Why won't women these days even look at you when you are out of work?

Mum of1

if ur not working due to the recession then these women wouldnt look at u no matter what becos those girls want u buy them all material goods, ie. parada bag, timmy choo shoes, dinners out, drinks and holidays. they dont care about anybody feelings, just out to get what they want regardless of who they hurt along the way. if u cant buy them dinner or teddy or any designer gear then not worth to be looked at. but maybe should look at dif areas, try dif approach at meeting women becos u seem pick the golddiggers all the time, but not all woman are like that, there actually women who would simply wear casual clothes, they dont want designer gear nor the dinners out all the time.
my bf dont work he is in education and training to better himself and i didnt turn him away because has no money, we are happy been students together. i dont work but am student so no none us lazy slobs like most like to call us, im bettering myself to be something more in future. we eat take aways for treat instead meal in fancy place, we have cheap nights out and can hardly buy new clothes but we have our health, happness and our future together, we facing the hard times right now and when the good times come along we be glad of staying put and not ignoring each other becos neither us worked.
look else where for a woman and goodluck, remember not to paint all the women with the same brush, cheers!!!

astutewoman

Meeting someone unemployed is way different than already establishing a relationship then someone loses a job...just like anything else (eg would you date a woman with horrible scars down her face to the point she barely had any recognizable characteristics?)... probably not.. but if you met and fell in love and then she had an accident, if you are a stand up guy, you would not leave her...

So, look, heres the deal - a woman may not care how much you make - but if you make zero - that tells her you are lazy and to expect not a heck of a lot from you in OTHER areas of the relationship that require work and effort too.. so its not all about financial... a consistently unemployed person is just lazy - and who wants to sign up for that?

And I am not trying to bag on you.. I am just giving you a broader perspective...

Jasmine

This is what happened with the last 2 guys I met.

I was using an online dating site and I specifically said that the guy MUST have a job but I don't mind what the job was.

I attracted a bunch of guys, none of whom worked.

The first guy said he had a job. I later found out that he did FOR A BRIEF WHILE, frying chips....OK, I had said that "I don't mind what job it is" so I couldn't moan about the chips. However he then said he was jacking in that job to go back to college to do a "personality course" (WTF is that anyway?). This guy was 32.

The second guy I tried with was almost 40, a little older than I wanted, but he seemed OK. Turned out he was a mooch too. Two kids, was on benefits, spent all his days with his puppy so had no time to go to work (I'm not lying). He was also in the process of applying for a council house...sorry but for a guy of 40 with kids, that's just cr*p.

I spent years supporting an ex because he could not find a job, only for him to turn around and move another woman into the home that I helped him pay for..that is why I have zero tolerance for men who do not go to work.

Unless you've got some awful illness or disability, why the hell can't people work?

Gloâ˜…

You are certainly over generalizing. Not all females think this way. perhaps you should look at who and where you are meeting these females. You after all are the one choosing to speak them.

Count Duckula

a guy who isn't working and isn't studying just seems like a leech to me. i have my own money and i enjoy spending what i have with my partner, and he feels the same. but if only one of you is paying for everything because one is too lazy to get a job, then the relationship won't work.

i don't respect those who have no reason to be out of work, and yet don't work.

*EDIT* and girls like to be treated once in a while... a teddy here, an occasional dinner out... if you refuse to treat your girl like a princess because you would rather stay at home all day doing nothing then you're a pretty bad boyfriend.

my partner and i don't have a lot, but what we do have is spent on, and with, each other.

GMAN

i worked since i was 15 and half and never had a day off then in feb i was made redundent because of the crap going on at the moment so how dare anyone say that people on the dole are lazy. i am trying to get work 24/7 but there is nothing out there.

Mrs P

In defense of you if you are looking for work and can't find a job there is nothing wrong with that! Yes, many women are all about money and your job status and what you can buy them but not all of us. I married my husband when he wasn't Working and due to the economy he still canâ€™t find work. He is a hard worker, no lazy he just canâ€™t find a job and many people are in this situation. So to hell with women who ignore you! But if you are not working due to being lazy and not looking for work that is different!

januckey

It's safe to assume you're going to break up ANYWAY when she gets stressed from trying to take care of EVERYTHING because she's the only one paying bills "Bob". If my man got laid off and was actually looking for a job and pounding the pavement with no luck, then I'll support him as much as I could.I would and have dated men who weren't rich by any means and didn't work AWESOME jobs, because they were genuine, good, and honest hardworking men. I don't need a sugar daddy or a rich man. I need someone who IS trying however, and isn't afraid to work. When I leave for work in the morning, he damn well better be too. Not laying in the bed and waiting for me to come home with my paycheck. As for women wanting men just for money, you are sadly mistaken. (There are some gold diggers out there, but that's your choice as a man if that's the type of woman you're habitually drawn to, and I suggest that that's YOUR problem. You need to rethink what type of women you date in that case.) I make my own money, and pay my OWN bills, and have been since I was 17. If being richt were the only requirement for a mate, then women would rarily EVER date anyone or get married, because the truth of the matter is that most men I've come across didn't have anymore than I do. But as it were, there is ALWAYS a job that needs to be done somewhere that you can get paid for. Those fries at McDonalds won't fry themselves. Is it a job you WANT? Absolutely not. But is it A job that will help pay SOME of the bills that roll in EVERY month by the way? Yes. Work whatever job you can find until you get a better one. There's no excuse for sitting on your as* and then being mad and defensive when a girl who IS working and taking care of her responsibilities doesn't want to add to them by taking care of YOU.

bored_and_fat

why are u blaming women for ur financial problems and state in life? thats gonna eat u up, man. u got to change ur thinking.

no woman is gonna go for an unemployed man. why? cos we dont want to do all the f**kin cookin, cleaning and the rest, and on top of that, have a bum lying around brooding at home. women want a man who can earn a living. hardly makes us 'golddiggers,' and its not like u lot dont have any expectations of us, is it.

u do your bit, they will do theirs. u dont pull ur weight, dont be surprised if they drop like flies. and who can blame them.

life is harsh, least u realise that, but stop making urself victim. we are all in the same boat. how u deal with it is key. financial troubles? find another job.

the recession and 'perpetuation of broken families' is not women's fault either. f**ks sake, chill out

Clarissa

Basic law of natural selection....

sheloves_dablues

How many women do you have in your life that you expect to support you, Bob?

IF.. I were not the breadwinner in my family and we lost our only source of income, I'd look for work.

The rest of us only have one spouse, and what we choose to do as a couple is none of your concern.

teresa j

i guess guys out of work sometimes seem a bit defeated to me. what's the purpose?? are they keeping themselves busy or just sleeping till noon and watching tv all day?? there are many variables and many are nothing to do with finanaces.

Atalanta

Look at the human condition -
It has always been the man's job to woo the woman. It has been so since the stone age. And before.
he has to have something to offer her.
The man who has the most to offer ( that is not always money) is the one the woman prefers.
What a man may have to offer:
Good looks
Tallness and good physique
A sense of humour
Knowledge of the best way to treat a woman
Sympathy
A good listener
A prestige position in the world - film star, aristocrat
A lovely house
Maybe money

And if you haven't got any of those, no wonder you can't attract an attractive woman

Jc J

Casue they are only init for the money.. they don't care what u look like as long as you bring in the big bucks... nothins' changed...

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