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Why is this inappropriate behavior acceptable?

I was out with my fiance (we've been together 5 years) and his friends. One of his friends unbuttoned and zipped down his pants and grinded his crotch in my face while my head was pinned against a wall. My boyfriend just stood there, right next to us and watched, I guess he thought it was funny. I was furious and left. I am so angry with my fiance for doing nothing. He stated that I should've defended myself. I am sick over this that he would just watch this happen. How can someone I've been with for five years, let his friend do this, and then tell me that I am being overdramatic by not liking this?
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Not that it makes much of a difference, but his privates were still underneath his boxers......


    




jude
your man is a coward, this kind of behavior is never acceptable and it was his job to protect u, and he chose not to, he instead chose to label it as nothing. no women would like this, and he should have most definitely respond to this guy, and didn't, just a coward. his morals aren't what yours are, and maybe u need to take another look at this man and see him for who he is.


mrs
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why didn't you punch him in the nuts?!


Annie
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He has no respect for you, get out while you still are able.


Sara
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lol
nice group of friends he's got there.

he is an *******


Mmm, forbidden donut
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Wow, I'd leave him if I were you. What a puss! If a friend did that to my wife, I'd break his nose. You can't let that kind of crap just slide.


Sweet T
um.... thats gross and i too would be pissed off if my fiance wasnt upset his friends did that to me


Iris Q
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dump him, dump him now! thats f*cked up! apparently he digs his friends more than you. how can a grown man let that happen? most of the people i know would not stand for this. thats messed up! i say leave.


♥☆Mrs. Rose☆♥
I would have punched him in the balls! That's gross! I hope he didn't have herpes.


Torrent
he's trying to get you to break up with him.

he doesn't have the balls to do it himself.

No pun intended.


Here Kitty Kitty!!!
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I am not saying this right what the guy did was right, however so many people turn away, or walk away in your case. The situation was never handled properly. If something as deeming as that would have occurred to me then I would physically and literally nipped that right in the bud right then and there.

Can you say "Lorena Bobbit"


Almost♥Perfect
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Why didn't you punch him there?
The guy in your face?
You have to defend yourself. You need no white knight.
I would have and then I would have knocked the hell out of the fiance.
You deserve better.


verylongway2go
i think u should of pushed him off but ur fiance should of done something ur right, i mean it doesnt seem like he cares enough i mean ur still his fiance and its been 5yrs and he does this...idk if it was me it would be a sign


Heather C
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Oh my God! Drop the guy now! If he won't defend you against his friends with something so horrible, then he's going to be worthless when bigger things pop up. He and his friends really sound like they haven't grown up yet.


Joe R
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Even after 5 years together, he'll let someone demean you in that way for a good laugh. Bottom line - he doesn't respect you. You can guess what your future holds in store for you if you marry him. Get out while you can.

P.S. You new details don't change anything. Using alcohol as an excuse is no excuse. Your marriage will be a three-way marriage between you, your fiance, and alcohol. You can expect more of the same.


laplandfan
If that had been my husband he's have punched a bloke doing that to me.
I find it hard to understand why your boyfriend did not react because he should have done.
What they all did was totally disrespectful to you and i would demand an apology!


Zachary C
this is extremely inappropriate i mean for any man to put his "jock" in YOUR face that is unbelievably wrong! i think you should have a talk with him although, that wont change the fact that he did that to you... maybe it will stop it from happening in the future? who knows?


Discovery
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No, any partner, who loved their girlfriend, would have punched that guy out. Beaten him to a pulp, ripped his nuts off and beaten them into his face.
The fact your partner didn't, AND thinks you are uptight, shows he doesnt give a **** about you. Stop for one second and swap the situation, your friend grinding her hoochie in your bf's face. you would have ripped her hair out and disfigured her for life - why? cause you love the boy and that is not acceptable.
Im sorry. but. its not ok and he let it happen. I wouldnt be with a guy like that. Its not ok. Can you look at him, thinking that, and think you might one day be the mother of his children? No. He's got to go and you got to find a better man.


Gee
Why is this inappropriate behavior acceptable?


Perhap's you need a better class of friends & fiance because it has never been "acceptable" in my world. While obviously the fault lies with your fiance & his friends, there is a certain immaturity factor on your part that puts you in a location where something like this is co called "acceptable".


VickyGeez
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I'd dump him lol. Didnt take much for me to dump my X-fiance of 5 years. I gave him back his rings, people change and I realised that. I still talk to him regularly but I'm engaged with someone else and were happyer then hell.


loves christmas lights
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And you are considering him your boy friend. Hun, theres no relationship here. This could of been planned out to get to break up with him. Next time choose someone that is a gentleman, I think you thought there was much more to your relationship than there really ever was. Im sorry.


Anonymous
imagine how your fiance may act when you're not around..
everyone has a friend that's a complete douchebag but for him to "try" your fiance by doing that to you right in front of him.. and then for him to just laugh.. that is so disrespectful. personally i would have punched him in the face. i don't think that's funny in any way.. it's juvenile and even a little scary, what kind of guy does **** like that?
you need to have a serious heart to heart with your man... a good husband does not allow his wife to be treated that way.


JP
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Nice friends, your bf needs some balls. I would have put that a hole though the wall.


gina
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Your fiance is lucky that I'm not you, he'd have one less nut. Think twice about marrying him, his reaction to this humiliating act is not acceptable.





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