Why is my husband all of a sudden starting to work out and wanting to go out with his buddies?

mellie

I'd be cautious, but let him go. He's probably just wanting to better himself. You should "invite" yourself to meet up with them and see what's up.
I'd approach this with caution, as this could be good or bad. But you have to trust him. The real warning signs are not coming home when he says he will, or starts getting weird phone calls. But if he's open and honest with you, hopefully he is just really hanging with the guys. But I wouldn't give him grief until he doesn't answer your call while he's out, or comes home much later than he said.

nuppaluppagus

Could be a midlife crisis.

Mrs Libra

Sounds like he is cheating.

He probably is seeing another woman and not really going out with his buddies.

He is using going out drinking with his buddies as a cover story.

YourLaHire

Try to go to the gym with him and maybe ask where he is going out and spontaneously drop in while out shopping. If that fails, good luck. If you ever need anyone to talk to, we will be here.

Just breathe.

Beginning of a mid-life crisis?

Meghan B

Maybe he's cheating on you and those are his excuses.
I would keep an eye out.

sheloves_dablues

I don't usually jump to conclusions, but I've seen this happen and it usually doesn't end well. Sorry.

everythingspeachy2000

TALK to him and see. Tell him how you feel quietly and sanely and tell him you have been kind of restless and maybe you can go on little weekend trip !

He just might need some space too. You can't be joined at the hip 24/7 all your life...it is suffocating to do that. You have a lifetime together...he might just need some breathing room! Do you trust him? Have you ever had to doubt him before?

Does he answer your calls when you call him?

Talk to him and don't speculate. You need to communicate your fears and see how he acts and what he says.

TALK to him.....

Ant

Mid life crisis maybe?

NAILZZ

Dont Panic, could be innocent. But do be concerned that something is lacking or missing in your relationship. Talk to him, when he goes out with the guys, have a girls night out. An occasional night out is a good thing but if it becomes routine and you're not welcomed then listen to your instincts.

love is happiness

Try talking to him about it first before jumping to any conclusion. Tell him its sorta bothering you that this is all of the sudden and out of his usual patern. See what he has to say?
If he avoids the question or the talk then i would start to worry but if he has a reasonable answer then ask him if he would mind if you joined the gym with him and maybe you guys can start a workout program together.

White Hare

sounds like he's on the prowl or has one on the side. You should confront him about his behavior.

lulu

i smell a RAT..)

the govenor

mid life crisis, that does not necesarily mean hes cheating on you though. But it also could lead to that. And you dont have to be at ur mid life point to have one. honestly if I were you Id ask questions, theres a reason for everything

treasure

He may have met someone he is trying to impress.

Dark side

My husband used to do that all the time. It turned out he was just bored and wanted to be out of the house. Then he got a second job and now he's happy. He said he just needs to feel like he's doing something.

Stinky F

You have either turned him gay or he has a girlfriend.

danelle

Honestly? I wouldn't worry about it too much. Sometimes, we reach a certain age where we want to "go back to being young and single". I would encourage him to get out and have fun with the guys.

Another option if you actually want him home more? Crack his beer open, turn on ESPN, and plan a "couples night" on your couch. It's been 10 years, baby. When is the last time you acted like you were "dating"?

It wouldn't hurt to ask him why, though. Sometimes, you can read a man's face and know what his intentions are. I wouldn't ask it in an "accusing" manner. He could decided to start staying out more.

It makes him sound like a child but, maybe he will "get over it"?

Molly

Two things could be happening. One, he may have decided that he needs to get in shape and get some friends outside of just you and your marriage. Maybe he feels like he needs to expand his world. Second, he is toning up to attract some hot other woman.

Dadintrouble

it could mean alot of things, However one thing is sure he is wanting to improve himself.. but you need to understand why and it is regarding the marriage then fix it now.

555logs

I don't think there is another woman but, he may be trying to get back to where he was when he was younger. Guys miss those days and start doing strange stuff when they begin to miss out on all the things they used to do. But if you sense any stretch of the truth I would begin to wonder what is going on. The 10 year mark is hard! I am at the 10 year mark also and speaking from experience, I have never cheated nor would I but there are some things in my past that I did before marriage & kids that I really want to go out and do again. I think its normal especially when you see others going out and having fun and you want to be there instead of home listening to Windows Media Player pretending to be a DJ and getting drunk just to say you had some fun.

Its normal I wouldn't worry! (Speaking from a guys perspective)

Cerberus

And so the decay of love everlasting crumbles at your feet. Why don't you ask him, not us?

lady9780

Three possibilities: he is cheating, gay, or having a mid-life crisis.

snethentown

It is perfectly natural for men to seek out the comradery of other men especially after long droughts of no male contact. Unfortunately most women see such desire as a reflection of them rather than an evolutionary habit. Look through his perspective and you will see it is simply a good time and a change of pace. He does not love you any less.

I AM Troll

because he is interested in scoping out a few prospects

RockHound

It doesn't necessarily mean anything but he wants physical activity and he wants to be healthier. I know I went through that.. Never, ever even thought of cheating..

David F

Maybe he feels like finally getting in shape, and he also is bored with sitting around the house and wants some new scenery.

Call me crazy, but sometimes people feel like doing something new in their lives.

Paranoia will destroy ya.

Tania

Try talking to him first. Listen to what he has to say and you listen what he has to say. If he really loves you he'll change for the best. Though if that doesn't work out try counseling. Maybe if my parents tryed that they'd probably still be married.

Art Fay from Monterey

Whats her name?

Gypsy Girl

You should go out with your girlfriends. Even happily married couples need some time apart.

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