know better

vicki m

I am not saying that she is right but shouldn't the married man know better he was the one that took and made the vows.... he should be the no to say not or not let it happen and the same would go if it was a married women.

The other person involved has no morales cuz if they would never git involved in the first place.

It always takes 2 and the married one should be the one saying no, and you are right they desirve to have it happen to them

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